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  • How do I be a friend??

    Have this friend that has been cheating on her husband and this past weekend at a party for another friends son she kept telling the single women how lucky they were that they didn't have kids to tie them down. I was appauled by these comments as she kept repeating them over and over and her kids were there... How do I be a friend to someone that isn't being a very good mother at this point in her life?? I tried to tell her she should talk to someone as she goes through the divorce but she said she doesn't need to... I feel bad because I simply don't want to hear it...

  • I don't understand

    There's nothing you can do for her -- especially if she doesn't want to do anything for herself.

    I can't understand why she says that about her OWN kids ... that the single women should be glad that they don't have any kids to "tie them down".

    Sounds like she didn't want any kids from the start and she's saying they're "tying her down" from doing whatever it is she wants to do.

    If she were my friend, I would have told her the same thing YOU told her -- to talk to someone about that. But since she doesn't want to and if I don't want to hear her mouth about any of it, I'd just tell her, "Friend A, we've been friends for [X] number of years. I know you're going through a rough time, but I don't see how you say that about your children. If you can't talk to a therapist about things or don't think you need to, don't bring it to me."

    She has to see that she's going through something and she needs to deal with it .. you can't make her see that.

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