Hubby in Iraq

[Alma]

Hi, I'm a new user and I have been apart from my husband for about 6 months because he's deployed at the moment.
We've been married for 4 years and have no children. I'm fortunate to be able to speak with him just about everyday. We have a very good relationship, but the only thing I seem to miss is our sexual relationship. I'm not saying that I don't miss anything else about him/us, but I'm constantly thinking and fantasizing about being with him sexually, not too much about going out to eat, holding hands or watching TV together. Sometimes I have to tell my self to leave it alone and stop thinking about it so much, just wait until his R&R, but sometimes I feel a bit guilty that so much emphasis is concentrated on our sexual relationship. Has anyone esle experienced something similar?

[C]

Hi, I'm a new user and I have been apart from my husband for about 6 months because he's deployed at the moment.
We've been married for 4 years and have no children. I'm fortunate to be able to speak with him just about everyday. We have a very good relationship, but the only thing I seem to miss is our sexual relationship. I'm not saying that I don't miss anything else about him/us, but I'm constantly thinking and fantasizing about being with him sexually, not too much about going out to eat, holding hands or watching TV together. Sometimes I have to tell my self to leave it alone and stop thinking about it so much, just wait until his R&R, but sometimes I feel a bit guilty that so much emphasis is concentrated on our sexual relationship. Has anyone esle experienced something similar?

Being with a man you love and being sexual is the most erotic and perfect thing in a marriage. We get along fantastic and I love going out with him and everything else about him, but if we could spend a good part of the rest of our life in bed having sex, I would do it in a New York minute. It makes you feel so good.

You and he are lucky. You have found what so many couples cannot find. Hang on to it and count the days until he is back home to you and then my dear, love him like there is no tomorrow and never stop. As you age bring all these wonderful days of wine and roses back to keep remembering them so that nothing fades. Always remember your today's. That is the secret of a happy marriage........

I envy you for your long life ahead and I wish both of you well....Take care and God speed in your husband coming home. Take care, Caroline

[Little]

My boyfriend's in the Army, and he's at his training school 10 hours away. I see him for about a week every few months, and it's hard to have an ongoing sexual relationship considering that.
It's hard to "spice up" a long-distance relationship when the other person has ZERO personal space. It's simple to recreate the warm, fuzzy, happy feelings of watching TV, spending time, and holding hands (though it's not the same) over the phone, but when any kind of sexual talk is out of the question, it's easy to concentrate on what you're missing the most.
I basically have the same thoughts, and I'm sure it'll be the same problem when he eventually gets deployed. For now, he's just moved off-post, so maybe with his new privacy there will be an improvement.
I hope that you will be alright until his R&R, since judging by how long he's been gone, it will be soon. I've heard of women who don't speak to their loved ones but once a month, so you're quite lucky, and I hope I will be too.

[kilo]

I guess having your Hubby in Iraq and fantasizing about sex with him isn't a bad thing. What you really should do is find yourself a nice toy and handle your business. He'd much appreciate that then you going out and finding it another way. i'm currently in IRAQ for 15 months and I have ordered things and had them send to my wife. That was really a turn on for me and she got to satisfy her need until i can help. Smile!!!!!!!

[Alma]

I don't do the masturbation thing (I have in the past). Personally I just find it empty. I want my husband to give me that satisfaction. I'm definitely not trying to find anything from another man. That's not even something I think about. I'm married, I respect my marriage and my husband. I want him and only him.

[scwale]

HI Alma. I live in Alma. My husband has just returned from Iraq and I can honestly say I know exactly what you are talking about. I never spent any time away from him before he was deployed and when he left I thought I was going to crumble. But the good news is...is that I stayed strong...Army strong! I talked to many wives about alot of things and this topic was believe it or not...#1.

The reason for me was because that is when I had the closet emotional connection to my husband. I felt his arms around me and I felt safe. I felt how much my husband loved when we were together sexually. Don't get me wrong he always lets me know how much he loves me but when we are together...we are one.

Thinking of sex with your husband is a good thing. Does he have a web cam with him? If not send him one. I sent one to my husband and it was the best for both of us. Not to go into too much detail but he was able to see me "thinking" of him. It will benefit both of you.

[LoverofSEX]

My heart goes out to you Alma and the others who have your SO in the service and those who are stationed in harms way. I am retired military, all peace time, and was outside the US for 18 months. The BEST part about being gone is COMING HOME. It's hard on you and it's hard on them male or female.

Lets pray for a peaceful solution to this SOON.