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    Saturday evening my hubby went to a party with his fellow police officers. I was at home alone with my one year old daughter. I had just fed and changed her and bent over and put her in her play pen. When I stood up I felt faint so was going to sit down when I blacked out. I came too about half an hour later and had wet myself and made a big mess on the carpet. I'm a diabetic on insulin so the first thing I thought of was low blood sugar. I tested my sugar and found it within normal range (for me). I called my hubby and told him, he said he was coming right home.

    When he got home I was feeling better so we had a snack, put Misako to bed and we were going to bed too. He was in the mood so I went in the bathroom to get ready when I passed out again. I woke up in an ambulance on the way to the hospital. The attendant said I was unconscious and my husband had called 911. When we got to the hospital they wheeled me into a treatment room and hooked me up to all the monitoring devices and the nurse was going to put a catheter in but I talked her out of it. I spent the rest of the night and most of Sunday there while they tested me for anything that could have caused me to faint. They could find nothing that would cause it so they are blaming it on a hypoglycemic event (low blood sugar caused by insulin). I don't believe it, I have been a diabetic for since I was 3 and I know when I am having a hypo. This was no hypo, something else is wrong. They also said that stress could cause fainting sometimes, I have been under a lot of stress and worry.

    They instructed me not to be alone for the next week and to do my normal routine if I felt good enough. I'm so worried that it could happen again when I'm alone with my daughter. I could drop her or maybe just faint and leave her without care.

    I'm also furious at my husband, the first thing he wanted to do when I got home from the hospital was to have sex. I never turn him down but this time I was so upset I started crying and couldn't stop for hours. I said a lot of bad things to him that I'm sorry for now but he hurt my feelings by being so insensitive. He will have to take a week off work to be with me and I'm not looking forward to it. We are barely speaking and I don't want to sleep with him.
    Not thinking about anything is Zen. Once you know this, walking, sitting, or lying down, everything you do is Zen.
    ― Bodhidharma

  • I wouldn't worry too much about hubby. He should come around and apologize. He seems a little slow on this sensitivity thing.

    Is it possible you had a problem from low sodium? Also, doesn't the body sometimes release extra glucose after something like fainting?
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia


    • Chaya, I'm an upbeat guy, but earlier this year I was having a really stressful time at work and feeling depressed and dejected. Nothing was going right. My worst day was on the most holy day of my faith when I had very public responsibilities and could not afford to be feeling down. Guess what my wife suggested...sex.

      A couple of months ago my wife's mother died. It was the saddest point in our entire marriage. The night she died we were sobbing and couldn't sleep. Not a very sexy time at all. Guess what we did anyway...yep, we did it. When our grandparents died it was the same thing.

      I agree with jns that your description of your husband is not of the most sensitive man in the world. At the same time, a lot of couples have sex at times when they're sad, stressed, or feeling bad about themselves. It allows us to draw from each others strength or even create strength where there was none. I remember after one funeral my wife literally said, "That was comforting." It works for us every time.

      I hadn't even known that sex could be used that way before I got married. Someone from the outside or with a different perspective might feel that certain times are inappropriate for sex. That may be true for them, but don't think there is ever a wrong time for a wife to come together with her husband. In fact, I think those times when sex is the furthest thing from our minds may be the best times because it gets us in touch with the more spiritual nature of the bond between man and woman. I think that the discomfort you have with it doesn't allow you to experience it that way. But from his perspective it may be very different. Don't be too hard on him.

      Maybe since he has a week off you could get him to slow down and take his time getting you where you need to be. Maybe you could turn this bad time into something that would strengthen your relationship.
      "Those sowing seed with tears
      Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126


      • My husband knows that I do not enjoy sex. He was only concerned with his own sexual gratification.

        As usual, I ended up apologizing for "my bad behavior" even though I know it was him that should be apologizing.

        I haven't had any more fainting spells. I've been monitoring my blood pressure, it is on the low side.
        Not thinking about anything is Zen. Once you know this, walking, sitting, or lying down, everything you do is Zen.
        ― Bodhidharma


        • Chaya…

          For the readers because it’s a bit confusing, you firstly said that you went to clean up, then passed out again and next you were in an ambulance, but then you said, you argued with him and cried for hours?

          In any event, stress can stop you from eating and you have to eat the right foods, enough food, and drink a lot of water, have you?

          I’m worried about you


          • Originally posted by chaya View Post
            He was only concerned with his own sexual gratification.
            In my opinion, the thing that makes this seem true is not the fact that he wanted to have sex at those awkward moments. It's that you are still obviously capable of enjoying sex, but he doesn't do the things that you need to make that happen - tickling, taking extra time, or whatever you need. That's the thing that boggles my mind. He's not off satisfying himself, cheating, or looking at pornography like a lot of selfish people would. He's coming to you with his needs, which I think is awesome, not selfish. But why won't he do things to please you?

            Have you asked him about that? He has flaws. We all have flaws. But, it seems like he really cares for you. I don't get the lack of attention. Does he get that women tend to take longer and need more attention to become ready? Just simple knowledge like that might make all the difference in the world. You can't just throw some lube in there and go all the time.

            I'm not asking you to answer me, but it just seems like you all don't communicate much. That's why I don't understand you either. If my stuff was hurting and sex was unpleasant I'd be talking to my wife. If we're intimate enough to see each others dirty underwear, raise a child together, and smash our privates together, then we're intimate enough to have a discussion about making it all pleasant - or as pleasant as possible.
            "Those sowing seed with tears
            Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126


            • Fainting is not normal. Please have it checked out. Usually a neurologist would be a good doctor to visit. They may do an MRI, EKG, etc. I fainted once and even though it was just a few seconds, the doctor had me do a bunch of test because she explained that fainting is not normal. If you were at the hospital, most likely they would have monitored the usual such as blood glucose, enzymes, minerals, enzymes, etc. If all were normal, it's even more important to check out what caused it since it seems like you were out for quiet some time (not just a minute or two).

              In regards to your husband's behavior, I am appalled. You blacked out for so long that an ambulance arrived at the house. I would say at least 20 minutes must have passed by. You don't know what the cause of it was and he wants you to engage in an activity that elevates your heart-rate! That's like asking somebody who just left the ER to go for a 4 mile run. And this is not even getting into the issue that he wants you to engage in a behavior that you do not enjoy when you are not feeling well. You have every right to be angry. Do not apologize. If you do, you are just telling him that his behavior is acceptable. Do you really want to teach him that?

              Stillness - I understand your view on sex during difficult times, but that really applies to times of stress and emotional upheavals. Sex and an orgasm can release hormones that make you feel better. It is very good for you. But when your body is under a physical stress, especially something that has not been identified, sex is probably no a good idea. What if it was caused by dehydration and/or low sodium. Do you think engaging in an activity that causes exertion and sweating a really good idea?
              Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)


              • According to her they checked her for anything that could cause fainting and concluded it was a hypglycemic event. When she protested they said it was stress and she acknowledged the stress and worry.

                I'm not saying this was the time for a marathon evening of rough erotic activities, but yes, I think anytime is a good time for sexual intimacy, sp346. I think that the stress and worry she complained about makes it particularly good timing. My guess is that if it was good for her she'd be into it.
                "Those sowing seed with tears
                Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126


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