Shaving?

[kermit]

So, I really like giving my wife oral but would prefer she either shaved or waxed. Any suggestions on how to make this suggestion to her? Do women have fears about this, or do they just not know whether guys care?

[Little]

From a woman's point of view, shaving is really out-putting and irritating to the skin. But as a woman who has performed cunnilingus on another woman, I feel your pain! Maybe you can come to a compromise ... does she trim at all? That can help.
Or you could ask her to just shave below and around the clitoris; this pretty much eliminates the problem without having to shave the mons pubis which (for me anyways,) is a lot more sensitive.
Good luck!

[dogsrule]

Just tell her you would like to please her but would like it shaved. I personally dont have a problem with a guy asking me that. The guy I am talking to has asked me if I would at the time we get together I said yes but only in a commited relationship as it gets itchy when it grows back and you have to upkeep it. I like the guy shaved so I dont get hair in my mouth when I go down on him. No worries. Just ask her.

[pushingupdaisies]

Wow, boy have I been there in this situation. I grew up in mostly a sheltered home so pretty much I have had to discover everything on my own with the help of my partners.

So when I started seeing this guy after we had oral sex and intercourse he brought it to my attention. I never heard of this and was completely shocked (not upset though). However, after mentioning it to a couple of my friends they were like oh yeah you didn't know. I had no clue that this is what guys prefer.

So the next time before we had intercourse/oral sex I was prepared. I attempted waxing but that was a horrendous experience and now I shave and trim.

Basically, it is something that is okay to ask about and to ask of her but just be aware of her feelings and don't be negative about it when you do this. If she is hesitant don't push or nag. Just be supportive and nice about it.

Good luck

[Borden]

I don't think there is anything wrong with asking. I never shaved before I met my husband and he prefers it shaven also, so I started doing this. It is alot upkeep, so sometimes we comprise. I think it feels better clean shaven, so maybe she will agree and keep it nice and trimmed for you. Sometimes I personally feel sexy when I'm all shaved and it's kind of a turn on for me and my husband. I like to tease him because I can walk around the house flashing him and he sees it all. So not only is it better for you, I think it's fun and better for her.

[Ravsoma]

Tell her you don't want hair caught in your teeth....Or just ask nicely. XD

[babyface]

I just thought I would mention that waxing only really hurts the first couple times you do it...I've been waxing for years and years and not only does it hurt much less but it grows in softer, finer and sparcer and it gets easier to do everytime. Maybe you could buy her a gift certificate to have it done at a salon the first time? That way she would feel like she was maybe being pampered instead of being asked to take care of another chore. Maybe she would like to read a couple of my tips to make it easier and painfree:1. Use Parissa (absolute best!)body wax strips trimmed to size/shape with scissors2. shave and let hair grow in to 1/4" instead of trying to trim unevenly with scissors to 1/4".3. Take some ibuprofen 20-30min before hand4. Try some topical prewax spray pain reliever5. wipe down with alcohol afterwards(hurts but prevents infection) and then slather on the soothing oil that comes with Parissa wax strips and/or take a cool soak in the tub and pat dry.6. Don't wax right before your period as the skin is more sensitive.7. Try not to be too nervous because it hurts more if you aren't relaxed.8. Start small...like an extreme bikini wax and then remove a little more everytime until you are able to do a full hollywood. Not only is it easier since you aren't experienced but doing a complete wax the first time feels strange! Make sure you have a good light...I have a full specturm lamp that sits on the floor and a big mirror. Sometimes if you didn't quite get it all the first day...wait until the next when your skin has had a chance to calm down. Pluck any strays and then by the next day a smooth close shave will make you soft as butter. I keep shaving even when I'm perfectly smooth because it is a good exfoliater and that with an occasional salicylic acid anti-acne scrub keeps the ingrowns away. IF it is your first time be prepared for a bit of blood and it won't look as good since the area isn't used to it and hasn't seen the light for probably a LONG time. I also get a bit of some uv rays once in awhile as it just seems to make the area smoother and look prettier. I just have always done this even before marriage as it makes the area so much cleaner and easier and knowing I look GOOD all the way down makes me feel better about myself. I didn't anticipate how excited it would make him or how fun it is to wear little lingerie. If you ladies want him to have a good time down there I would definitely recommend trying it out. I can't imagine expecting him to get a nose/mouth full of hair. I wouldnt' like it. However I have heard that some guys like the hairiness. I have a hard time imagining that shaving would be much better...isn't it really itchy and stubbly?

[scarlet]

I agree, waxing is the way to go long term, but maybe to start you could suggest that you shave her, as a form of foreplay? Once you have done that it will be easy to express how sexy you think she looks and how amazing it feels.