Thread: Does my husband care about my weight?

you guys have read it too? my best friend told me about it, I didnt know so many people knew about it.

Are the first 2 e books still free?

yes, the last time I checked they were...

The book really opened my eyes to how we ignore the mental aspect of losing weight...

Hey guys, after my previous post, I got a lot of people asking me to post more from the book. So here it is.

This really really helped me.

After I read the this, I realized that I didn’t have a specific reason for wanting to lose weight that motivated me enough. I honestly emailed 50 (well probably not that many, but it felt like it!) of my friends when I read this because it completely reframed everything for me! I knew that staying committed and motivated was my biggest downfall but had no clue that there were ways to overcome that.

For those who haven’t read the book, I’ve paraphrased some of what I was talking about above – so that you can read it here.

This really helped me and I hope it does the same for you.

…on why we want to lose weight

If you were asked the question: why exactly do you want to lose weight? Would you have a very specific answer? Is that something that you have ever thought about?

Here is an example to illustrate what I’m getting at: Kate and Cindy may be asked that exact same question and have very different answers. Let’s just create their responses for the purpose of this example:

Kate: “I want to lose weight because I want to be thin and look pretty”.


Cindy:”I want to lose weight so that I will attract my soul mate when I meet him”.

Really think about this, whose answer to the question holds more value and weight behind it? Just by going on your gut feeling, whose mindset, Kate or Cindy’s, do you think will have the stronger driving force that will ultimately motivate her to lose weight?

There is far more of a driving force and motivation behind Cindy’s answer.

Why?

Think about it, the reason she wants to lose weight is so that when she finally meets her soul mate, he will be attracted to her. Can you imagine meeting your soul mate, and him not giving you a chance just because you were overweight – that’s hard to even think about.

Everyone’s reason for losing weight will be different, it doesn’t have to be the same as Cindy’s, but ideally, just as strong.
The point is that if you don’t have a really strong, meaningful reason that goes deeper than “I want to be thin”, you won’t have anything motivating enough to drive you to actually take action.
If you find it hard to stay committed and motivated, there is a good chance that your reason is not motivating enough.

So right now, why do you really want to lose weight?
If your answer is NOT a really strong, motivating one, that’s ok.
The good part is that you can create one, and it’s not hard to do.

How do I create one?

Two ways:

Let’s keep using Cindy’s soul mate answer as an example:

1. The fear of losing something– losing her soul mate because he was not attracted to her.

2. The desire of gaining something – attracting her soul mate because he was attracted to her.

We need to work out which one works best for us, everyone is different. The truth however, is that humans are far more motivated by the fear of losing something (not weight in this case), than by the prospect of gaining something.

Sometimes fear, even though uncomfortable, is a good thing. People who have completely turned their situation around have often said that a doctor warned them of possible death if they didn’t start losing weight.

What fears do you have?

Are they strong enough to cause you to take action?

or

What desires do you have?

Are they strong enough to cause you to take action?

What we need to do is:
Create a powerful, motivating reason for wanting to lose weight that is going to outweigh all your reasons for not taking action.

Does this make any sense to you guys? It did for me.

There is more on this that I can post, let me know!

Oh and if you have read the book you will see that I paraphrase horribly! Sorry. But I think I got the idea across.