Am I ready for sex?

[acerousme]

Hey everyone
Im 19, turning 20, and I am still a virgin. I was mosested at a young age for years, and after that, I decided to stay a virgin until I found the right man who would appreciate me.
I havent found the right man, But I feel as if Im ready.
and then a few things pop into my head.

1) Will my molestation experience pop into my head while having sex?
2) Will my weight hold me back, or make the man Im with not want me?

also, because I was molested...Im not sure if Im an actual virgin, but I still count myself as one because those sexual acts were forced upon me...
so now Im wondering if it will hurt or not.

if it does hurt...does it hurt really bad???
Should I be worried about my weight?
How in the do I know if Im pleasing him???
I've never ever given oral...what if I throw up all over him?
does anal hurt?

AHHHH
This is so tough....Im so confused....please help me.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hey everyone
Im 19, turning 20, and I am still a virgin. I was mosested at a young age for years, and after that, I decided to stay a virgin until I found the right man who would appreciate me.
I havent found the right man, But I feel as if Im ready.
and then a few things pop into my head.

1) Will my molestation experience pop into my head while having sex?
2) Will my weight hold me back, or make the man Im with not want me?

also, because I was molested...Im not sure if Im an actual virgin, but I still count myself as one because those sexual acts were forced upon me...
so now Im wondering if it will hurt or not.

if it does hurt...does it hurt really bad???
Should I be worried about my weight?
How in the do I know if Im pleasing him???
I've never ever given oral...what if I throw up all over him?
does anal hurt?

AHHHH
This is so tough....Im so confused....please help me.

Firstly, i read something here once that 1) touched my heart and soul and 2) i believe to be very, very true.

You are a VIRGIN, until you willing give it to someone.

I also believe that your a born again Virgin when you hold out for long periods, for "the right person"...

With the right man, you don't need to think about anal, or even BJ's, i know you have read a bit here, but one step at a time... No, man would expect you to explore everything straight away... The right man will respect and love you for you, be honoured that you've chosen to wait and honoured that it is him that you waited for... He will not be demanding, wanting and needing..

In addition, you both will learn what you like and don't like sexually and communicate that in the bedroom by talking it through and maybe even after, through conversation...

I believe, that the right man, you will discuss your feelings and hurt with and he will wait until your ready, so as such, you will have total trust and feelings and i feel that as such, no you won't think of what happened at that time, as you have waited and it is special and that is what you will feel with the right partner.

So, the key is to discuss and then wait until your ready. He will emotionally stand by you and you will feel it.

Weight, that doesn't matter either to the right person, a lot of men like a woman to be a woman...

When you find this man, you will know...

He will guide you and he will not expect you to do anything...

So, when you do decide to try BJ's, he will guide you there to.. and you will feel comfortable.

I know i sound like one of those horoscope things, but i go with gut feelings as well as, believes and this is what i believe.

You, keep smiling, know that you are worth your weight in gold and that he, the right one, will be there for you when you are ready...



CW

[BeautifulMommy]

Hey everyone
Im 19, turning 20, and I am still a virgin. I was mosested at a young age for years, and after that, I decided to stay a virgin until I found the right man who would appreciate me.
I havent found the right man, But I feel as if Im ready.
and then a few things pop into my head.

1) Will my molestation experience pop into my head while having sex?
2) Will my weight hold me back, or make the man Im with not want me?

also, because I was molested...Im not sure if Im an actual virgin, but I still count myself as one because those sexual acts were forced upon me...
so now Im wondering if it will hurt or not.

if it does hurt...does it hurt really bad???
Should I be worried about my weight?
How in the do I know if Im pleasing him???
I've never ever given oral...what if I throw up all over him?
does anal hurt?

AHHHH
This is so tough....Im so confused....please help me.

OK...Well I have to say that I like your questions and worries about this. That shows maturity. Most that have been molested become premiscuous. Not becase that is what type person they are but it is the result from what their abuse did to them.

How BIG are you? If the guy loves you and really cares for you then he knows you are big and it wont bother him. NOW, it may bother YOU and if it does then I suggest trying to loose some weight to help yourself feel better about yourself. It takes a while and takes determination but in as little as 2 weeks you can see a difference and then that will make you proud enough to continue on with it! After 3 babies I had to do some serious excersing and cutting back at the table. I have come down 15 pounds or so and even though my husband NEVER for one second gave me the inkling that he thought I was getting fat ... HE REALLY loves me being fitter! I clearly see it on his face and he tells me how great I look and how he is proud of me for going for it!

NOw, I have memories of being molested by a neighbor from when I was 5. I know that it happend or I wouldnt have these memories in such detail. It bothers me sometimes but I really cant say that it has affected me during sex. It doesnt pop up in my head but does at other times.

I think it takes a while of having sex before you will be actually GOOD at it. The more experience you have then the better the sex will get. For ex: My husband and I have been having sex for 10 yrs. I would say the past 5 have been AWESOME! We got to the point where we would be really comfortable with each other and started going wild with certain sex positions, toys, etc...Im sure you will please the guy no matter how in experienced you are....UMmm he is a guy and usually just a warm body will turn them on! LOL

Sex may or may not hurt. It wont be really comfortable the first time I would say but the more relaxed and turned on you are the better. If you are scared and tense then it will probably hurt a little. And depending on the guys size it can hurt more. Amd when you are giving oral just dont jam it down your throat to the point where your gag reflex kicks in or you are liable to puke on him...Ive done that before! lol Practice on something.

[acerousme]

thank-you SOOO much.
Im glad that you guys answered this.
lol, my sister is always telling me giving oral really isnt hard, but it scares the OUTTA ME!!!!!!

[C]

thank-you SOOO much.
Im glad that you guys answered this.
lol, my sister is always telling me giving oral really isnt hard, but it scares the OUTTA ME!!!!!!

I, too, was a virgin when I married...I found that when I met the right man that each and every little thing worked to perfection...It is the sexual longing for that person that turns you on...How can I explain what you will find someday as it is just plain bliss...

Does it hurt??? Maybe a little but it feels so good...Just relax and smile at him as he makes the two of you one....

The weight will come off probably when this man shows his face...You will want to look so good for him that it isn't even hard...For some reason the two of them come together....Needless to say I am telling my story....

You will know how much you are pleasuring him by the look on his face...You will want to do all these sexual things to him because he makes your heart sing....Sometimes it never stops singing and then you know that you have really got it bad....Mine will not shut up...

As far as being sexually molested forget about it...If you were that young that it isn't even a memory, let it go...I know that years ago I have some faint recollection of something but I have never brought it front and center...Let sleeping dogs lie....Now honey go and have a wonderful life...

Take care, Caroline

[acerousme]

so this may sound like a question...
how will I know if Im having an orgasm????
I abrely ask my mom these things because its kind of embarassing....

[C]

so this may sound like a question...
how will I know if Im having an orgasm????
I abrely ask my mom these things because its kind of embarassing....

You are right...It is embarrassing...and I don't blame you....My description of an orgasm would be this:

You will feel this tingling between your legs.....It will be the most delicious feeling that you have ever had.....It will make you want to spread your legs and want more.....It will make you juicy and wet.....It will make you want to open up and parts of you that you kept sacred all your life you would want touched and God help you when a man licked and sucked them you will then have known that the Gates of Heaven have opened......And my dear, it will make you feel like you have just found a new part of your soul that has just been discovered.....and you have and you will grow from this and become a woman....

Have a great life...Caroline

[BeautifulMommy]

so this may sound like a question...
how will I know if Im having an orgasm????
I abrely ask my mom these things because its kind of embarassing....

You will KNOW when you have an orgasm! There will be no mistaken that feeling!! I promise!

[acerousme]

wow.
I seriously cannot wait.
lol
Its just a bit unnerving, ya know?
I cannot believe how many questions pop up in my head!!!!

[C]

wow.
I seriously cannot wait.
lol
Its just a bit unnerving, ya know?
I cannot believe how many questions pop up in my head!!!!

All part of the wonderful secret of life and love...But I would say, the ultimate gift.... Take care, Caroline