meaning of wife watching erotica on tv

[CM2008]

Do woman enjoy watching erotica or soft porn?
When I step out of the room and head to bed, wife changes the TV channel to an adult only shows with sex. If I come back into the room, the channel changes quickly to regular tv shows. Not sure what to think about this.

I am intrigued by this. It is actually a turn on for me. (I am guy).

Any thoughts?

[C]

It is the inhibited woman in her.. She is fighting herself and wants to break free.....Should be a compliment.....Help her and encourage it....She has to learn that these are things that a good girl does and let herself go....Good luck..

[CM2008]

I'm not clear on what you are saying about fighting herself and wanting to break free.

We have good sex, and use toys frequently to help get her to the point.

What is the break free?

[rcoreyus]

Do woman enjoy watching erotica or soft porn?
When I step out of the room and head to bed, wife changes the TV channel to an adult only shows with sex. If I come back into the room, the channel changes quickly to regular tv shows. Not sure what to think about this.

I am intrigued by this. It is actually a turn on for me. (I am guy).

Any thoughts?

See if she is willing to watch with you? Maybe she is too embarassed to ask?

[C]

I'm not clear on what you are saying about fighting herself and wanting to break free.

We have good sex, and use toys frequently to help get her to the point.

What is the break free?

We always have great sex too, but dare we women admit that we love to look at other nude people. We are supposed to be chaste and a good girl. Dare we talk dirty and be like the Porn Queen's that we see on the Adult Channel. But this intrigues us. They are all doing what we would like to be doing. As good as we are we would love to be as dirty as they are. We would love to expose each and every part of us like they are doing. If they are blowing their man and we may not be doing this, then this tempts us. If they are doing anal and this looks good a quick glance makes our juices flow. If there are two girls having sex, this interests us. Even though we know that we will never do it, it raises our sexual interest. We love two men having sex and as much as we know that this is wrong it sexually stimulates us. She is being sexually stimulating by what she is seeing and then making herself a better lover for you.

If she already is a great lover then this is great. I, too, am a great lover but sexual stimulation either in your mind or what she is doing is helping her be whatever she wants to be as a sexual woman. She may be smiling to herself as she sees herself in these films and feels proud that she is that good. It is very sexually stimulating to know that you are as good as one of these women.......I know, I live there....And I love it.....

I am sorry the break free is probably referring to where I live in my mind. I talk dirty in the bedroom. Never used to until three years ago this May. In the bedroom or any other room we are making love, I am bold. I never used to be. This is part of the new me. When I was able to raise my legs to the ceiling and separate them, that was breaking free. I considered my real breaking free was when I could reach down and hold both lips of my vulva open for him making an ice cream cone of my clit for him to suck and ask him if he liked it. That was a giant break free. Being able to tell him how and where I want to be pleasured. Asking personal questions that I could not have asked before. More about me rather than him. I always took care of him with no hibitions but myself was another story. We women fight ourselves on our body parts. It is hard for us to say "honey, while you are sucking my p*ssy, put your finger up deep inside me and touch my c*nt". I do this and it is the height of erotic passion and it has released all the woman inside me and given both me and my husband the most wonderful sexual life imaginable.....This is breaking free.....Not easy to do but so wonderful that you never want to go back to the old you........

It is so nice being able to hide behind this computer where nobody knows me.......Thank goodness...

[katydid]

I agree with CarolineWH. She has to having an amazing sex life and to finally be able to release yourself in ways that you only dreamed about while reading that erotic novel or watching that movie, makes it all worthwhile. I have yet to get there but getting there. I love my husband more than anything and would love to tell him exactly what to do. I think it would blow his mind too. I love our sex life though. He makes me feel like no one has ever made me feel. He brings me to the heights of pleasure I have never known. He fills me up. I am glad of his package and glad that he knows how to use it. I am getting older now, in mid-30s, and I am wanting him ALL OF THE TIME. I think about sex nonstop anymore and I never did that. Maybe I am hitting my peak or maybe I am just falling in love with him all over again. So, I think it is great that your wife likes watching soft porn and reading erotica if she does. It means, to me, that she is wanting you like you would not believe. When she is watching a man go down on a woman, hearing the woman moan out in pure delight, her p*ssy is so wet just thinking about it....and thinking about you. Definitely take control and just turn the channel while she is with you to something erotic...you will have a night of passion that has been building up inside of her that you could never imagine. It may lead to new heights in your love making. Enjoy!

[CM2008]

I like the idea, but I am not sure what I should do.

Should I just turn the channel to something erotic and start watching with her in the room? what would you recommend saying? or doing? or should I just change the channel and say nothing and she what she says?

Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Just flick some on when your both watching TV... Don't say anything - just wait for her reaction.

[C]

If you want to help her break free when she does this again ask her if she likes the way that the man looks at the woman's p*ssy....I am not sure what your sexual language is but when my husband and I are coming home and he asks me if I want to go home and have mine eaten I am a mess.....I can't wait until we get home...This is just a help in opening a woman up....I believe she wants to see these things but the good girl in her holds back....We only talk dirty in the bedroom but when my husband is down in the family room with the puppies and calls me on the intercom and asks me if I want to f*ck you have no idea of how fast the juices flow....Porn can have the same effect on a sexual woman in heat.....

Please understand these are just my thoughts but lord we do have fun....

[macybelle]

I watch porn while my husband is at work. I am embarrassed to watch it with him. I do email him some of my favorite videos though. But to sit and watch it with him is hard for me to do. We have been married for almost 16 years and we are acting like newlyweds since I discovered erotica. It literally changed my marriage. I have learned things I didn't know and I just turned 38. I am also discovering my body thanks to soft porn. My guess is that your wife is embarrassed or not comforatable watching erotica with you and might be going through the same things I have just described. This might sound strange but I get really turned on by watching women. I'm not into women but I like watching them. I also like hearing "real" orgasams. Those things are hard for me to admit to my husband cause it makes me feel like I'm weird. I'm not suggesting that this last part I wrote is what your wife is going through but just to give you some insight on a women who loves to watch porn. I hope this help you.