My fiance doesnt initiate sex

[Pokahontaki]

I`ve been living a guy for seven months. The sex is very good when we have it and i am the one who initiates it. He does it sometimes, but only when we wants to start with oral sex. It hurts. I take care of my appearance, wear sexy underwear in bed, he says i am beautiful, but does nothing. I do not know what to do. He says i am making a problem where threre isnt any. i am 32, he is 33.What do u think?

[caterpillar79]

Maybe he has a low sex drive. Does he masturbate a lot? If this is the case, ask him to reserve some for you.

[Pokahontaki]

He says he is satisfied with our sex life. We have it about once a week. What bothers me is that i find porn on his comp almost every day.

[caterpillar79]

He says he is satisfied with our sex life. We have it about once a week. What bothers me is that i find porn on his comp almost every day.

OK. He has porn addiction and he probably masturbates on those as well. Leaving you with the last juice to squeeze. I am sorry to learn about this. Your man has to realize that it is important that he share this with you as frequent as you need it.

Have you sat him down and aired your laundry? He must know. If you have told him, and he is not proactive about it, you have to think if this is what you want. Are you going to put up with his cr*p?

[AloneNtheCrowd]

Yeah maybe he should lay off of the porn... also He my be.."shy" well that's not the right word, but some guys may want it, but don't know how to smoothly initiate it. I've had that problem in the past... after seven months he should know you are ready and willing though. Have you ever rejected him or turned him down from not being in the mood? If that happens a bit, a guy may pull back and wait for you to initiate or give some really obvious hint... just some thoughts....

[Pokahontaki]

I have told him, just didnt mention i knew about the porn. It may sound as an intrusion into his privacy. At first i thought it was just a low sex dry, but how does the porn fit into it?

[Pokahontaki]

low sex drive

[caterpillar79]

I have told him, just didnt mention i knew about the porn. It may sound as an intrusion into his privacy. At first i thought it was just a low sex dry, but how does the porn fit into it?

We'll have to wait till the men in this forum gets to you. Since it's weekend, they are busy doing their stuff...*go figure.

As for me, I think his low sex drive equates to being lazy "performing" the deed. He'd rather get off just using his hand. Get the point?

How old are you both? (I think I missed that).

[caterpillar79]

Oh, I got it...so you are still young to have this issue on physiological aspects such as erectile dysfunction or such. But, you may want to look at having him checked by a specialist. He might have a medical condition that leads to his low sex drive. Just a thought.

[Pokahontaki]

i dont think he has erectile dysfunction, he can go on for hours.
We r 32 and 33. I do think he is lazy performing the act. Does it mean he doesnt find me attractive enough?