Peanut Gallery: "You don't need to lose weight"

**Katsaly** · 08-04-2009, 01:34 PM

I wonder if other people experience this: Friends and acquaintance telling you that you don't need to lose weight. Personally, I find it a bit frustrating. I get it from two kinds of people: People bigger than me, and younger girls about 30 pounds lighter.

I seem to get it because I carry most of my excess weight in my thighs, so I can hide it under a flowing skirt, but the persistence kind of throws me when I point out to people that I'm actually several pounds overweight. Or that I've gained quite a bit in the last few years. The come back with "but you are only a little overweight." I suppose this is true, in that there are certainly people who have more to worry about than I do, but I can't help but think that if I were 5-10lbs UNDERweight people would be seriously concerned, since that would put me at about 100-105lbs.

Does anyone else get this from people? Or similar lines like "You aren't THAT big" or whatnot?

Personally I find it very irritating because my desire to get comfortably into the normal/healthy weight category is something that is important to me right now, and being even a little overweight can increase the chances of things like heart disease quite a lot.

**Hopeless Dork** · 08-04-2009, 02:40 PM

There are always going to be people trying to sabotoge your progress, even well-meaning types that don't realize that is what they are doing. There are SO many reasons for this behavior but all that matters is that you recognize it, and smile and do what you need to do be a healthy you anyway.

RunLola · 08-04-2009, 04:41 PM

Yes! My weight was concentrated from my butt to my thighs too so I could cover it up, but that's besides the point! And since no one wants to dress with the AIM of looking overweight...
The best advice I have is to just listen to yourself. If you feel overweight, and unless a Doctor or health professional tells you otherwise, keep up your work. As for why people do it, as Hopeless Dork said- there's a bunch of reasons. Who knows, maybe you can find a way to use those frustrating comments as motivation to help you =)

08-04-2009, 01:34 PM	#1
Katsaly Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 130	Peanut Gallery: "You don't need to lose weight" I wonder if other people experience this: Friends and acquaintance telling you that you don't need to lose weight. Personally, I find it a bit frustrating. I get it from two kinds of people: People bigger than me, and younger girls about 30 pounds lighter. I seem to get it because I carry most of my excess weight in my thighs, so I can hide it under a flowing skirt, but the persistence kind of throws me when I point out to people that I'm actually several pounds overweight. Or that I've gained quite a bit in the last few years. The come back with "but you are only a little overweight." I suppose this is true, in that there are certainly people who have more to worry about than I do, but I can't help but think that if I were 5-10lbs UNDERweight people would be seriously concerned, since that would put me at about 100-105lbs. Does anyone else get this from people? Or similar lines like "You aren't THAT big" or whatnot? Personally I find it very irritating because my desire to get comfortably into the normal/healthy weight category is something that is important to me right now, and being even a little overweight can increase the chances of things like heart disease quite a lot.

08-04-2009, 02:40 PM	#2
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 1,238	There are always going to be people trying to sabotoge your progress, even well-meaning types that don't realize that is what they are doing. There are SO many reasons for this behavior but all that matters is that you recognize it, and smile and do what you need to do be a healthy you anyway. __________________ ------------- Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

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08-04-2009, 04:41 PM	#3
RunLola Junior Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: New York Posts: 11	Yes! My weight was concentrated from my butt to my thighs too so I could cover it up, but that's besides the point! And since no one wants to dress with the AIM of looking overweight... The best advice I have is to just listen to yourself. If you feel overweight, and unless a Doctor or health professional tells you otherwise, keep up your work. As for why people do it, as Hopeless Dork said- there's a bunch of reasons. Who knows, maybe you can find a way to use those frustrating comments as motivation to help you =)