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    I found some pictures of a little girl (probably about 10) on my husband's computer. She is not nude, but her underwear were showing, and she was in sexy poses. It was obviously meant to turn someone on.

    I'm really in shock and I don't know what to do. I have no idea how to confront him about this.

    We don't have children. He is 24 and we've been together for about 4 years. I've never seen anything like this from him before.

  • God This is hard to say ... But I just ask when I find things out .. But you know your guy and you know how he will be to you if you asked .. you could have a friend ask for you and make it look like yo do not know if you want its hard to know what would be the best way to do .. But you do need to know .. And make shar that you know it a lil girl and not just a women made to look that way .. I hope you have get all you need .. or that someone can give you somethings better
    Bunny

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    • Before panicking...ask.
      This could be a relative's daughter and
      the sick parents think she looks so cute.

      You remember Jon Benet...'Daddy's little
      Hooker', I mean the way they tarted that
      girl up it looked just like porn to me.


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      • If you think it's kiddie porn, it probably is

        My ex-husband was really into hard-core porn. One time, I found a photo he'd downloaded - the girl didn't look over 15.

        After I found out my (now ex) husband was cheating on me, I kicked him out. Shortly thereafter, one of my neighbors told me she was "glad" he was gone. When I asked her why, she said he was taking pictures of her young daughter and friend when they were in their wet bathing suits. The girls were 11. She and her husband asked my ex to stop, and he agreed. However, they soon spied him surreptitiously taking pictures of the girls through an upstairs window (of which he had removed the screen for "better viewing") and our French doors.

        After filing for divorce (without telling me first), my ex tried to play hardball and tried to get half of the community property - and half of what I owned separately. But I found some CD roms on which he'd downloaded some more hard core porn. Guess what? There were pictures of girls - and boys - completely naked, engaged in sexually explicit acts. The kids in this picture were just that - kids. I think the oldest MAY have been 12.

        Needless to say, I got EVERYTHING in the divorce. Sick, twisted prick.

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        • one off? Hobby? Obsession?

          Watching Porn, (not talking about the one off, I'm talking about those
          who watch porn as others watch football), is always a signal that
          there's something 'wrong'.

          Married men who watch porn are sending signals they are being
          unfaithful. It's a coward's way to insure the wife knows that
          'something' is going on without telling her.

          Those who are into 'kiddie porn' are the sickest in the bunch.

          I hate to keep referencing that Ramsey case, but could you imagine
          someone sending your husband a photo of their daughter who won the
          pagent looking like Jon-Benet....?

          I'd take another search of the computer to see if it is a one off.

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          • Reply to Sorrygirl

            To Sorrygirl,

            A woman I met at a wives support group for husbands who are PORN addicts shared some valuable information regarding the Porn her husband was downloading onto the family computer they all shared.

            Initially, it began with her husband downloading the "Hard Core" Adult Porn for many years which is horrendous to begin with, then this perverted SOB became bored with this type of porn so he started downloading teenage PORN thus,this wife began finding teenage Porn on the computer they shared. THIS IS ILLEGAL and needs to be reported to the police!!!!These men are one step away from RAPING young innocent, vulnerable, impressionable children and this needs to be reported!

            As a matter of fact, if you know for a fact that your husband is engaging in this activity, and you turn the other way, and cover up and "sweep this under the carpet" you are withholding information from the police and you can indeed be arrested as an accomplist.

            This wife investigated, made copies and turned them into the police. They did an investigation which confirmed that her husband is indeed a child sex preditor. The police also seized his computer at work to find "child porn" on his work computer as well. He was therefore arrested!

            Just think how many children's precious lives you will be saving from abuse, rape, murder if you turn your husband into the proper authorities.

            JUST make absolutely sure within a reasonable doubt by doing your own investigation first (monitor all of his computer usage and the sites he visits) and make back up copies before you contact the proper authorities!
            Last edited by Gia; 10-06-2007, 12:45 PM.

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            • Originally posted by Gia View Post
              To Sorrygirl,

              Origionally, it began with her husband downloading the "Hard Core" Adult Porn for many years which is horrendous to begin with, then this perverted SOB became bored with this type of porn so he started downloading teenage PORN
              good point. this is exactly what makes porn so dangerous.

              too bad more people don't understand this.

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              • Excellent post Gia!

                Many women don't realise this. "Boys will be Boys"....
                as if it is perfectly normal for a man to watch porn.
                It isn't.

                One side you have the kind of sick pervert who revs
                himself up for raping children by watching porn, on
                the other, the guy whose cheating on his wife, and
                used porn to give him the extra push and now, (snicker
                snicker) leaves it around so, (snicker, snicker) old
                wifey will see it, but won't know that, (snicker,
                snicker) I'm out DOING ALL THESE THINGS!

                Porn is a Red Flag. As soon as you see it, classify
                it.

                The two women having at it, or a man and a woman...
                usually hetero man ... more than one episode...
                he's being unfaithful.

                Teens and kids, he's a pederest, call the police.
                Your husband might be the guy who raped that little
                girl (or boy) down the road.

                As Gia pointed out, knowing and keeping silent
                makes you a co-conspirator.

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                • First, since no one else mentioned this, I am very sorry that you found this and you must be in total shock and disbelief. I cannot imagine being in your shoes right now. It must be very difficult for you to think of what to do next, and to think about what will come after "next."

                  I suppose I would print the pics out, show them to him, and say, "What the hell is this doing on your computer?"

                  Copy the files you found onto a disk, hide it and don't tell him.

                  See what he says. You know him best and I hope you know if he's lying. Unfortunately I cannot imagine a scenario or answer he can give you that will be satisfactory.

                  Good luck. Please let us know how you're doing.

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                  • To Kaylar

                    Hi Kaylar,

                    Thanks for the acknowledgement of my post.

                    Since you are an attorney, I would like to ask you for your opinion.
                    (I'm a Research Scientist/Engineer working towards my Ph.D Thesis in the area of Pharmaceutical and Cancer Research.) I know absolutely nothing about Divorce Law/Family Law with the exception of my own divorce in court!

                    At my divorce hearing, the attorneys want to state on the Final Draft of the Divorce Decree: Dissolution of Marriage due to Irreconcilable Differences. I am pleading with my attorney to state Dissolution of Marriage due to husband's PORN Addiction. I will fight this until my divorce states the truth and "not sweep his addiction under the carpet." Apparently, Irreconcilable Differences are stated because after I researched this in the Law Library, the truth will breach various confidentiality Laws!

                    My philosophy is not to embarass my husband's PORN addiction by making it "public record" but to state the truth! I feel that if more Divorce Decrees state the truth such as PORN Addiction, then our country can obtain an actual percentage rate of Marriages ending in Divorce due to PORN addiction, that way, if there is a survey regarding this, then perhaps our President who happens to "preach Family and Moral Values" can try to Ban the PORN and make it illegal, despite the Freedom of Speech Amendment! There needs to be attorneys who are willing to "Go to Bat", "set a precedent at at their state capitol! I'm just wondering how many marriages end in divorce due to PORN addiction from a spouse?

                    What is your Advice?
                    Last edited by Gia; 10-07-2007, 08:49 PM.

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                    • To Gia


                      I can tell you why that is, at least in my own jurisdiction.

                      We changed the law to have one ground; in my jurisdiction
                      it is 'irretrievable break down of marriage'...(paragraph 12)

                      Under that we have a SENTENCE OR TWO which defines that.

                      So you will see a divorce petition which will state something
                      like;

                      We were married in 1999 and the marriage went well, then
                      my husband began having affairs with other women.

                      or

                      After our marriage in 2001 my husband began drinking and
                      has become abusive to me.

                      We do that so as to avoid the titivation of the court staff
                      in reading people's private business over their lunch...

                      "Oh, look, I've got a good one!"

                      In Court, the wife will stand up and go into details until
                      the judge has enough, but for the document itself, one
                      sentence is suffiicent.


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                      • Originally posted by Gia View Post
                        To Sorrygirl,

                        A woman I met at a wives support group for husbands who are PORN addicts shared some valuable information regarding the Porn her husband was downloading onto the family computer they all shared.
                        Hi, I know this thread is from a long time ago but do you still have the details of the support group you mention? I've just started a support forum (in Australia) for women who learn that their partner access child pornography. Many thanks. Natalie

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                        • PartenSPEAK, do you have your website url available?

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                            • Yes it is true that child porn is so bad for anyone.If your husband do this activities he was goes to dog.He is the very bad person in the world.So u will avoid your husband.

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