lol, just realized Im now having hypothetical breakups on the internet...oh how funny life has become.
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open marriage and cheating
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Originally posted by amy40 View Post
lol, just realized Im now having hypothetical breakups on the internet...oh how funny life has become.
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Originally posted by a_dub View Post
Its difficult to find single woman to date period.I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia
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Originally posted by atskitty2 View PostI guess I had the idea that people opened up marriages after years of trying, and had enough positive things to keep them married, but were seeking to fill some other needs. I knew, of course, that there were polyamorous, etc....but I had no idea it was so prevalent.
I didn't realise that many are going into it as an open relationship.
The problems usually arise when one party wants it and the other is only agreeing because they are being pressured or not fulfilling parts of their relationship, usually sexual.
Open marriages are way more common than you think.Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)
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Originally posted by atskitty2 View PostJns, I think everyone I've ever heard comment on experience dating outside the US has said the same.USA
Anyone have thoughts on why this is?
I have read an article or 2 on it over the years, but I am curious your ideas.I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia
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Jns, I also think that's a big reason, and it's been true for me too, though I do think I've recognised that in the past year and I'm working to figure that out.
I agree about the hookup culture too.
I read an article awhile back about why my approach wasn't the best. I had understood more about what I don't want in a partner than what I DO want. It changed my thinking. It is focusing on negative rather than positive about a potential partner. I have not forgotten the things I don't necessarily want, but have tried to move that out of the forefront, and look for the things I DO want first.
I haven't dated much in the past year, but it's really changed my dating approach I think.
What I see in many others is a tendency to focus on the superficial initially and then come up lacking any real connection, months into the relationship.
I think that may be one reason why open relationships are considered after awhile.Last edited by atskitty2; 12-06-2017, 06:50 AM.
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Originally posted by atskitty2 View PostI have not forgotten the things I don't necessarily want, but have tried to move that out of the forefront, and look for the things I DO want first.
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