How do guys think their partners should show they care?

**kms** · 10-10-2009 07:51 PM

Hi everyone,

It's been a long few days and I'm tired, so I apologize if the title isn't succintly worded. I read a recent thread asking the ladies what they do to show their love and appreciation for their partners. As I read, I wondered what the guys' reactions were to these things - did they notice all these nice things being done for them? Did they 'get' the intention behind it? Or, would they rather their girlfriends do something entirely different instead?

I ask this because I do many of the same things for my SO as the posters mentioned in that thread (cleaning/organizing his stuff, surprising him with food that he likes, playing with his hair, massaging him when he's stressed, BJs, trying to look 'cute', dropping everything to listen to him when he needs to talk, etc.). I'm assuming the BJs are popular, but what about the other things? Guys, how would you like your gf to share her love for you? Ladies, how does your bf respond to your efforts?

Thoughts? Responses?

**baja** · 10-10-2009 08:53 PM

Well, I can say you covered a lot of my personal favs. Hmmm, I would add playing sports together. Jogging, tennis, going to the gym together is fun. Seeing her in athletic wear... oh yea ... and getting her sweaty even better!

**dr.mansview** · 10-10-2009 09:56 PM

by baking me my favourite dessert at least once a month (boston cream pie) and keeping the snoring to a minimum during sex

**caterpillar79** · 10-10-2009 11:21 PM

Originally Posted by dr.mansview

snoring to a minimum during sex

Snoring during sex?

What the...?

Really, did a girl sleep on you while you were doing her, doc?

**AloneNtheCrowd** · 10-11-2009 09:06 AM

LOL, I think I started thread you were talking about KMS... To answer your question, I'd like any of the stuff mentioned on that thread since my GF doesn't really do any of that

Actually the whole thread serverly depressed me lol!

**caterpillar79** · 10-11-2009 09:13 AM

Originally Posted by AloneNtheCrowd

LOL, I think I started thread you were talking about KMS... To answer your question, I'd like any of the stuff mentioned on that thread since my GF doesn't really do any of that

Actually the whole thread serverly depressed me lol!

I'm so sorry to know that, Alone. You can do the cross reference here by adding that link since it's from WH, so it's OK.

Have you communicated it to her? It's sad that you guys can't get the satisfaction that you need. I am very keen into satisfying my fiance's needs and so I keep my eyes peeled and my ears open all the time. When he shares his fantasies, I try to make them happen if I could (just not threesomes or anal, ok - lol).

Talking about your needs and wants is a must. If you're not getting it in your relationship, yours is doomed to rut or failure.

**caterpillar79** · 10-11-2009 09:16 AM

I didn't YOURS AloneNthe Crowd. I meant generally. I am afraid that all couples face this issue, including me and my SO. It hurts when we fail to understand each other. It's a dance of life and we should always be in the right rhythm together - in-sync as we could be. Good luck.

**AloneNtheCrowd** · 10-11-2009 09:49 AM

Thanks Caterpillar79 for the kind words and support!

I'm working on communicating... I just feel more and more like she's just along for the ride, and to say Hey I've got a man, but doesn't really care about me... anyway that sob story could be a whole other thread on it's own! Life goes on

Thanks again though!

**kms** · 10-11-2009 10:52 PM

oh ok alone - so you started it! I think I might be in the opposite situation, hence my curiosity lol. I too do all of the things mentioned in the thread but often my actions don't seem to be appreciated much... or if it is, it's not verbalized at least. That's why I wondered if perhaps guys want something else.... It definitely sucks though to be with someone who seems like they're just 'along for the ride' and not really into you personally. I feel for you...

**AloneNtheCrowd** · 10-12-2009 10:46 AM

LOL! thanks KMS...wow I feel like I'm whinning too much these days

To clarify, I'm not 100% sure I'm right about my GF, she maybe emotionally shut down from previous relationships, and guarded about giving out/doing things for a man. Or she may not know how due to her upbringing(a very possible theory)... she does do somethings like buy me gifts on B-day or holidays... sorry if I'm being a downer everyone