Selfish man in the bedroom

[mmtgal]

My bf expects me 2 suck him but when it's his turn 2 do da same 2 me he says "am not used 2 it" or "Ive never done it before" u know all this lame excuses. He only did it once because he was drunk & I was mad him.

Shud I give him da red card 4 being selfish or hope that he will "get used to it" someday?

[mosach]

The red card - till he complies.

[mmtgal]

I'll stop doing it 2 him until he does it 2 me, I mean there are many guys out there who'd like 2 do it 2 me but am stuck here wit him

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Mmmm, you sure you picked the right one?

Nothing disrespectful, i am thinking of your other threads!!!

That he still communicates with his ex, and girlfriends but you can't with guys, or that you were questioning what type of girl, guys like.

Seems your confidence level is fine, great in fact, seems that he's not very well accomodating in any area of your relationship.

Appreciate it's a new relationship but "selfishness" i think needs to be kicked to the kerb a little bit..

I'm more of a equality person myself, or get the bugger out of my life...

Think he needs to learn that he has a live wire, here with lots to offer, want me or not, type of thing.

CW

[SinisterUrge]

Its the 21st century. Oral sex is required for relationships.

"DTMFA" as Dan Savage would say.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Absolutely SU, equality, but mmm, i am not going to decifer that one, it could read very very well......DM....FA what ever, can't see it now...

CW

[Little]

Have you ever eaten out a girl? It's a very different animal than giving a blow job.
Not everything has to be reciprocated; plenty of men like to have anal sex with their wives and don't want to have their own tail ends touched at all.
But if it's something you WANT, something you are going to be very upset and needing if you don't get, then it's going to become something that will ruin the relationship. Break him down as to WHY he doesn't want to do it.

[Fallen1]

Not everything has to be reciprocated;

I think there are a couple of men on this board that will argue this point with you.

But if it's something you WANT, something you are going to be very upset and needing if you don't get, then it's going to become something that will ruin the relationship. Break him down as to WHY he doesn't want to do it.

I agree with Little here. You need to talk with him and find out why. If it's something that you can't live without then it will eventually cause you problems within the relationship. You may need to decide which you can/will give up, him or the oral.

[FionaDiaz]

personally: I hate recieving oral sex... which means my husband is pretty happy!

But if it was something I liked it would be, either before, during or after he recieves oral sex, I'd get it back... or there would be none from him.

You are supposed to please your partner, yes, that's true... however, he is supposed to please you as well. If he doesn't even try then maybe you should think if you really want to be with someone so selfish.

[FionaDiaz]

personally: I hate recieving oral sex... which means my husband is pretty happy!

But if it was something I liked it would be, either before, during or after he recieves oral sex, I'd get it back... or there would be none from him.

You are supposed to please your partner, yes, that's true... however, he is supposed to please you as well. If he doesn't even try then maybe you should think if you really want to be with someone so selfish.

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