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    Guest started a topic Vaginal tear keeps retearing. NEED HELP

    Vaginal tear keeps retearing. NEED HELP

    I posted on here under another thread but didn't really get any help. Does anyone know anything about having a small rip at the bottom of the entrance. It causes great pain at the beginning and during sex. Sometimes the pain is so bad that we can't have sex. So far 5 OBGYN's didn't know how to fix it. They just gave the "well you have to live with it, blah blah" response. The tear thats causing the pain will heal up if I don't have sex but it will just retear as soon as I do again. I can't go through life living like that. It's destroying my relationship because I can't have sex. Some lady on here said she went to a specialist. Is there any kind of specialist other than GYN? If so what are they called? Any help/advice is appreciated.
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  • shortone1988
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    Response to atskitty2: I'm not sure to be honest. I was examined but the gyno who did the checks only really felt my perineum and not any internal examination. I've been very sexually active since 21. Never had any issues before. Never struggled with girth being painful, certainly not with entry. I think they are recommended the dilator as a way of stopping me from tensing up on preparation for entry. I think if i can learn to switch off from the "here it comes, brace yourself" mind set when entered then my pelvic floor will naturally relax and reduce the chances of it happening repetitively. Here's hoping anyway. I've been using it for a week now and it certainly has helped a little already.

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  • jns
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    Wounds and tears should heal over time unless there is something else biologically wrong even in an area that is always moist.

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  • atskitty2
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    Are they saying that you have a smaller than typical vaginal canal? Is that why they're recommending these stretching techniques?

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  • shortone1988
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    Hi
    From reading all your posts it’s relieving to see I’m not alone with these struggles. Just a shame we have to suffer in the first place right?

    I’m 30 and I’ve been getting tears for a few years now. Prior to this I have been very sexually active since 21 and never had any issues. It began with my ex who is a tall stocky chap. 6ft6 and broad while I’m 5ft2. We tried everything to overcome it. Different positions, extra lube. Once he was inside the sex was completely fine as I relaxed and the area slightly numbed to the sensation, but it was the initial “here it comes” entry that was difficult. Sometimes him even just touching the entrance to my vagina was a huge “OW!!! No no no!!” I always tensed up with anxiety when the time came around which didn’t help the matter. It’s very hard to relax when you know you’re going to get a stinging sensation. Reverse cowgirl and some other positions too really helped but it started taking its toll on me that I couldn’t switch off to it and just jump straight into it. Certainly multiple sessions became a NO NO. Each time we had to prep for it and do a “brace yourself” sort of notion. Going to the toilet a few times after sex became painful too with stinging and bleeding. It took its toll on our relationship and we separated two years in. I started to associate sex with him as painful and it put me off.

    I visited a gyno and was advised to massage vaginal cream into the wound to keep it open, sort of stretch it out. It kept sealing up and then tearing again over and over. I tried that for a few months and no joy. If anything the repeat massaging caused it to continuously bleed and be irritated, as well as be in constant discomfort. Given that area, the wound is never dry enough to scab over and resealed due to legs always being close together. I’ve been tested for STI’s, changed diet, trialed coming off the pill to see if it helped my libido. TRIED EVERYTHING! No luck. It got to the point the area repeatedly teared while washing, sleeping in certain positions and stuff.

    I’ve recently had another gyno appointment and was suggested that I try a dilator for the next 5 weeks gradually each week going up a size in dilator to loosen me and get me more comfortable with average penis size entering. Sort of like ear stretching. I’ve started doing that and also looked into pelvic floor exercises to weaken the muscles. Over time I’ve tensed up with the anxiety of each sex session so often that I’ve tightened my pelvic floor muscles a huge amount which doesn’t help the situation. I believe weakening my pelvic floor will help me but that will take time.
    I’ve also looked into perineum massages that are recommended for pregnant women to prevent tears during labour. Again, early stages but I feel it could be beneficial long term. Am I doing the right thing??
    I’m single and not looking to sleep with anyone for a while so thankfully it allows me a long time to train my body. At the end of the day I fear the tear will continue to seal and reopen regardless of how many stretches and pelvic floor work I do, which frustrates me – as I’m sure it would all of you. What I would like to know though is if there is any way of putting a form of sealant on the wound while it’s open to prevent it from constantly healing and reopening. Any ideas? Appreciate responses from anyone.

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  • Northern lass
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    I have been searching for a solution to painful sex for five years and after self examination we realised that I had a tear that reopened each time. This needed surgery to remove the damaged tissue. It will not heal alone once it becomes damaged and removal is the only option. It's a case of finding the right doctor as over the last year I even had a doctor tell me it is possible to imagine pain! Yes he was a man! I have three months to heal now but fingers crossed this will work! Please don't put up with pain during sex it is not normal.
    Originally posted by Soloved View Post
    I wish more than anything that it was that simple. When you have tears in that area adding any kind of lubricant burns like crazy. Even if the tear is not fresh it tares after insertion and then in lubricant still present causes it to burn making it even more painful. We've tried using straight water which sometimes help because it doesn't burn like KY but then when it tears again during intercourse its still painful but sometimes I can keep going, sometimes I cant.

    Read the article if you have this problem too....scroll down to the bottom when it talks about secondary causes.

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  • ldavis
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    Hi I am just wondering if you knew the disadvantages of premarin....this drug is from pregnant horses' urine. These farmers keep the mares in a 5X3 stalls for six months of their pregnancy; and in order to keep their urine more concentrated they dehydrate them and only allow them to drink every three days. There are many other alternatives to this drug and these drugs are equally if not more effective than premarin. I wish there was a way to tell women about the affects of these drugs before they are prescribed. These horses live to be only 8 or 9 instead of the usual 20 and the surviving foals are sent to slaughter. PLEASE HELP STOP THIS!

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  • MusicalRose
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    After two months, I think the surgery has been a success!!! After the stitches fell out, I was instructed to begin using Premarin again every night. Then, instead of going back to sex right away, I was instructed to use a set of graduated vaginal dilators to get my body used to penetration again.

    BeautifulMess - find out where you can get a fissurectomy and try to get them to let you follow it up with Premarin cream. It worked for me. I am 21 and having the same problems. It also sounds like you might have trouble with primary vaginismus. I would suggest visiting Vaginismus.com for more information about dilators and teaching your body that sex doesn't have to hurt. There is a forum full of supportive women that are very helpful in getting each other through this tough time.

    Edit: BeautifulMess your story also sounds so much like mine with a big scary extra hold down there. Don't give up hope. You can find a solution.
    Last edited by MusicalRose; 02-07-2010, 05:54 PM. Reason: forgot something

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  • pinklilies
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    BeautifulMess,

    The same thing happened to me and it was do to the BC I was on. No matter which brand I switched to it always happened. Birth Control can cause vaginal dryness which definitely sucks and that would cause the tear. Everyone is different though so maybe talk to your doctor to see if she can switch you to a regular dose or a higher dose BC since right now you are on a low dose. Maybe that will help. I no longer take BC and I'm back to being myself. So I hope you find the right BC. Good Luck.

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  • BeautifulMess
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    PLEASE read...I'm So Upset

    I'm 21 years old...the pain after sex started when I was 17 years old. Everything was fine for the first 2 months I had sex with my boyfriend at the time (this was the first time I was ever having sex). After 2 months, I noticed blood after sex, blood eventually turned into throbbing burning stinging pain, which led to me to look at my vagina in a mirror and realize it was ripping. Now at 21 years old, it almost looks like I have an extra hole on the bottom of my vagina. I had sex 2 nights ago, and on that night, it burned so bad to pee that it took me 10 minutes to get it all out and I was crying the whole time and biting my lip. The emotional pain of being the single only girl I have ever met that can't have normal sex is so extreme it has pushed me into depression. I can only have sex for 30 mins max before I am so dried up inside that it becomes physically impossible to get anything inside (if you know what I mean). I know there has to be a lubrication problem there, because I can feel how dry I am during sex, and I stay bone dry for up to a week after sex. I have gone to 3 different gynocologists and planned parenthood. I have recieved every test in the book and everything always comes out fine. I have been taking Yaz since I was 16 and my newest gyno told me that the Yaz was probably the reason for the tearing and pain. She had me switch to lo estrin 24. I was soooo excited thinking I found a solution. But on my 3rd month of the new b/c, I had sex for the first time since the switch 2 nights ago, and have been crying because it was completely unsuccessful. Do you know how hard it is to get a 21 year old boy to understand that I can't have sex with them more than once a week because I have to heal for 7 days? I'm so young and haven't had a normal sexual experience since the first 2 months I ever had sex before the ripping started. I start to get into serious relationships with guys I start to fall for, and then I drop the bomb, "i can't have sex more than once a week". Needless to say, I have a lot of guy FRIENDS, but no one wants to put up with this at 21 and get in a relationship with someone with this issue. The worst part of it all, I can't talk to my parents about sex. My family just never speaks about anything sexual and there would be nothing more uncomfortable than for me to let my parents know I have sex, and then continue to talk to them about it. I'd rather die. So I have to sneak around and make up excuses why I have to go to the gyno. I have no one helping me and no one who understands. Please if anything has worked for any of you, please let me know what it is, I'm willing to try anything.

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  • pinklilies
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    The only time I had a tear down there was when I was on the pill. Something with the pill, no matter if I changed the brand, caused my skin to thin and it caused fissures. After being off BC for 4 years I haven't had any.

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  • MusicalRose
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    I know this topic is kind of old, but I have also tried Premarin to no avail.

    I am now recovering from the surgery, which my doctor called a fissurectomy, and I will be seeing her again this Friday to make sure I am sufficiently healed up to start inserting again.

    I will come back and post how I progress and let you know if it worked or not.

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  • fionnuala
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    vaginal tear

    Originally posted by cking784 View Post
    Did you ever find a solution? I have recently had a vaginal tear (not pregnancy related as many of the ones I read about are) and would be interested to learn what you have found out, if anything. Thanks!
    Hi, I recently just had my first vaginal tear, thank god for google and health forums, it was really comforting to see that I wasn't alone in my pain (i think my boyfriend is traumatised after hearing me screaming when peeing!!). Basically I have tried Vitamin E oil which seems to have really worked, I was almost giving up trying to find something to help as the doctor wasn't much use. Also, having a salt bath in warm water a couple of times a day has also helped. I just hope that when it is healed and I have sex again that I don't get another tear!

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  • waiting
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    I have the same issue.

    Just over a year ago I got a vaginal tear at the 6 o'clock position during intercourse. My gynecologist recommended estrogen cream which I tried for several months with no effect. The tear heals after a week or so, but always recurs with intercourse. I have never had any STDs, and have been checked.

    My gynecologist recommended surgery which I had where they removed the section that kept tearing. After surgery we waited 3 months before trying intercourse. The first time was slightly painful but I didn't tear, so we waited a few weeks and tried again, this time I tore.

    Has anyone else tried surgery and had it work or not work? It seems like that was the last option...

    Just before I got the first tear I did switch birth control pills to Yaz. I can't think of why that would matter, but several people have said that they had switched as well, so I've gone back to what I was taking before.

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  • simonesmom
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    Soloved and sgsmith2- did you resolve this problem? Mine sounds exactly the same even with foreplay and using lube and taking it slow... It hurts every time for about 7 years now... I'd love your resolutions if you have any. Thanks.

    "I have had this problem on and off for several years, it is horrible to go through. Everytime it happens I just feel like rolling over and dying because the emotional pain is unbearable. I love my husband so much and the last thing I want is to leave him unsatisfied. He is amazingly understanding but I personally can't take it any more. I was looking forward to bringing in our first married year together (It's New Years day) by making love and once again my body failed me and I feel horrible.....I was married before and went through this with someone who I now know I wasn't meant for and I just assumed it was mental because our mariage fell apart pretty quickly since I should never have married him in the first place.

    This time we couldn't be more perfect for each other and I know that its not a mental thing at all because he is the sexiest man on the planet to me and so sweet yet its still painful everytime we try to have sex.

    Well the point I was trying to make is I found a website that I am hoping will help."

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