Snooping around this morning and came across this post. I like the point bel08 makes about those of us who are more gender fluid not being put off by some traits of our gender on the opposite gender. I find this to be a touchy point for me. I have been attracted to men who have somewhat of an androgynous "look" but there is a reallll fine line to me. Shaved arms and legs is too much for me. I like a man with some hair. I don't mind one who is well groomed, but he need not be softer than me. I'm dating someone now who has very long hair. My personal opinion is that he'd be much more handsome with a shorter cut, but I'm just fine with him the way he is. But I did tell him that I'm not a fan of the "man bun" or the "he-hive". LOL!