a couple of worries.

[dirtyrosh]

i'm not entirely sure where to post this but bear with me because i'm new and don't understand quite yet.

i'm a really self conscious person. there's not really one piece of my body that i have any sort of liking for. i'm worried about EVERYTHING and i don't even have a boyfriend. i kinda just need some support that what i fear is wrong with me is normal.

i have one boob bigger than the other. and i don't mean just a little bit bigger, i mean one is a whole cup size bigger than the other. i'm 18 and my boobs still look like a 15 year olds. this is something that really, really gets me down and i never wear any other bra apart from ones that will hoist them both up and make them look normal which is probably bad for my boobs. do i need to see a doctor about this?

another fear of mine is being hairy. i'm very hairy. it might not help that i used to shave everything when i was about 13 or 14 because i didn't think i was normal. i've got hairy thighs and a very hairy "down there" (all the way down there) and i'm to scared to go and get it waxed, and hair other places. i fear as soon as i take my trousers off, any boy is going to turn around and run for the hills.

is there anything i can do about these problems? or any advice?

[rcoreyus]

You probably notice that one breast is larger than the other, but most people will not. Unless you spend a lot of your time stading at attention for inspections (you aren't in the military are you?), it is unlikely anyone will notice.

Don't worry about breast size for attracting men - From what I can tell, as many men like small breasts as like large - whatever TV adds would seem to suggest. (I'm a man and I prefer women without "emergency flotation devices".

I doubt any 18 year old is going to run for the hills when you take your pants off .

Lots of women are hairy (as are lots of men). Some men like hairy, some don't, many don't care.

Most important though. What men will notice first is your smile. A happy self-confident woman is attractive almost no matter what her physical apperance.

[miffed23]

Most women have one breast larger than the other.

Rcoreyus offered great advice.

Ill add do something that will increase your confidence. Such as joining a dance class, yoga class or be extreme and model for a nude painting...my friend did this because she had absolutely no confidence and now, she takes her clothes off infront of me and is the sexiest woman i know....its all about presence, how you carry yourself.

Treat yourself to some new clothes, shoes, make up....hit the town....learn to love yourself - life is too short.

Good luck honey. x

[miffed23]

oh, and youre only 18....you body hasnt stopped developing yet....you might be wishing in 5 years that you still had 15 year old sized breasts!!!

[Hystorm]

From a Mans stance....I love hairy bum cracks on women.
It shows they have an extra boots of sexual energy! I also love hairy arm pits on a women that are shaven like their vagina. Its a total turn on!

You really have nothing to worry about!

[dirtyrosh]

thank you everyone for the encouraging/kind words! i do feel slightly better. i was bullied quite badly in school and my confidence has always been at an absolute zero because of that (think a bit like Elliot off of Scrubs with her body issues, if you need to know the extremes). i went to an all girls school as well which didn't help. but again, thank you.

[miffed23]

thank you everyone for the encouraging/kind words! i do feel slightly better. i was bullied quite badly in school and my confidence has always been at an absolute zero because of that (think a bit like Elliot off of Scrubs with her body issues, if you need to know the extremes). i went to an all girls school as well which didn't help. but again, thank you.

Aww, im sorry to hear that hon. There are some spitful people out there, all the more reason for you to stand up and be proud of who you are.

I read your introduction post...you like photography, i was wondering if you could get involved with nude photography....i might be way off cue here, but i found my confidence grew when i was younger by seeing other peoples bodies (not in a pervy way)...but kinda understanding what a "real" body looks like instead of an airbrushed "fake" body which we all have printed in our minds from magazines etc.

Sooooo, if you could photograph the nude, natural form it might help your confidence grow. Youll notice that youre not different at all. Bodies come in all shapes, sizes and forms, its what makes us unique. I for one, relish my body...i love how my knees are a bit nobbly, the way my back dips in the middle, how my calves are short....how my breasts sag more than they should for a 23 year old....lol....padded bras are my savour.

Look in the mirror and tell yourself youre beautiful....do it now!!!

[The Orbess]

Who said u have to go baldie-locks down there?
A simple trim will do just fine! As long as u cant braid it, you're in good shape.

Also, a man (a smart man anyways) will see hair on a woman as a sign of strong hormones and a powerful sex drive.

As well as a way to keep warm at night-just kidding honey!

Seriously, dont worry about the boob thing. U can make a play of it, when and if on the slight chance a guy does comment (they most likely won't cuz if he's gotten that far, than he wont wanna screw it up, and have u put your clothes back on), than say you're having a race and you have money riding on lefty...humor is the most powerful tool u can use to deal with something that has u down. If u can't laugh at yourself, than you just wont survive dear.
Above all else, you should really learn to embrace yourself and be comfortable in your own skin.
Guys can sense an insecure girl a mile away...and that only attracts jerks and butt holes that take advantage of that aspect.

Believe me, there are chumpish guys out there who prey on weak girls.

U want to attract a quality guy, so start being quality woman, and be happy with who u are.

Now, if the hair thing has really got you down, there are treatments available for hair removal. There are products out there that help reduce hair growth.

Or u can grow out your hair and sell it! -


But bottom line, u can do whatever you want, just be happy with you. And people will notice that before they notice any flaws u may have.

-The Orbess
p.s. people who point out other's flaws, are only trying to draw attn away from their own flaws. So they are in a very strong aspect, the MOST insecure. So u can take solace in that as well.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

RecoreyusMost important though. What men will notice first is your smile. A happy self-confident woman is attractive almost no matter what her physical apperance.

Did i spell that right? Very true... Kids are school always torment it's nature.. Usually, you end up the swan and they end up the goose

True story.

One side of our body is in fact smaller than the other, look in the mirror at your eyes. It's a fact.

Keep smiling and grow as your own person and watch out world!

The orbess
Or u can grow out your hair and sell it! -

Oh what a sense of humor..........lol.

Miffed 23
Look in the mirror and tell yourself youre beautiful....do it now!!!

You know i'm going to agree with that one.

CW

[shweedart]

Im in the same boat as you my dear so dont threat!
I have hairy thighs and a hairy down there! rather the wax my thighs i either shave or use hair removal cream! easy peasy! and Shaving down there is easy enough as long as your careful!

Before i was with my boyfriend i was ashamed of my body! im a UK size 10, which isnt big at all but i always felt hideous... but after a month or so of being together he made me feel beautiful I'll now quite happily go swimming in a bikini or go buy myself some pretty underwear without thinking that the lady behind the counter is saying to herself "you'll need a lot more then some lace to make you look good!"


And as for him running for the hills! If your ready to take your pants for a guy then he shouldnt be the type that would go running anywhere anyway!



hope i helped a little bit!