Man's lack of sex drive

[ladylove]

Does anyone have a problem with their husband or boyfriend having a lack of drive or being uninterested? I am having this problem with my boyfriend of nearly one year. He does not have a strong drive, does not like to kiss other than a peck, does not engage in other foreplay activities. I enjoy sex and like if often, but he simply does not have an interest. He says he is not in the mood. I just can't figure out the problem.

[CLH]

I have this exact problem with my husband. He has no idea what his problem is, he just said he has always been like this. Once or twice a month is good for him. We have talked about it and tried some things, he just doesn't have the sex drive. Since we have been trying to have a baby, it has been better, but only around my fertile times, the rest of the month is pretty slow. Try including more Zinc in his diet. I have read that it is a sex drive booster. I am going to try it with my husband this month and i will let you know the results Good luck

[habgirl]

Hi I'm new here but when I saw this post I had to respond. My boyfriend of almost one year has a lack of sex drive. When we have sex it is fantastic and he loves it so I always wondered why he doesn't feel like it more often. Once a week...if I'm lucky twice a week, is as often as we have sex and that's mainly because I initiate it. He says sex has never been very important to him. For me, I like sex and was having some serious thoughts about our relationship due to the lack of sex. However, after scouring the net looking for info on what the "normal" sex drive should be, I did find something that helped me to cope. The article said basically that how do you dictate what is average times for sex per week for couples? Maybe once a week is enough and you are oversexed if it's more...or vise versa. It went on to say if you have a loving, caring relationship what is more important to you the sex or how compatible you are. I am in my early 40's and this man gives me and treats me the way every woman should be treated with the exception of sex. After reading that, I think I can make sex less of a priority as he fits the bill in every other way! With that being said, I may still try a little extra zinc in his diet!

[BroncosMom]

I've always been curious to know if men that have a low sex drive just don't have interest in sex cause they aren't getting the kind of sex that they want. Not to say they don't want sex from their wife, but maybe they have some kind of fantasy of how they want their sex to be. I know there are some products out there to help increase a man's sex drive, but I think as a wife I would want to dig as deep as I could to figure out why he is having this lack of sex drive and not just take any simple answer. I even think it's worth some counseling for couples because sex and money are the two largest factors for divorce and I don't think people take the activities in the bedroom serious enough to realize how it effects everything else.

Julie

[amom]

Generally speaking IMHO men who are not interested in sex much with their spouses are getting it elsewhere or sick or have lost interest in their spouse for various reasons or it might be any combination thereof.

Resolving the problem requires serious discussion between the parties who are together.

[breathless_romance]

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Does anyone have a problem with their husband or boyfriend having a lack of drive or being uninterested? I am having this problem with my boyfriend of nearly one year. He does not have a strong drive, does not like to kiss other than a peck, does not engage in other foreplay activities. I enjoy sex and like if often, but he simply does not have an interest. He says he is not in the mood. I just can't figure out the problem.



OH I have this problem!!

Im a nymphomaniac and hes chill, so im always pouncing on him so if im not he doesnt make moves and just waits for me to!
ITS SO ANGERING!

Just flat out tell him.

I have an idea for you
show up in a pvc mini skirt, a thong and put tape across your nipples in an X
Put on full out makeup, do your hair, wear stilletos, write "Play with me"
across your chest in red lipstick and hand cuff your hands behind your back then walk out to him and just sit on his lap, and completely play along with it.

If he doesnt do anything... buy a vibrator and vow never to suck his again untill he starts putting out :P

[julesRN]

There could be a number of causes for decreased libido in men such as medication, marijuana use, increased age, diabetes, low testosterone, and steroid use are a few. If everything on the medical exam checks out great, then look for other causes. Possibly some counsiling. I think as women, we wonder if we are doing something wrong to cause our man to not desire us sexually. We may also wonder if the man is getting his sexual fulfillment some place else. I would start with suggesting that our partners with this problem get a physical to rule out any medical condition that would be the underlying cause for decreased libido. In some cases this is treated with great results. You may have a partner that is embarrassed to get a physical and talk to a physician for this condition; however, it is a very common problem. Talk to your partner away from the bedroom about your concerns in a way that is not accusing him of any wrong doing first.

[mygdalia58]

My husband has lost interest in me, he wont kiss, or carress me during sex, he wait for me or keep an erection. How can I compete with his new interest his new desire younger women on porn sites. I have caught him masturbating rather than make love to his beautiful wife. I have confronted him and he denies it, he said his a little embarrased, but Im his wife if he has an urge or is horny I want to be there for him I want to feel needed and be his fantasy, I want to please him, but he can't or wont please me I don't even feel his emotions when he holds me is like there's no one there. What should I do, what can I do but feel helpless, and less of a woman becasue I got old and boring I guess. His looking for excitment and someone younger full of life.

[mygdalia58]

That's what I crave romance, I want my husband to hold me tight kiss me pationately, throw me on the bed carress me and make pationate beautiful love to me, is that too much to ask for. He doesn't realize how much I miss him and how much he is hurting me, I feel like my heart is in million peices, he wont make love to me, he rather masturbate to younger women online.

[Fallen1]

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