How Do I Know If He Loves Me? This Is A Loaded Topic...Let's Discuss It!

[Ashlee T.]

Have you ever been head over heels for a guy but weren’t sure if the feelings were mutual? Is he in love with you? How can you know for sure?

He loves me? He loves me not? Since we have all probably experienced this dilemma a time or ten, we devoted an entire article on the topic and this post for discussion.

So, what kind of signs do you look for? Have you ever thought a guy loved you but turned out to be totally wrong? Or perhaps you didn’t recognize his love signals and missed out on a great romance? Was he the “one that got away?”

Men often show their love in entirely different ways than we do!

We are eager to hear your experiences, words of wisdom, or even questions on the topic. So, let’s discuss it here!

This discussion is based on our corresponding article on our website that talks about the signs to look for to know if your man truly loves you.

You can read the full article by clicking here: https://www.womens-health.com/does-he-love-me

[Popcorn&Candy]

I've had the opposite happen to me: a guy really liked me - and we were friends for a good number of years - but he wanted what I couldn't deliver, so things naturally ended after that. But I have fond memories of our time together and don't regret getting to know him.

That's my life story!

[Ashlee T.]

Popcorn&Candy - Interesting! So did you just not share the same feelings he had for you? Unrequited love is always so tough! I have experienced that too, in both directions, unfortunately.

[Jerry Chang]

hmm,that's a question...

[Popcorn&Candy]

His name is Nick. He is a good person and I felt I wasn't the right person for him. He deserves someone a bit more adventurous than me. Of course I am no stick-in-the-mud, but he was not right for me and vice versa. Still, I do miss his friendship.

I hope that answers your query! There are good memories and I will always treasure our time together.

[Lucille]

If he asks her to spend the night or move in with him, it may be so he can have sex with her. It may not necessarily means he's committed.
Too often, a man will pretend to be committed, to love her, so she'll be more inclined to have sex with him.

My advice would be to not have sex with him and see if he's still committed, see if he still shows you he love you.

[Ashlee T.]

Lucille - This is true! Especially on the "spending the night" part. There are definitely easier ways for a man to get sex than to move a woman in with him though, so I still lean toward thinking that asking to live together is a sign of greater commitment.

I think leaving sex off the table could be an interesting approach. Some people think the opposite, that if you have sex early on then you've taken that "lust" and drive for the sex conquer away and made room to see what he really feels. In other words, if he's truly only after sex, then he may be less likely to lead you on for months if he has already gotten what he wants.

I'm not sure of the best approach there. I think it just depends on the person.

[Popcorn&Candy]

You're absolutely right, Lucille: the man could pretend to love the woman just to get her in the sack. It is just the way of things, I suppose. That doesn't make it right, but it happens and always will. However, most older women wise up to this behaviour. Although I am not saying young women always fall for it: some do, though. Still, a woman could use a man herself: women can also be snakes in the grass!

[amy40]

how to know if he loves you?
he asks you to marry him

[ellabond]

I'm not afraid to take a stand, so I'll describe my opinion in more detail. I read my statements several times before I lay 'em down.
Well, if the feelings are mutual, and the person feels that he or she is important, he or she will be sure of it. As far as intuition goes, it works that way, and there's nothing you can do about it. My friend wanted to pull his **** from the dirt, wanted to make a lot of money to prove to a girl that he loved her. She appreciated it but left for someone else who was always there for her. I mean, I feel disgusted when my husband touches me just because I'm in a bad mood. And he doesn't feel disgusted. He is sure that I love him. Young people aren't sure of themselves so you have to doubt and prove something every time, but why should you do that?