Have You Ever Done Any Online Dating?

[DrayWalkin]

I didn't use online dating for too long, but I had a good experience with it. I was shy my whole life, and it was hard for me to interact with girls.

[Kate_Reed]

I was in a relationship with a guy from online dating site for about a year, but nothing worked out because of the distance(

Nope I haven't done any dating online and also don't have any experience of online dating ...

[G-Wagon]

I have tried it. Quite a disaster i must say. To those who got it right i applaud them.

[Kayla Lords]

I've never tried dating apps but I met both my first husband and my current husband online, started online relationships, did the long-distance thing (both times), and then got married. The current husband is the keeper, and the first husband was proof I clearly needed higher self-esteem.

And previous responses are spot on -- it's exceedingly difficult to gauge someone's tone, intent, and even true personality through online chat. With both relationships, we moved from online to phone calls fairly quickly as hearing a voice certainly isn't foolproof but knowing their tone -- when you ask questions, when difficult conversations come up, when they're happy, angry, upset, etc -- can really help.

If I'm ever in the position to date again (and technically, I am as we're non-monogamous but I don't have the time or energy for another partner, let alone to go looking for one), I can't imagine using a dating app, although I know it's the most common way these days.

That being said when people ask me how I met my husband or how to meet people online, my method probably won't help. "Start a sex blog and bare your soul and body on the internet" probably isn't universal advice, lol.

[Alex Paul]

I haven't tried any online dating apps yet. Actually, it sucks. Many of my friends have gone through these and they are not satisfied. The problem is, the people we meet through these kinds of apps are not trustworthy. Their profiles don't reflect who they are in person.

[princess_13]

No, maybe I am been scared of being dump.

[Wednesday L.F.]

I met my now husband at an online dating site. That was in 1999…long before Tinder and other “hookup” apps were around. Come to think of it, we didn’t even have cell phones at the time.

if you know what you’re looking for, online dating can be highly successful.

[Zoë T.]

With internet dating we get to decide how we want to present ourselves via profile pictures and bios. There is no way to physically connect through the internet (even though social media sites claim otherwise.. I don't even want to think about what dating will be like when the metaverse is a real thing..) and it does seem like nowadays meeting people is broken down into steps. Like matching with a profile, chatting on the site, then exchanging phone numbers, then texting, and then finally meeting in person. I never actually feel like I can gauge what someone is actually like online, and often am quite surprised by how differently people are in person vs. what they are like on the internet. It's near impossible to accurately read tone and understand the nuance of interpersonal communication through a screen and for that reason I am saddened that it seems that the internet is taking over dating more and more as time goes by. I do know people however that love to connect and meet people through the internet! So while I don't think it's impossible to make internet friends, or date folks from the internet, I am still sad that it seems that meeting IRL is becoming less and less viable. I do think that the internet is rapidly changing the ways that we communicate and process communication.

[Chrissy M.]

Great advise atskitty2 ! Definitely a good idea to run your site past a friend. Writing about yourself is a lot more challenging than you would think! My article included some tips on how to write an effective dating profile as well as how to select good pictures. In my opinion, it's not so much which site you use, but how you use that site as a tool. At the end of the day, it comes down to presenting yourself well and putting in the time and effort necessary - It might sound unromantic, but it's a numbers game. Stick with it and stay positive!