Sexual Young Women and Their Contribution to WH

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When a child goes to their parents and asks them something, only to be told they just ‘shouldn’t be doing that’ rather than having an understanding ear and discussion, is it because the parents can’t handle hearing about what their child is up to, is it love and impatient concern, is it too close to home for a parent to discuss personal things? I’m wondering how it feels for a parent, I think all kids approach parents and try out a question/topic or two, if they get a ‘bad’ response they just won’t try again. I always got the feeling my Mum didn’t talk to her parents so she found it a bit awkward talking to me, but my grandparents generation were much more reserved and I think times are changing, so good on those parents who are talking to their kids. I learned my morals from watching my parents who lead by example, I had and have complete respect for them because they always made good decisions, stuck together and kept the family as a unit, a very loving one, they gave me reasons as to why their advice would work and time proved them right. That’s an example of the good parenting I was lucky to have..

I also disagree with the idea of reading someone else’s emails. If the child knows you monitor their email they will just go about having personal conversations another way, honestly it’s true, children need a personal place away from the rules and restrictions of home (which do them a lot of good), they can only appreciate the security of their home if they are trusted with a little personal leeway in which to explore. My Mum made a point of saying to me once, ‘when I clean your room I never read your diary or anything you’ve written you know’, it made me feel mature, trusted, loved and free and I knew I had to be careful myself about who I was talking to on chat rooms etc because it was my own conversation, -common sense. Saying that, I went to boarding school and wasn’t exposed to a lot of the s**t my friends at state schools were. I rebelled older when I came out of that strict environment, which just goes to show you can’t repress or skip the rebellious stage, it will just come out later!


I like the way Caroline puts ‘I kind of like being educated by youth’ because so many adults underestimate kids/teens and presume they don’t have worthwhile opinions or morals. A bit like what xo_shavonn said, I presume we are both young? The times when I acted up or rebelled were the times when adults didn’t give me a chance to prove myself or automatically treated me as if they knew me (that wasn’t put well but you know what I mean). My friends always thought my Mum was great because she has so much respect for young people, I was well-behaved, sweet, polite and good because I didn’t want to prove her wrong! I think it is important for parents/carers to reiterate why they inforce discipline, because they *care*, that's understandable to a person of any age. I wish my brother could get more recognition for being such a BRILLIANT 18 year old boy, honestly he’s so angelic, reasonable, mature, nice –but happy, popular and experimental too, it’s just NOT NORMAL hehe!


PS. Bad grammar doesn’t bother me as long as I can understand what the person is saying, isn’t that what language is all about, we have it programmed into us that there is a right way of saying this, doing that, but in the end as long as we can understand each other, isn’t that the most important thing? But I agree that abbreviations are infuriating, that’s just lazy!!

This forum is very refreshing, informative and helpful for young people, thank you to everyone who gives their time and shares their knowledge and experience

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Sorry that was rather long..