ghost of ex's past haunting me

[Kung Fu Kitty]

no,nobody should harass him back,that will only make it worse.
just act like he doesnt even exist.
if you change your number,put it in your boyfriends name...non published numbers can be bought online.

[Kallygirlie]

LOL Nats, only you!!! oh wait, no I'd prob do the same for you :P I cant put a number in his name because he cant get a phone to save his life from his own credit. Only way I got the one I have is it started as a company line that was trans to a consumer account. Sadly tho, cellphones have lost there privacy aswell. If you have the right connections, you can find even unlisted numbers. I do it everyday with my job. granted I know he could never access the right stuff so I just might work. I'm thinking just a cell # change might work. if I'm lucky he will skip this yr. Its about that time soon. around halloween is when he calls so we'll see.

[Nats]

And see thats the problem...Usually revenge is a bad thing and you can get some help, find an alternative...But if your enemy is smart, you must be smarter...It is this philosophy that kept me from being bullied into oblivion when I was younger, fatter, and weaker...

However, if you can just change your #, lets go with that...But seriously, if you change your mind...

[Little]

This is harassment, this guy is a stalker. You have to take criminal action against him.
Answer his call ONE more time and say in clear words:
"You are stalking me and this is harassment. Do not contact me in any way anymore."
Hang up, and then don't answer ANY calls that you don't know the number from. Doesn't matter if your phone rings all day. If it's somebody else, they'll leave a message if it's important.
Call the cops. Get a case going. If he ALWAYS calls you, you'll eventually get him. Don't let him know what you're doing. Any call you don't know, report to the police and have them track. Save copies of any email, any text, anything. You're building a case against this guy, not ignoring him and hoping he goes away.
Don't tell yourself they can't serve him, don't tell yourself he'll never stop contacting. Think objectively about all this guy has done JUST since your breakup! Showing up uninvited at your home because you wouldn't answer the phone? Stalker. DANGEROUS stalker. With a shady past. You're putting yourself in danger just by associating with him, and none of us here want that for you.
Now let us know what your course of action has been! Changing your number would be a good one too, but it won't guarantee he doesn't get it ... unfortunately. I'm a consequence-driven person, so letting him get off scot-free doesn't sit well with me anyhow It's your decision, and currently you are deciding to LET him harass you and stalk you. Choose not to let him, in your own way.

[Nats]

This is harassment, this guy is a stalker. You have to take criminal action against him.
Answer his call ONE more time and say in clear words:
"You are stalking me and this is harassment. Do not contact me in any way anymore."
Hang up, and then don't answer ANY calls that you don't know the number from. Doesn't matter if your phone rings all day. If it's somebody else, they'll leave a message if it's important.
Call the cops. Get a case going. If he ALWAYS calls you, you'll eventually get him. Don't let him know what you're doing. Any call you don't know, report to the police and have them track. Save copies of any email, any text, anything. You're building a case against this guy, not ignoring him and hoping he goes away.
Don't tell yourself they can't serve him, don't tell yourself he'll never stop contacting. Think objectively about all this guy has done JUST since your breakup! Showing up uninvited at your home because you wouldn't answer the phone? Stalker. DANGEROUS stalker. With a shady past. You're putting yourself in danger just by associating with him, and none of us here want that for you.
Now let us know what your course of action has been! Changing your number would be a good one too, but it won't guarantee he doesn't get it ... unfortunately. I'm a consequence-driven person, so letting him get off scot-free doesn't sit well with me anyhow It's your decision, and currently you are deciding to LET him harass you and stalk you. Choose not to let him, in your own way.

Listen to her...music to my ears...

[Kallygirlie]

See he knows I'll answer the phone if he blocks the number because he knows i always wanna be there for anyone who needs me. of like the last time I was expected a NC # and he called from MN. I've already checked into the restraining order and they are the ones that told me he moves so often that he cant be served. I dont know about where you all live but around here, if they are not threatening with physical harm the cops just give you the run around. He cant be found, the # is a pay phone or under someone elses name. Like the legal avenue hasn't worked with either the harassment or the idenity theft

[Little]

If the cops won't help you, let them know they are responsible for helping you anyways. Be the complaining customer, you PAY for them to have their jobs with your taxes and they are REFUSING to help you. This is a man who has sexually abused you in the past and he won't stop contacting you. Get a lawyer, maybe there's one in your area who will work pro-bono. Get angry! Get proactive!

[Kung Fu Kitty]

See he knows I'll answer the phone if he blocks the number because he knows i always wanna be there for anyone who needs me. of like the last time I was expected a NC # and he called from MN. I've already checked into the restraining order and they are the ones that told me he moves so often that he cant be served. I dont know about where you all live but around here, if they are not threatening with physical harm the cops just give you the run around. He cant be found, the # is a pay phone or under someone elses name. Like the legal avenue hasn't worked with either the harassment or the idenity theft

well,i hate to say this,but perhaps you should say he threatened you if you cant get help any other way.