Thread: Can Sex make you Fat?

Howdy Friend,

I have been getting many messages, calls and it is a highly discussed topic when met person as well. How to lose weight for my coming wedding? But what many of us don’t realize is, How to ward off from gaining weight after marriage? We do believe in Sex making a person fat, is it? Don’t you think than the people who are skinny and want to gain weight need to be prescribed having sex three times a day after having a snack, imagine!!!

My zippers bust, my buckles break
I'm too much man for you to take
The pavement cracks when I fall down
I've got more chins than Chinatown
Well, I've never used a phone booth
And I've never seen my toes
When I'm goin' to the movies
I take up seven rows
- Weird Al Yankovic

Don’t let yourself sound similar after marriage.


BEFORE MARRIAGE
(Baby! I am rockstar)
When people are single, there may be more incentive to be thin. Many of us are in the best shape of our lives on our wedding day. In fact, most of us make an extra special effort to lose weight and tighten up any flabby bits so we look great in our wedding dress or suit and wedding photos.

THE JUST-MARRIED ADVENTURE
(Remove star and read again ;-) )

• You think you have found a partner for life, no need to attract her/him anymore.
• You need to let your hubby know that you are a good cook.
• You cook for the family, giving preference to their choice.
• You eat as much as your partner, talking and munching!
• You eat the left-over, trying not to waste food.
• Your partner encourages you to eat more showing that your extra fat is not going to turn him off.
• Your desire for a good figure will give you a good healthy life style as well
• Pregnancy occurs




MARRIAGE – A LICENSE TO FEEL SAFE AND GO FAT?
There is a clichéd notion of red tapism, lazy employees, corruption, less working hours, job security, favouritism in the government babus (employee). Oh my sweetheart! Look around, especially in the mirror, have you hidden a babu in You?

Life changes after marriage, you are more loved, more cared and more secured than ever. The first 12 months are the formative months for your marriage. Do not let it go. Staying fit will give you confidence to lay the foundation of your marriage, and at the same time you will remain attractive to your husband. If you put on weight, you only store trouble for the future

Marriage doesn’t mean you give up on looking attractive to your spouse. Whatever be your age you can always make your spouse blush thinking of you. Love is the most obvious and needed ingredient in any relationship, agreed. It will be a much appreciated add on if you take care of your looks, behaviour, hygiene, weight, it can be ‘the’ gift for your partner. I am sure every male or female would want to stay loyal in the relationship. There is no harm in being the best of what you are.

You would not want your hubby to look at the sexy bikini babes on television and have a good time! or Let your wife think of the next door hunk while touching you. So change yourself before your partner changes preferences!!!




SEX AND THE FATTY
The weight gain has nothing to do with sex for either gender. It's often the comfort of being in a relationship and the associated sense of security that make people gain weight. People in relationships are likely to eat more than single people. If you want to avoid gaining weight after marriage, exercise regularly and maintain a healthy diet.

It’s the food that you eat during your wedding, on your honeymoon, at friends or family’s parties after your wedding that makes you gain weight. So control your cravings for food, not for sex!


WHAT DO STUDIES HAVE TO SAY?

• Studies show that couples who are happy, stay in shape than those who are not. The reason behind this, you tend to put your concentration more on food and find solace in eating and cooking whatever you feel like, to suppress your depression and frustration. Hey, for heaven's sake, change the idea of eating more!! This will cause you more depression in the long term.

• Stuart and Jacobson write that a woman's weight and body image are in delicate balance with her marital happiness, sexual satisfaction and self-esteem. Married women surveyed cited a lack of adult companionship if they had left an office to care for a child, fatigue from child and elder care and work, and criticism from their husbands about their increasing weight as reasons they turned to food for consolation. Other stay-at-home mothers said not having daily contact with men diminished their motivation to look their best.

They also saw advantages to being overweight. Wives noted that extra weight deflected flirtatious male attention; women who lost weight described being troubled by a temptation to yield to affairs. Women reported disappointing or frightening sexual experiences they attributed to their weight loss. Other women stayed overweight to shelter themselves from fear of failure, where more might be expected of them if they presented a confident, weight-appropriate appearance.

• Marriage can lead to people gaining weight. Researcher Penny Gordon-Larsen of the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill saw that in national survey data on couples.

Gordon-Larsen says individuals who got married during the study were more than twice as likely to become obese than couples who were dating.

This doesn’t mean marriage is bad for you. Even just from a health point of view, marriage is good – married couples, for instance, live longer. But Gordon-Larsen notes that marriage causes changes in lifestyle.

She says people who settle down together shouldn’t just settle down and eat.


GAINING WEIGHT IS SOCIALLY CONTAGIOUS
A study showed one person's obesity can significantly increase the chance that his or her friends, siblings and spouse also will become heavy, and if a person slims down, the people around him or her also may lose weight.
Moral of the story: Be in company of the people who are health enthusiast, aware of their food habits and take workouts seriously. Get inspired.



IF YOUR SPOUSE IS OVERWEIGHT, WHAT IS YOUR ROLE?
If your spouse is trying to lose weight, be a help not a hindrance. Don’t expect him to control when you are making merry with the ice-cream or don’t let your family force her to eat calorie laden food when she is on a diet plan. You can relish all the delicacies in the company of your friends or alone, but please stay away from your spouse when eating.

Marriage involves teamwork, which includes building each other up in all areas. If you want to become or remain healthy and in shape, it is important for your spouse to be healthy and physically fit as well.



THE BUDDY SYSTEM
How to make it more effective when your spouse and you both are aiming for weight loss? Studies have shown that couples who diet and exercise together are more successful—both with their lifestyle and their marriage. Here's how you can work together for a healthier you.

• Listen to each other's problems without trying to solve them. Practice reassuring each other.

• Praise each other. Feeling good about your weight loss progress is essential to keeping on track. Look for opportunities to praise each other in private and public.

• Exercise together regularly.

• Share your meals when you dine out. Restaurants usually serve too much food so we split your meals or take home leftovers.

• Encourage your spouse to stick to the diet even when he or she fails.

Don’t forget Married Couples (have to) Remain Together Through Thick and Thin !!! ;-)


Your Buddy,

Sapna Vyas Patel