too much sex on mind?

[sweet30s]

I am 35 and for about 20 years I have suffered of too much sex on my mind. I love pornography, wish my hubby would have sex with me 3-4 x´s daily and fantasize daily of what I call weird things, exa. very rough sex, getting called names etc. Am I normal? My hubby only enjoys sex 1-2 weekly wish means that I spend the rest of my time masturbating in secret, sometimes the urge is so much I do it at work to relax.

[misskitty3]

are you asking if you're normal because you feel guilty about your high sex drive?

my answer either was is yes. you are normal. people are different that's all. believe me though, i am right there with you with it on my mind all day, and stuff.....

do you feel as though you are wrong for thinking and doing these things? if so, i'm wrong too!

i think that its not a big deal. do what you want and embrace your sexuality. its not a bad thing.

[metalbudderfly]

hey sweet,
as you have already figured out women seem to get more of sex drive as they get older, well for me it has. i think your normal. as long as your not going out and seeking other men for this then i don't think it is a bad thing at all. well a few tips maybe you should ask your hubby to help you masterbate or masterbate together i know guys get turned on just by seeing a woman masterbate, my hubby digs it. does your hubby like porn? i don't think i have met a man that doesn't. set up a porn movie night for you and your hubby. just watch porn all night with him and see what happens. do you like "toys"? ask your hubby to go to the "toy" store with you and pick out something you guys can have fun with. i know if you try to keep things fresh with new ideas in the bedroom it usually turns your man on and he will be looking forward to having more sex with you. well just my opinions. good luck....

[Fallen1]

hey sweet,
as you have already figured out women seem to get more of sex drive as they get older

Mine has gotten to the outrageous point - at least in my opinion. I can't get enough. I've gotten to the point to where I hate it because I'm constantly frustrated and agitated because I cannot seem to get the need filled. I've actually been doing a little bit of research to see if there is something I can do to calm it down a little .... heck I'd even consider just not having a drive at all, to me that would be easier to deal with than constantly being frustrated.

[C]

I have always written that as a women ages she gets more sexual. Believe me this does not stop.....Of all you women here talking about your high hunger for sex, I will join the pack.....Interesting fact is the more you have the more you want....Then we have the male that cannot keep up with us....I get laid at good two times a week but get Finger F'd at least another two.....It is the way it has to be.

What I do to help myself is write. That is why I started my site. It may help some of you women to find a free blog site where you can write out your frustrations on wanting sex. In fact I think Jessica is planning one now...It will help you talking about it. Yesterday I had the Perfect F*ck. I mean that was the hottest of the hot so I wrote it up. I wrote it up not only helping myself but also helping other women know how sexual that a woman can be at this age.

Try to control your masturbating to once a day. Too much can make you hornier than you were to start. Don't plan on any relief in life coming. You have caught that wonderful disease of wanting to be laid and filled. Too many women are looking for it...Hold it dearly and nurture it. Every once in a while corner that guy, suck him off good and ride that bronco.....As you can see I could go for another hot session now.....For me it is off to antique world.....Actually I love feeling like this...It makes me feel so young....Take care....C

[anonymouswhitefemale]

I am 35 and for about 20 years I have suffered of too much sex on my mind. I love pornography, wish my hubby would have sex with me 3-4 x´s daily and fantasize daily of what I call weird things, exa. very rough sex, getting called names etc. Am I normal? My hubby only enjoys sex 1-2 weekly wish means that I spend the rest of my time masturbating in secret, sometimes the urge is so much I do it at work to relax.

I guess some women know how men feel all the time, heheh. Erm I don't know if you're normal or not, but I know most men would be extremely glad to hear it.

[sweet30s]

Thank you for your replies, I guess that my not feeling normal is because I am on my 2nd marriage and I thought I finally found a partner were I felt sexually at ease with and there have been times where I have practically chased him around the bed trying to get ´some´. So now I just let ´it´happen when he initiates or sometimes I do but not as often as I would like to. I am finding that the lack of is causing me to be moody. And I hate to admit it but have more than once considered looking for some on the side but have not done so. I don´t want to loose him. I just feel frustrated. And just to note I am very open with him, we use toys, porn, have practically done it in every room and position out there. It is just that twice weekly is a joke for me. I have been open with him about this but I don´t think he realizes just how much it affects me. Anyway thanks for your many advises, I still feel abnormal.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I read your reply to the ladies and i think you are frustrated, as no one can give you the answer you want to hear. I think you really want to know how to get him to give it to you more, as apposed to is it normal to feel the way you do, every day. My man travels a lot, and we therefore have phone sex a lot and i have found that i don't need my fingers or anything else for 90% of the conversation only at the end just because i want to climax more than once and believe it or not i am satisfied. Why don't you tell him that "he" makes you feel alive. Maybe he thinks it's your sex drive not because he makes you feel that way and therefore he doesn't want to perform as much as you would like him to. In other words, stop trying to "get it" and start telling him he's sexy, touch his arm as you walk past and leave it at that, smile at him across the room and walk away, perhaps if he thinks that he makes you this way as i said, it will be different. Some men, don't like to feel used, as if they are a machine. My ex husband's first wife was like this and he got bored. I couldn't be me with him, i also thought that he was sexually driven and i had hit the jack pot, until i noticed the bordness, only when he wanted it and i found out about the first wife's situation much later. We can't change people they are who they are. Maybe also, you need to forget porn, and become you, perhaps also he sees the porn and you as the same, sexually driven women who just want sex from a man, instead of a sexually driven wife who want's sex from her man.. Make sense.... Don't go there woman with another man, unless you break away totally after trying a few different ways to make him feel you want him, not sex, therefore, togetherness sexually. You will regret it. That's my thoughts anway

[delicious105]

Sexual desire is hormonally driven. Denying yourself just makes you crazy. It has taken me years to embrace my sexual self. During my marriage my ex was really inhibited so sex was not satisfying even then. Now I am alone and I continue to learn what works for me. Always remember: "One size fits all" does not apply. You are a unique individual and you are ok.

If you have to use a dildo every day, do it.

Take the pressure off your husband and I'll bet he comes around eventually. Try giving without expecting anything in return. Think about how you would feel if you were in his shoes.

[metboogie]

Can you bottle some of your sex drive and send it to my wife? PLEASE!!!