premature ejaculation

**christief** · 10-19-2009 05:14 PM

I am in a relationship with a fella who I truely love. Only thing is that he suffers from PE and I'm not being satisfied when we have sex. He can sense this and it is putting a lot of strain on our relationship. Can anyone help me?

**ThexMrs** · 10-19-2009 05:30 PM

Has he tried pleasing you first by performing oral before sex? That's always a thought. Or... He could use toys on you while performing oral and fingering all before the act itself.

**Texasred** · 10-19-2009 07:01 PM

I think several people will probably suggest that you two try engaging in extended foreplay intended to bring him to an orgasm quickly; after a rest period, when you start over, he'll easily be able to hold out, and should be able to please you thoroughly. In the process, he'll learn the self-control that will eventually make the preliminary orgasm unnecessary.
Keep in mind that sexuality is often learned, so you can help him un-learn his bad habits and develop new ones that will suit you both.
Just don't either of you be afraid to express your preferences and desires.
And good luck!

**christief** · 10-21-2009 02:19 PM

Thanks for the advice guys. Will this cure the problem or will foreplay just mask the issue?

**dr.mansview** · 10-21-2009 10:05 PM

performing oral sex on you may work but some men get extremely aroused doing this so he may ejaculate regardless..bringing him to orgasm quickly and then starting over will probably do the trick altho some men, even after 15 minutes, are ready to go as tho it was the first time..
but as "texasred" suggested try this first

**christief** · 10-27-2009 05:44 PM

The foreplay is definately helping, so thanks guys. We're now talking about it which has helped. Keep the tips coming please

**ItsASecret** · 10-27-2009 06:13 PM

Make sure your guy is willing to go again after that quick finish though. With my boyfriend he gets so aroused so quickly that he can cum in 3 thrusts and after that he says his interest in sex completely dies even after the regular refractory period. He also is completely and 100% against no condom the second time because he may still have "stuff in his pipes" (he always pulls out). I can understand his worry but I am on the pill and when we try with a condom that 2nd round he cannot get up so he gets frustrated.

So I hope your guy is totally up for round two, without any worries or frustrations. It should be the right approach to getting it to last longer.

**Mes T** · 10-27-2009 06:38 PM

He can masturbate sometime earlier in the day, that might help relieve some of the urgency.

**Antonia** · 11-01-2009 01:00 AM

Besides what was said above about prolonged foreplay, which is naturally all correct, your partner should attempt to take his mind away from the act of him getting excited. That is, when he is close to orgasm, he should think of something that does not excite him. This will delay the orgasm. He should train himself in doing so.

I know, long time ago, there were some creams applied on the glans of the penis to anaesthetise it, making it numb, to delay ejaculation.

**WildChild** · 11-01-2009 05:58 AM

Look into tantra, they have been practicing and teaching non ejaculatory orgasm for a very long time. They have proven methods of learning sexual self control while increasing the feeling of connection and intensifying and prolonging orgasm.