help!GF is awesome at turning me OFF

[qwerty989]

Hello ppl. i'm a confused guy and i could really use some advice about my gf.
So basically my gf and i have sex about several times a month whenever she comes over. There are some problems when we have sex and i do not know if its just me or its her.

1. She hates it when she gives me a BJ and i can tell as she just wants to get it over after 1-2 minutes even tho she gives a wicked BJ. She used to budge when i asked for more, now she never does it anymoRE!

2. She hates it when i goes down on her as she says its itchy and forbides me from doing so even tho i dont mind

3. We only had sex in missionary and her riding on top me. I wanted to try other positions but she simple strongly refuses

4. I wanted to try anal but whenever i finger her vagina and tries to go slightly near her anus she will get pissed off

5. Since she is not on birth control and we dont use lubricants.I wear condom but she hates it as She claims it causes friction and it hurts her vagina.

6. She NEVER allowed me to cum ANYWHERE on her which was super turned off as i always wanted to cum in her face/ mouth or even inside her

Need any advice about the issue please. Sometimes it really turns me off when we are having sex and i really hope to improve the situation!!!
PS : my gf is very stubbon and i dont think i can persuade her into making changes

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Your sexually, in-capatible... Not much you can do about it.

Although you should use lube, with a condom off course it hurts and there is friction.

Some girls see anything other than "basic sex' as dirty..

The only way you can get her mindset over this is to educate her through books/videos(not porn), but sexuality and that it's alright to let yourself go..

CW

[qwerty989]

regarding the videos part i think she will object to it. She seems to have something against such material.

also, for the condom issue. we usually have sex until the extent she is irritated of the pain and i will remove the condom and continue having sex. I will then use the withdrawal method to ejaculate.

Btw is it ok to ejculate into her vagina when my gf just finish her PMS?

[Mes T]

Nooo it's not okay to ejaculate into her at ANY time, if she is not on birth control, unless she knows precisely, without a doubt, when she is ovulating.

Have you discussed options other than condoms?

[qwerty989]

dont think she has any idea when she's ovulating.

Nope. we are both still in college and i dont think we will move into extreme measures. Any simple recommendation?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ah the beauty of youth

Sweet, firstly I definately said "no porn", but seems your educted at least in what things are sexual and what you like, she isn't. She is doing the "grandma" thing basically, a bit prudish but also it's not her, she's not into experimenting. I was thinking more on other types of videos of sexual orientation and how it can turn you on, not (education or porn) but na, forget it she would freak.

As for the pull out method. Your at risk always, don't tempt fate.

Explain that to her that there are two of you, you and her.. You don't want her to get pregnant and so not risking it, it takes 1 little bugger to swim inside and that's it, it can sit on the outside and work it's way up, trust me.

So, please don't do that.

Birth Control, or Condoms with lube.

CW

[Mes T]

Well birth control is by no means an extreme measure, anyway. I mean it's a lot less extreme than having unprotected sex!

Are there any specific concerns she has about birth control? Seems that you two just might not have enough information on different methods... You might want to read up on this somewhere or better yet, stop by an OBGYN clinic.

[qwerty989]

thanks CW/Mes for replies. guess i shall adopt the condom+lube combo.

anyway is there any simple way to make my gf have orgasm? or it is true as my friend saying that NOT ALL girls can orgasm?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I think, it's more mindset... I don't believe that female's "can't."..

There are different types of Orgasms, does she allow you to touch her Clitoris? This is one method, G-Spot, Vaginal..

Maybe if she allows you to finger her, she will also allow you to gently touch her Clitoris and rub but all takes time, nothing happens over night, including if your a 2 minute man, it won't happen so you can learn to control yourself where cumming is involved so it last longer and therefore, she is capable of it.

But, understand, it's also feeling comfortable with you.. No fear.. Not sure if she has that with you, only you know that.

CW

[qwerty989]

ahh maybe i'll describe our sex then maybe u can tell me where can i improve

Usually when we have sex. We will start by kissing then i will start carressing her body & play around her sensitive ears, fondle her breasts and slowly playing around her pubic hair area before i slide my fingers into her vagina. by the time she will usually start moaning and i will increase the speed and insert usually 2 fingers. I would love to go down on her but she always refuses so i'll start penetrating her. I tend to vary the speed and how deep and that usually sets her moaning but she cant seem to have an orgasm

btw What do u mean by 2minute man?