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  • No sexual desire with husband :(

    I'm 19 and my husband is 22. We barely ever have sex. I have no sex drive at all! I give him hand jobs as regularly as possible to keep him happy. If we do end up having sex I feel like it's a chore. I have no problem orgasming, just wanting to have sex is the problem. We have tried toys, reading stories, watching porn, taking it slow, even considering bringing someone else into the bedroom. I personally can fantasise about another guy and be turned on and everything but when it comes to my husband....NOTHING

  • Is he attractive to you? Are you on the pill?
    "Those sowing seed with tears
    Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126

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    • I don't know...I guess I just don't see him that way. I still think he is good looking and all. But not "I want you to rip off all of my clothes." Yes I am.

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      • Originally posted by bobby3312 View Post
        Yes I am.
        The pill can really kill your sex drive. Did you feel like this even before the pill? Were you ever attracted to your husband?
        Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)

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        • I started taking the pill when I was 12/13 cause I was into competitive sports. I never had a problem when we first met. And as I said being turned on by other guys is no problems (only looking no touching, obviously I won't cheat).

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          • Has anything changed in his behavior, or appearance? Does he still romance you? This is really important to your relationship, and likely he can tell that something is wrong.

            You are still young - maybe he really isn't the right man for you?

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            • Nothing has really changed with him I think its me, I mean yeah the romance isn't as strong but he is definitely the man for me. I just need some advice for myself, for what I can do

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              • Is he physically not interesting, or is some emotional sense? Maybe you crave the excitement of someone new?At this point maybe counseling is the best bet. Living like isn't fair to either of you, and eventually one of you is likely to find what they are missing somewhere else.

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                • It must be physically because I don't love him any less. I know that is completely true about craving the excitement and someone/something new. Unfortunately we tried having an open relationship, and I did find someone and there was no problems with him at all

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                  • No sexual desire with husband

                    what medication are you taking?
                    are you on a cycle?
                    are you on birth control?

                    thanks

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                    • Is you husband OK with an open relationship? That might be the best solution.

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                      • Could you be depressed? or

                        Are you taking any anti-depressants? I know from experience that the combination of that and birth control can render you effectively asexual.

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                        • I am taking both anti-depressants and the pill.

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                          • Not really, I haven't spoken to him about that sort of thing.

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                            • I'm taking anti-depressants and the pill (birth control)

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