Dont know what to do

[xxredroz3xx]

Okay ive been with this guy for ten months now and my problems is that i think he is never going to change he's lazy for jobs cant keep a job for three months he's 23 everytime we go out 99% i pay for everything recently I moved with my parents to miami from the florida keys and my parents were nice enough to have him come with us in a extra room we have we've been here three weeks and no job still doesnt help around the house (guy stuff) gets mad when i dont wanna go out days i work (i work ten hours a day at key largo fl keys) sex is great treats me good but i dont see a future with him.... I love him but he is not changing the only way he says he'll change when i say imma leave him I dont know what to do help

The reason I moved it was to make a future for me my brother and him but he is not making a affort.

[xxredroz3xx]

everything was great in the beginning of the relationship

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I love him but he is not changing the only way he says he'll change when i say imma leave him I dont know what to do

At the beginning of every single relationship, people are on their best behaviour. It's when they settle into a relationship and feel safe, that they show their true colours.

He's lazy, he doesn't want to work, he doesn't have to work because your paying for everything as well as giving him accomodation... We in Australia use the word "Bum"... that's what he is. Sure, he will treat you right, your his "sugar mummy" okay not quite But, do you see where I am coming from?

I would assume his family are very lazy as well and he wasn't bought up to get out there and make something of himself, he will just go through life mosing along.

The "fear" of having nothing, is why he quickly back tracks when you threaten to leave.

This guy is not going to help you get anywhere in life, he's going to drain you and it's time to move on, sorry... You deserve better right? You work hard right? He won't even help around the house...

Nothing you can do to change him, you have to change the situation and tell him to go home, it's over.

CW

[Mes T]

Couldn't agree more with CW.

This guy is a bum for life. You shouldn't have to be his mother. There are much more decent fellas out there!

[caterpillar79]

Only you can change yourself - you can never change a person. That being said, this guy deserves a lukewarm goodbye. You deserve better.

[OhThereYouAre]

Only you can change yourself - you can never change a person. That being said, this guy deserves a lukewarm goodbye. You deserve better.

Wow. Yes ma'am.