im a mistress, and i need advice!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I hope you come back here and read our thoughts Lostwithoutyou081280...

Cause we are people you can talk to.


CW

[Lostwithoutyou081280]

okay well, i'm back.
Things are getting harder.. but easier.
IT's like i'm learning to live again.
I'm being seen and followed by many people.. and it gives me confort knowing i have these people all over, ready to listen to me. IT's hard though knowing that there's a someone out there however.. that cant see how much love and affection adn time i'm offering. I guess i'm healing now.
slowly
inside and out.. it's hard..
and it's hard to trust again..
trusting anyone.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

okay well, i'm back.
Things are getting harder.. but easier.
IT's like i'm learning to live again.
I'm being seen and followed by many people.. and it gives me confort knowing i have these people all over, ready to listen to me. IT's hard though knowing that there's a someone out there however.. that cant see how much love and affection adn time i'm offering. I guess i'm healing now.
slowly
inside and out.. it's hard..
and it's hard to trust again..
trusting anyone.

Well, I am glad that you are back.. And off course, things will be harder, but easier.. You are so loved to have so may people "follow" you and that are there for you, you are blessed.

Listen, it is hard, but hear me out, he was in a "two throw" he did love you but he still loved his ex. She won.. That is the way things go, you have had so much heartache in your life, that you couldn't cope with "that" ...

I have learnt myself a few things... Never go out with someone who is still greiveing over his ex. You fell together, like "two souls", he found you, that is beautiful think about it.

But, unless a guy is over his ex, his heart can not connect 100%, and she has the opporutnity to always re-enter and he will accept.

This , will happen to you one day.

You say you don't trust "anyone", we are "no-one" thing about it, we are people you don't know.. Typing away, as you are, so what is there not to trust with US?

So whilst you are building your trust with people again, look at us as people you can talk to whilst you are growing again.

People let you down before, this relationship wasn't one you could work with, your family and friends are "right by your side", and we are here, so what do you have to lose but share your inner most thoughts, what happened before, how you feel now...

This as I said, is just Cyber Space is it not?

Thanks for coming back.

CW

[Lakerat]

You should listen close to the words of this lovely lady for she speaks from her heart and has nothing but your best at heart'

Am glad to see you are trying to get better. Life is full of joy and heartache .... you will expierance both again...Trust me...Im an old fart I know

[CHANDLERS WISH]

So how are you feeling today?

Would like to think that you are moving a little, every so slow, but a little.

We are thinking of you.

CW

[Lostwithoutyou081280]

slowly things seem to be getting better.
With myself and all my other issues...
But things with him are pretty much the same if not intesified..
He's acting liek he's lost his mind... Literally.. he's gone a bit crazy.
He's paying a lot of attention and as much as the attention is nice, it's empty because i know behind it all.. i'm questioning what his intentions really are.

But other then that things are getting better.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

slowly things seem to be getting better.
With myself and all my other issues...
But things with him are pretty much the same if not intesified..
He's acting liek he's lost his mind... Literally.. he's gone a bit crazy.
He's paying a lot of attention and as much as the attention is nice, it's empty because i know behind it all.. i'm questioning what his intentions really are.

But other then that things are getting better.

I am glad that you are working through things...

The man is "a man" he had/has feelings you were/are important in his life, what ever that outcome is...

It's good that all people are in your life... It shows you what sort of person you are, people want to be around you and help you through all of this...

Thanks for answering... Stay in touch with us.

CW

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hi Lost.

I moved your question to a new thread as i think you will get more answers that way.

Under General - Drugs?

Hope that helps.

CW

[justkimmie]

slowly things seem to be getting better.
With myself and all my other issues...
But things with him are pretty much the same if not intesified..
He's acting liek he's lost his mind... Literally.. he's gone a bit crazy.
He's paying a lot of attention and as much as the attention is nice, it's empty because i know behind it all.. i'm questioning what his intentions really are.

But other then that things are getting better.

Dear Lost,

Please please know that you are worth so much more than what is giving you.
I can understand your pain, I myself have had 2 suicide attempts in my past. I, now, find myself being the wife to a man that is in love, he thinks?, with another woman...he says they are friends, she is pregnant by her new boyfriend, the list goes on and on. She is find out in time that he is not the man that he tells her he is. No man would do the that he has done. He follows her, he has read her emails, drives by her house, follows her to work, just so he can keep up with her. This has been going on for just a little over a year now, I had a major operation in November of last year...the night of my surgery, while I was still on Morphine IV, he actually told me he did not want to be with me, that he wanted to be with her!!! Later when I asked him why he chose that time to tell me, he said he thought that since I had some medication in me, I would not get as upset about as I would if I had not been on medication. WHAT A RAT!!!!(i use other words, but i didn't know if they are allowed on the board!!!!)

So, here I am stuck in the middle of ...everyday...I am in the process of trying to move out. I've got to get a part time job to make ends meet...that is ok...I am tired of hearing how he doesn't love me, never has, should never had married me, I am tired of hearing it....oh but..."do you think we could have sex?"!!!!! Can you believe it??!! The nerve...

I am sorry, I strayed from the original post.
I just want to tell you, that I am sorry for what you are feeling and what you are going through. All the emotions are so very real. You deserve someone that is going to love you, and be with you and only you...as do I. As a survivor of suicide, my stepdad 7 years ago, please know that no one can ever replace your smile, your laugh, your eyes, YOU. What I wouldn't give to see my stepdad just one more time. Don't take yourself away from those that love you most over someone who could never love you as much as they do.

I am always on, looking for someone to talk to to pass my time, if you ever want to talk or just need a 'computer' to cry on, PM me I'll be there.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

justkimmie
WHAT A RAT!!!!(i use other words, but i didn't know if they are allowed on the board!!!!)

Wish we could let you express there, hope Rat at least made you feel a bit better. People can be stup1d honestly can't they... Emotions would say never tell someone anything when their "chips" are down, how heartless and cruel, but to stup1d people, they see "oh drugs" best time, what a.......................da*dfedfd* is that better? sorry for this but he is a coward as well as a manipulator, heartless no good um, person....

justkimmie
As a survivor of suicide, my stepdad 7 years ago, please know that no one can ever replace your smile, your laugh, your eyes, YOU. What I wouldn't give to see my stepdad just one more time. Don't take yourself away from those that love you most over someone who could never love you as much as they do.

Well said.