Question to ladies that have trouble orgasming

[SorridLives]

Ladies,

Those of you that cannot orgasm easily or at all during intercourse, or have any problems with it...
What is the reason you think you have the problem?

I was just thinking that the reason I have a problem a lot of time trying to have a *vaginal* orgasm during intercourse is because my husband cannot possibly move as fast as he would need to to make me climax that way! There are times that I will have a vaginal orgasm sheerly because it feels good and I have been having intercourse (usually reverse cowboy) a long time. However, most of the time, I would require a very fast pace that my husband cannot do and does not want to do because he likes it much slower.

Just wondering if others may have the same situation, if you think about it.

[C]

Ladies,

Those of you that cannot orgasm easily or at all during intercourse, or have any problems with it...
What is the reason you think you have the problem?

I was just thinking that the reason I have a problem a lot of time trying to have a *vaginal* orgasm during intercourse is because my husband cannot possibly move as fast as he would need to to make me climax that way! There are times that I will have a vaginal orgasm sheerly because it feels good and I have been having intercourse (usually reverse cowboy) a long time. However, most of the time, I would require a very fast pace that my husband cannot do and does not want to do because he likes it much slower.

Just wondering if others may have the same situation, if you think about it.

Years ago he used to struggle to bring me to orgasm...Not all the time but once in a while....A couple of months ago for the first time in about five years, I had a difficult time being brought to the perfection needed for penetration....I told him this the next day...I had half way faked it...He knew it...I even wrote this up as it puzzled me...It was then that I realized that my mind was clouded with some problem and I took it to bed with me...Stress is a killer in making love....

This will not happen again....TC, C

[dawn2]

i think after 25 yrs of being married that both of us are incapable of getting me to orgasm from any means

[miffed23]

Ladies,

Those of you that cannot orgasm easily or at all during intercourse, or have any problems with it...
What is the reason you think you have the problem?

I was just thinking that the reason I have a problem a lot of time trying to have a *vaginal* orgasm during intercourse is because my husband cannot possibly move as fast as he would need to to make me climax that way! There are times that I will have a vaginal orgasm sheerly because it feels good and I have been having intercourse (usually reverse cowboy) a long time. However, most of the time, I would require a very fast pace that my husband cannot do and does not want to do because he likes it much slower.

Just wondering if others may have the same situation, if you think about it.

I believe the paramount reason, for me, is mindset, or even, possibly consuetude/ habit - i've found myself at a stage where i believe that its just not going to happen, no matter what....and consequently, i stumble upon a vicious circle of believing that its not going to happen, wanting it to happen and then pressure kicks in...so its does not happen...

It would be interesting to discover whether there is actually a scientific / anatomical factor involved... as it is apparent that some women have a specifically hard time orgasming, or whether it is indeed all psychological...

[C]

I believe the most important part of life for me was realizing that all the hidden and sexual things that I had thought about in my mind were good things and not dirty...I had been fed this from childhood...After I ejaculated, I went completely bananas...I became a sexual bomb shell as I let it all loose...I believe I was starting this already in my late 50's and turning that corner of release that let it all hang out...I completely went wild...All the things I had feared about me, the woman in having the affair with my boss before marriage, I found were not bad things but good things...They were woman things and part of my growing as a hot sexual sex object for my husband and not something to be ashamed of...

Because of this new me, I had to talk to my wonderful friend Dr. Patti...At first I talked to her every week...Now I am down to every two weeks...Last week it went to 22 days because of our varying schedules...She had to convince me that I was OK being this hot sexual woman...That this is the way we were made to be, and I know it too...That after all these years of frustration that everything and anything that my husband and I did together was wonderful....And it was and it and it will always be....I am now a cat on a hot tin roof because I have my hot Tom Cat meowing for me to come out......I have let the hidden woman inside of me out....unlocked the door and boy does she roam....Just my thoughts on this.....TC, C

[shweedart]

August 2008's Cosmopolitan magazine (which is out already, why?!..its july!!) has like 3 pages on orgasm facts you may find useful



me and my bf were reading through them earlier on

its a good read, definately worth the buy

[Foreverme25]

I think that we've come close to having a vaginal orgasm but he cant go as long as needed to stimulate me long enough. He always makes sure I get an orgasm but it's always a clitoral orgasm. We'll keep trying.

[LoverofSEX]

I believe the most important part of life for me was realizing that all the hidden and sexual things that I had thought about in my mind were good things and not dirty...I had been fed this from childhood...After I ejaculated, I went completely bananas...I became a sexual bomb shell as I let it all loose...I believe I was starting this already in my late 50's and turning that corner of release that let it all hang out...I completely went wild...All the things I had feared about me, the woman in having the affair with my boss before marriage, I found were not bad things but good things...They were woman things and part of my growing as a hot sexual sex object for my husband and not something to be ashamed of...

Because of this new me, I had to talk to my wonderful friend Dr. Patti...At first I talked to her every week...Now I am down to every two weeks...Last week it went to 22 days because of our varying schedules...She had to convince me that I was OK being this hot sexual woman...That this is the way we were made to be, and I know it too...That after all these years of frustration that everything and anything that my husband and I did together was wonderful....And it was and it and it will always be....I am now a cat on a hot tin roof because I have my hot Tom Cat meowing for me to come out......I have let the hidden woman inside of me out....unlocked the door and boy does she roam....Just my thoughts on this.....TC, C

Boy I wish my wife was this way needing it every morning, afternoon or at night, I would find that very arousing having her come in and say I want you to (Fill in the blank) guess I wouldn't even be doing my weekly exercises. Right now we go at it once a week and the next day I am hornier than the day before. I have NEVER been able to get her to climax that's why I bought the "The cone" and it works, about 5-8 years ago she confessed that I had never brought her to climax and was just pretended that I did..... so much for the male ego when she popped my balloon :-( I can't last long enough for her aspelly now cause if I go to long I loose my hard-on even with Cialis.

[Fire(m)]

Mind if I ask what is "the cone"?
Cheers.