My girlfriend thinks I dislike our sex, how can I convince her otherwise?

[Joshua33]

Thanks Antonia but really I don't think that's the issue, you seem to be thinking this is happening more often than it is. I'm a smoker, I get winded walking down my stairs; no way in I'll finish hard after being on top for twenty minutes.

And yes, she does take over the dominant role usually when I'm getting tired.

I think she's more upset at the idea that I've been with a lot of women and she feels like she's not up to par because she's less experienced; and she just used that as an example to fuel her worry.

[pretzel]

Thanks Antonia but really I don't think that's the issue, you seem to be thinking this is happening more often than it is. I'm a smoker, I get winded walking down my stairs; no way in I'll finish hard after being on top for twenty minutes.

20 something and you're getting winded walking down your stairs. I'm 50, have smoked the better part of my adult life and I'm probably in better shape than you are and I don't exercise.

Any possibility of changing that?

[Joshua33]

I live on the road a lot due to my career Pretz (I'm a musician). It's very hard to stay healthy with the lifestyle I've chosen. I also eat like and don't do any cardio, I do lift weights though.

[pretzel]

I live on the road a lot due to my career Pretz (I'm a musician). It's very hard to stay healthy with the lifestyle I've chosen. I also eat like and don't do any cardio, I do lift weights though.

That I didn't know. I wasn't trying to be sarcastic and hope you didn't take it that way.

Not sure what's the best thing.

[WildChild]

It seems some of the older,more experienced musicians have learned to stay healthy on the road. Ian Anderson of Jethro Tull, quit smoking and will not permit any smoke where he performs, brings his own organic foods, and makes sure to get exersize. In his 60s he is still an amazing performer. You have to set your priorities and your health certainly should be a priority. You won't be maintaining sexual performance or any other if your health fails.

[Hopeless Dork]

Thanks for your comments, I think the solution may be to hold off on the solo games so that I'm extra horny when the time comes?

Doesn't mean you can't ever masturbate, but my suggestion would be to seek her FIRST in your day, if you're still horny after, then go another solo round but if you hold all that energy for her when you know you are going to be with her... it will make your experience much more pleasurable... you'll be more sensitive to her touches and the way it feels inside her and will have an easier time with orgasm, tired or not

[OhThereYouAre]

Doesn't mean you can't ever masturbate, but my suggestion would be to seek her FIRST in your day, if you're still horny after, then go another solo round but if you hold all that energy for her when you know you are going to be with her... it will make your experience much more pleasurable... you'll be more sensitive to her touches and the way it feels inside her and will have an easier time with orgasm, tired or not

Great advice.

[Joshua33]

Thanks for the tip Wild, however I'm definitely no Jethro Tull and can't make demands like that at venues, and our diet consists mainly of Jack in the Box on the road or bar food before a show.

Hopeless that sounds like the best route. I've tried that before and yes, it's THAT much hotter

As said before I think it may just be a self esteem issue on her part, not by any means lay blame but the whole conversation started with her stating she's insecure about the fact that I've had significantly more partners. Perhaps she just used the 'you didn't finish those couple of times so I know you hate it' as a crutch? I'm not sure.

[pretzel]

I think maybe it's time for me to get out of the conversation but what I've gathered so is,

1) The 2 of you have been dating a little over a month,

2) You're gone alot due to your profession,

3) When you are home, you have great sex (ok) but she's bothered by you're not able to finish. I would hope that you're satisfying her before yourself.

Past partners aside, maybe she's feeling a little insecure for reasons other than sexual?

I mentioned in my initial response that time could very well be both your allies. I stand behind that more than ever now. And it's not because of the sex.

If there's to be more to this relationship then she needs to feel more comfortable with the entirety of your lifestyle and how it effects her.

[Joshua33]

I think maybe it's time for me to get out of the conversation but what I've gathered so is,

3) When you are home, you have great sex (ok) but she's bothered by you're not able to finish. I would hope that you're satisfying her before yourself.

No reason to leave man not sure where you got that from but...

As for number 3. The sex is great for her, multi orgasmic and what not. I'm not saying that to sound proud it's just true? I think in fact, that's why I get tired sometimes, because I really enjoy knowing that I'm making her feel so good that I don't worry about myself...

And no, I don't think I've ever in my life let myself finish before a woman, that's just mean!