Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I read a thread here but unfortunately, the question never got answered. So i thought i'd create something a little different as not to "hyjack" but hopefully answer what some may have wanted to have read including the author of the thread. If i am allowed, if not, guess i'll be told quick enough. Beauty is indeed in the eyes of the beholder. Women often gain weight especially after childbirth. Some actively commence trying to lose it, others simply want to know how they can look good at the weight they are at, as they may very well like that weight. I think firstly and foremost, you must "think beautiful", i am beautiful, i am woman hear me roar! As such, tend to yourself with villigence. Your nails, toe nails, hair, makeup and dress. Often i see women who lose that confidence and walk around in pink tracky bottoms and blue tracky tops, hair everywhere because they just don't feel "beautiful". Then i can see a beautiful woman who is virvacious and rounded but looks stunning, as she takes care of her appearance, is therefore happy and content and men still look at her as well. In fact, men like all sorts of bodies in a woman, can't think of many other than for vanity that like "sticks". That being, almost anorexic. Sometimes adding red tones to brunette hair, or brown tones to blonde hair can transform your portrait of yourself in the mirror as stunning and to others. Weight in otherwords is not an issue other than to yourself and how you want to be. You have to think you look hot regardless, in order to then look what the end result you desire is. I am size 10, 65k, my height says 71 is ok, and i've been 63 most of my life. But, i feel a tad fat for instance. Slight middle age spread, around that tummy an injury that prevents those excellent crunches, but i walk and just joined the gym to tone. But, i purchased a nice tracksuit for the gym that i liked, my hair is coloured, my make up always on, suttle or bold pending on what i am wearing and where i go, nails done, so i look "beautiful" in my eyes, regardless of the weight i wish to lose, only 3 k, but it's still my goal and dream. If you look after your appearance you feel sexy and in feeling sexy, it is evident and shows. Only ever buy clothes you feel sexy in, not what you think other's wear and therefore may be appealing including underwear as chances are, your intuition is correct, you do look sexy in it, whereas going of what you think other's wear, may not suit you at all and you may also feel that, therefore, not feel sexy and that will show. Be yourself, be happy with your weight and if not, that's your choice only so then do something about it to be where you want to be. You can look great at any weight if you believe in yourself and take pride.

[little-lessons]

I totally agree.

I use to be so hooked on the outside growing up and now that I am a little bit older, on the grand scale of things, it's not the end of the world.

You beauty is what you show to the world - doesn't always have to be the outside, it can be your personality, your smile.

And if at the end of the day - you still worry about the outside, see what you can do for yourself.

I'm sure you look great with your new purchases.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I totally agree.

I use to be so hooked on the outside growing up and now that I am a little bit older, on the grand scale of things, it's not the end of the world.

You beauty is what you show to the world - doesn't always have to be the outside, it can be your personality, your smile.

And if at the end of the day - you still worry about the outside, see what you can do for yourself.

I'm sure you look great with your new purchases.

I think a lot of it comes from too many magazines to read, lol, girls see these skinny models if only they saw them in real life, it's amazing what the editors can do with brushing. I am always amused to be honest over the flabby skin, celulite which we don't see.

A beautiful women, is exactly that, beautiful and yes it starts with the inner self.

I am also an Australian in Australia that will be the first reply that i know of to a fellow australian, not that that matters, just nice to know..

I found that electric blue for instance really highlighted my hair and eyes, watch me shopping now for that colour.....

Enjoy your time here, it's a good place.