Thread: Anyone ever had people tell you this?

I think it's pretty common, unfortunately. People, sometime esp friends and relitaves seem insecure when you begin a lifestyle change. They try to change ya back in small, subtile ways which they may not even realize they are doin.

This helped me: readin fitness, nutrition articles, visitin fitness websites and chattn w/ other girls in the same boat, anything to keep my mind focused. You may also want to try 2 get a 'fitness bud' and workout, encourage each other. And staying away from people who bring u down or offer bad foods. Hmmmm ,,, js realizn, same principles as AA.

anyway, hope this helps some. OH, it does get easier over time. Habits get ingrained and u don't struggle so much. Also, downer friends eventuall adapt to the new u.
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Friendly sabotage. You have to take what people say when you are trying to change your life for the better with a grain of salt. Overweight friends sometimes don't want to lose a comrade... they don't want to be left behind while you progress.. and skinny friends sometimes don't want the competition.... they enjoy their role being the 'skinny one' and as much as these friends love you, most people love themselves most.

And when I started losing weight my friends were happy for me at first but as I got closer to my goals both overweight and average weight friends alike where uncomfortable with the new me I was becoming. People generally don't like change they are use to you a certain way.

I even had a "friend" one time told me that I lost too much weight... that I'm less sexy now than I was with a more fuller face etc. Like I should gain back some unhealthy weight to adhere to what she thinks is sexy.

Some mean well, some don't mean well at all, you know whats right for you and as long as your goals are healthy you do what makes you feel good inside and smile at their comments... and put them in the recycle bin of your brain not to be thought about again.

as long as you are not underweight i agree with hopeless dork, people seem uncomfortable with change especially positive change in others. just smile and disregard them.

Thanks all!

Never thought I'd take advice from a hopeless dork

(no offense of course, I just think your name is funny and isn't representative of the sort of things you post around here )

Anyway, I find it really depends on the way I feel anyway. If I'm having a bad day, I'm much more sensitive to this kind of comments. If I'm having a good day, I don't even hear them.

Anyway, thanks again!

As long you feel better on what you have been doing there's no reason for you to quit.

I have the SAME problem! I can lose 5 lbs, and I swear,3 of it is in my face

I need to lose about 15 right now and I've lost about 2 and I can already tell my face is getting thinner... I don't know how to avoid that really... I'd just tell people that it's just how your body works and like everyone else said, as long as you are no underweight and your BMI and body fat percentages need to be lowered, then I wouldn't worry about it.

I also agree with HD that it could be some friendly sabotage...when you start taking charge of your health/appearance, some people don't like it

I wouldn't worry about it, it's hard to be too thin

It might be because people need to get used to your new you I've had those remarks too but mostly from friends or family who've given up on losing weight