We became heated very quickly and we wanted to have sex but the first day I said no because I wanted to be in a relationship before sex (I am very nervous about it and I have done it before but in a way I'm old fashioned) he tried to talk me into it but I stood my ground and said no, he then told me he didn't want to date me because he wanted to be sure he was over his girlfriend and everything and didn't want to make a mistake getting into something with me right now. I was hurt but said it was fine. A few days later and we tried to have sex, I physically felt numb and couldn't respond very well so we stopped and he hasn't really mentioned anything sexual since.
He has been so nice to me sending me kisses in texts and talking to me and being cute but for the past few days he has been drifting a little and hasn't been talking to me as much, not in a nasty way like he's ignoring me, just finding other things to do and slightly putting off replying. I asked him if he thought if something was wrong and he said no, he still wants to hang out with me and have sex with me but he hasn't mentioned it nearly as much, he also has not spoken at all about dating.
I'm not a dumb person and I think he thinks he can have everything from me but without the relationship so he can get away with perhaps doing stuff with other girls or being his usual flirtatious self and not have to tie down to me. I have nobody else at all to speak to and I'm very lonely and I really like him. I am more logical than emotional, am I right in thinking he doesn't truly want me and only wants some fun and is leading me in hopes of a relationship but in reality I'm not getting it and he thinks he has me fooled? Or am I just being paranoid?
What do you think?
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