Am I the only one NOT getting it?

[SorridLives]

This is embarassing, but my boyfriend refuses to go down on me. Absolutely refuses! I do everything he wants (and have for five years), but he says, "I just don't do it, thats all". I feel guilty for even asking, but I need to feel like my body is special to him and he desires to please me. I have read alot on here that says, "many women don't give BJ's". I do, but I think maybe I should stop until he gives in and pleasures me. I hate to give ultimatums, but I can't just go the rest of my life without it. He makes me feel like that area is gross on me or something, like it's good enough to play with but not taste. It bothers me so much that I don't even climax anymore from normal sex. What's weird is that every guy I've been with has been totally into it, so now I feel like maybe something's wrong with me (the look of it, or taste IDK). I know you're all saying TOO MUCH INFORMATION, so I'll stop. PLEASE HELP!

That's crazy and sorta mean. I'd be upset and have a serious discussion.

[C]

Three years ago I left my husband of 18 years. In that relationship he gave me oral one time and that was while we were dating. There are some guys that just do not do it, so I wouldn't take it as anything personal.

Good for you. Why give up the most thrilling and erotic pleasure a woman can ever know. I would pack him a sack lunch to stay there all day....and have ever offered this.....He is good...

This is embarassing, but my boyfriend refuses to go down on me. Absolutely refuses! I do everything he wants (and have for five years), but he says, "I just don't do it, thats all". I feel guilty for even asking, but I need to feel like my body is special to him and he desires to please me. I have read alot on here that says, "many women don't give BJ's". I do, but I think maybe I should stop until he gives in and pleasures me. I hate to give ultimatums, but I can't just go the rest of my life without it. He makes me feel like that area is gross on me or something, like it's good enough to play with but not taste. It bothers me so much that I don't even climax anymore from normal sex. What's weird is that every guy I've been with has been totally into it, so now I feel like maybe something's wrong with me (the look of it, or taste IDK). I know you're all saying TOO MUCH INFORMATION, so I'll stop. PLEASE HELP!

First don't let it be embarrassing. It is sexual want. It is what you need to come alive. I can think of nothing more arousing than the hot tongue of a man going into my hottest sexual part and teasing me before entry......The throught of it makes me wet. I have many times out of a clear blue sky asked him to go down on me. 95% of the time this has led to some good hot sex but it is what a woman needs. It is the orgasm that is necessary to make the want of the sexual filling. Without it there is such a struggle to find the clit at it's full arousal which is sometimes so hard to do. Lord, give me tongue.

One thing that has not been brought up that could make a difference. We are sexual. Come to think of it maybe we are sexually sick but we smile a whole lot. What I have found that turns him absolutely wild is shaving every two days. I mean completely. He loves it and so do I. I love being shaved and just the arousing feeling of walking with silk panties on. This alone is a turn on to me and it really drives him wild. I only wish I had found that razor many years ago but... If you are and he still does not like it then he better change as he just would have lost any blow jobs from me.

You have been together for five years. This should have been brought front and center long ago. The need for this pleasure is a big problem for a woman. It makes for such an erotic longing and filling by your partner. It is such a prelude to sexual intercourse and needed. The hunger for this act will become more intense as you age for this is the passion of a woman. At least this is what I have found.. My question to you is can you spend the rest of your life without the pleasure of a man eating you out? Can you live without the hot tongue that caresses the inside of your most sexual part? This hot place that wakes you up as a woman and touches your g-spot and finds all the special places in your love canal? These are BIG things and not little. They could drive you to another man years from now. Think this over as unless he changes, you just may wander along the line....Caroline

[ANNA 16]

no ur not the only one you could sit him down and tell him come up with some sort of agreement

[bellasmom]

Yes, we have been together for awhile. The conversation has come up and the only thing he says is, "I just don't do it". I have asked if he had a bad experience, or if there was a problem, he just replies the same EVERY time! It's frustrating because I am deeply in love with him, but this small thing irritates me during sex and makes me not want to please him! It just is what it is, I guess.

I perform on him without being asked, usually a few times per week- he's spoiled, I know!

[Still Nobody]

the only thing he says is, "I just don't do it". I have asked if he had a bad experience, or if there was a problem, he just replies the same EVERY time!
I perform on him without being asked, usually a few times per week- he's spoiled, I know!

This is such junk -- "I just don't do it" That's the best he's got? If that's his response EVERYTIME you ask him then -- yes, I'd say he had a bad experience at some point. Everytime? That boy is frickin' traumatized!
If you have to, go ask his friends what they think, but not just about why he won't do it. I'd first ask them what they think of going down on a woman. Maybe it wasn't a bad experience, but a bunch of junk from his friends.
I've known a lot of guys who just won't do it, for a variety of dumb and juvenile reasons (or excuses).
One guy tried to tell me not to do because that's how you get herpes.
If his friends are anything like that, then God be with you.

[Mourningman]

Is that where the term "BOX LUNCH" comes from Caroline?

[C]

Is that where the term "BOX LUNCH" comes from Caroline?

Could be????? For a woman it is the door that opens the gates of heaven.....The most erotic and sexual thrill she can ever experience.... I love the sexual filling but it is getting there and the hot love making that goes along with it that brings me alive.....Ah, thank God for men.....

TC, C

[LadyLane]

Seriously, I am sitting here with my mouth open. what? how? are you kidding me? Those are the thoughts that immediately ran through my mind.

Oh, I am sorry that he has that attitude. And really, you are too good to him. Its never good in a relationship to be tit-for-tat, but I can be a vindictive little lady and I would cease and desist all bjs from now on. You can say to him, "I just don't do it anymore." And if he's being satisfied by you, why would he give you what you want when he's getting he wants without a struggle? Where is his spirit of making you happy in the bedroom?

I feel very mean suggesting that but if you've discussed it, and he knows you want it and are now having difficulty orgasming from straight sex, what comes next for you if he's unwilling to try new things to help you stay satisfied?

[commonsense]

This is embarassing, but my boyfriend refuses to go down on me. Absolutely refuses! I do everything he wants (and have for five years), but he says, "I just don't do it, thats all". I feel guilty for even asking, but I need to feel like my body is special to him and he desires to please me. I have read alot on here that says, "many women don't give BJ's". I do, but I think maybe I should stop until he gives in and pleasures me. I hate to give ultimatums, but I can't just go the rest of my life without it. He makes me feel like that area is gross on me or something, like it's good enough to play with but not taste. It bothers me so much that I don't even climax anymore from normal sex. What's weird is that every guy I've been with has been totally into it, so now I feel like maybe something's wrong with me (the look of it, or taste IDK). I know you're all saying TOO MUCH INFORMATION, so I'll stop. PLEASE HELP!

I always bring that up before the first party starts. If he says he doesn't do it then I don't do it for him either.

[commonsense]

Yes, we have been together for awhile. The conversation has come up and the only thing he says is, "I just don't do it". I have asked if he had a bad experience, or if there was a problem, he just replies the same EVERY time! It's frustrating because I am deeply in love with him, but this small thing irritates me during sex and makes me not want to please him! It just is what it is, I guess.

I perform on him without being asked, usually a few times per week- he's spoiled, I know!

He is full of s%)*t.