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just feeling...IDK second class & unwanted

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  • just feeling...IDK second class & unwanted

    ...and having some jealousy issues with, of all people...my sister. (maybe thats normal! lol!)
    So heres the deal. Shes seeing someone. Kindof a FWB situation, but they are exclusive to each other in that manner...free to date whomever else though. But niether of them do because I think they're both ready to take it to the relationshp level. I'm totally single, just broke up from a short lived relationship and happy abput it.
    But, shes got this other guy interested and kinda chasing after her. To her defense, she didnt try for it. It just kinda happened. But, shes not interested in him in the least & he has no clue. and, she lets him chase anyway. Kinda leading him on, I guess, IMO. he doesnt know about the other guy shes (edit) because She wont tell him.

    just so happens, I find this guy REALLY attractive and he is SO my type. Hes not her type at all. While I'm energetic and outgoing, I tend to be a little more reserved. Shes totally outgoing and on the primiscuious side. Im not, which I feel is extrodinarily special. Especially for someone like him, who I can tell, isnt either. Hes the reclusive type. Friendly, but not the kind to just talk to any stranger standing there. I get along wth that type!! They intrigue me! She gets frustrated with that personality.
    Shes said numerous times...'I totally need to hook you and him up you would get along so well!!' Tried last night. All his attention seemed to be focused on her, so kindof a big dissapointment. I just gave up trying because, whats the point?

    Of course, as it goes with most sibs, I've always been a little jealous of her anyway. I truley love her, dont get me wrong. But shes the older sis, we're very close in age.

    So I'm just kinda feeling brushed aside and frustrated. I kinda had high hopes, i'll admit. Shes totally leading on this good guy, whom I would love to have a chance with. I've told her she needs to tell him about the other guy. Just say shes not interested in more than friends...in a respectful way, of course. She just kinda brushes that off. Honesltly, i think she just enjoys having someone else chasing after her and spend money on her. And that would be ok, i guess, if he was the player type, but hes the type that would be heartbroken & totally dissapointed if she lets it go on and lets him believe he has a chance, then drops the bomb.
    guh. IDK. Any comments are welcome. Im kinda feeling down in the dumps & maybe just needed to get this off my chest.

    thanks for reading
    Last edited by CHANDLERS WISH; 05-02-2011, 02:08 AM. Reason: Cannot go behind the profanity filter
    "Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Because those who mind dont matter, and those who matter dont mind"
    ~ Dr. Suess

  • Honey, it's not success and you are a failure that is what you are thinking huh

    It's that she is carefree not ready for a relationship unless she likes the person and her FWB may be the one, but look what she did? She tried to set you up with the other guy...She's a good sister, and you need to see that naturally if he has the hots for her he won't even look at anyone sweet heart it's not you

    What you need to do is look in the mirror and stop comparing and see the beauty in your self and you prob want a guy to want, like you you prob don't want a FWB's situation as you are different so time therefore is what is going to happen it takes more time that's all.

    I bet you are full of love and just in a hurry to get there and give and receive



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      • It sounds like he is attracted to your sister's type A personality. I think, to get him to notice you, you will have to have some of the type A personality, probably by chasing him. Maybe tell him that you and he are going on a date, no ifs, ands or buts. Make sure you pick a day that he has free. Maybe tell him you two can talk about your sister, but make sure you limit it on the date. Be the initiator.
        I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
        Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

        From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia


        • Thanks for your kind words!! Im not hung up on it, (or him). Think I'll just move along and find someone who wants me for...me!
          "Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Because those who mind dont matter, and those who matter dont mind"
          ~ Dr. Suess


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