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    im getting married in 4 months, im so excited it is to my best friend and i cant wait to spend the rest of my life with him, but ive been working my butt off to lose weight.
    im 23, in highschool i had very many issues that had to do with weight loss because unlike the girl who could eat what ever she wanted i had to watch what i ate and work out constantly.. being in dance didnt help because that brought on eating disorders, i remember the first time i tried diet pills it was a whole new addiction that i loved!!! unfortunately it turned into sticking my fingers down my throat and or skipping meals!!
    my friends currently are skinny lil things with big fake boobs me well im 5'6 208 lbs which dont get me wrong is good considering 2 yrs ago i was 300 lbs, but i just dont know recently about a month ago the weight loss clinic and gym was not cutting it i began throwing up again my fiance has found out so everytime i go to the bathroom he drills me... i know im losing weight and i know its not the right way but when i look at my self in the mirror i know im a fat blob, ugh it makes me sick!!!! everytime i even eat a salad i instantly feel disgusted with myself....
    i thought i was stronger then what i am i dont know what to do i feel like if i stop then i wont do anything but gain and i cant gain weight..... ive even talked about not having children because i want a tummy tuck and boob job even though i know i would regret that decision... i need help i just dont know what to do anymore....
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    Oh man. I've definitely been here before. Trust me when I tell you gagging yourself will hurt you way more than you think it will help! For one, that weight you're losing isn't being lost in a healthy way and can make you sick. It will also rot your teeth which I assume isn't a look you're interested in. You should work on being happy with yourself! There are plenty of sources to find ways to get to a healthy weight in a healthy way. That way, it's easier to keep off. I hope you find the help you need with this!

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    It doesn't have to be difficult. Burn more calories than you eat. And eat only healthy foods.

    What's your diet like at the moment? Just list out everything you eat on a daily basis. I bet we'll be able to find one thing to completely eliminate immediately for better weight results.

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    Quote Originally Posted by marryingmybff View Post
    recently about a month ago the weight loss clinic and gym was not cutting it i began throwing up again my fiance has found out so everytime i go to the bathroom he drills me... i know im losing weight and i know its not the right way but when i look at my self in the mirror i know im a fat blob, ugh it makes me sick!!!! everytime i even eat a salad i instantly feel disgusted with myself....
    i thought i was stronger then what i am i dont know what to do i feel like if i stop then i wont do anything but gain and i cant gain weight..... ive even talked about not having children because i want a tummy tuck and boob job even though i know i would regret that decision... i need help i just dont know what to do anymore....
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    Honey... IMO, you need counseling based on the above bolded comments.

    You can't starve yourself, your body is going to hold onto every little thing it gets and hanging on to everything you have. Of course you are not losing weight, you need food!!! Funny isn't it, you need food to lose weight.

    You need to be smart about your choices. A salad is not going to kill you, get that out of your head. I've been through it, I also took an extreme step to remedy it, but I've learned tons in the process!!! When my calorie count is too low, I start gaining a pound here and there, the day that I bump up my calories a bit, my body heaves a big sigh of relief and it falls right back off along with a little bit more.

    You need to eat girl! But you also need some professional help with your body image issues.
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    The pounds always seem to go on a lot easier than they come off. Is there any medical reason for your weight (such as thyroid issues, taking medication that causes you to get bloated like birth control pills)? It sounds to me like you are or boardering on an eating disorder and you really need to get it into check because it will only cause you severe health issues in the long run. It's difficult wanting the weight to come off quickly and not seeing the results as fast as you would like... but look on the bright side, you are seeing results POSITIVE results. Also... keep in mind, people that lose way the correct way (watching what they eat, exercise etc...) are more likely to keep the weight off and maintain a lower weight so while it seems like it's taking forever, doing it the right way will pay off far more in the long run. You need to find a program that includes a healthy diet and exercise that will jump start your metabolism. I know it's a difficult road losing weigh (I have struggled with it my entire life) but the last thing you want is to develop an eating disorder because it will cause irrepairable damage to your body, teeth, bones, skin, looks.... and a few extra pounds is not worth all of that.

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    I agree with Lana! You should really, really REALLY consider counseling for your eating disorder (PLEASE?!). This is nothing to treat flippantly - people in your shoes seriously and permanently damage their bodies, and in severe cases - die.

    A healthy lifestyle is the only way to truly lose the weight and keep it off. A salad should never make you feel like a fat blob - they're packed full of good nutrients for your body with very low calories (depending on the toppings used). The basics to losing weight and staying healthy is regular moderate to intense exercise, plenty of water, and healthy and balanced foods to fuel your body so you build lean mass and burn fat.

    Consider talking to your doctor and getting set up with someone who can help you make healthier weight loss plans - a counselor and/or nutritionist would be a great place to start.
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