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    I know I post alot, but I'm really in need of advice, I really don't have anyone to talk to....I dont know why, but I always feel the need to get compliments all the time, i hate my body. I'm not fat but I hate my figure because I'm not curvy...I fear death alot. I also hate the feeling of being alone, or with no one to talk to. And it's not that sometimes I don't want to be by myself, I don't want to feel so dependent and needy, but I don't know how to handle that. Sometimes I even get depressed for no reason. I know people say doing your favorite hobbies, which is drawing fashion sketches and looking up fashion info. especially 80s fashion are my favorite hobbies, helps with depression.And I do go outside for a walk, But other than that I don't know what else will help. Should I try to get out the house more? Should I see a physcotrist? I need advice, because I really don't know what to do. I just don't know exactly where to start...

    Btw...this isn't something that I've just been recently going through, I've been feeling this way since I was 8 years old.
    Love is my message.
    ~Michael Jackson~

  • i know how you feel. im alone a lot and i get the same way too. ive been depressed a long time since i was young too. my mom used to make me go to counselors when i was young n i didnt really understand why but as i got older my counselors but me on anti depressants and that just made me into a person that i didnt like very much. i got out of the house, hung out with friends, no matter what if i was alone for longer than an hour i would go into my depressed state again. but once you find someone that makes you happy be it your mom or a really good friend or even a bf you feel like you have a reason to live just for them. i got a dog and a cat and that helped a lot too. just keeping yourself occupied and keeping your morale up just dont get idle hands. like you said ur hobbies help maybe add a few more. clean house. go for more walks, just keep your head up and keep busy you'll feel better someday i hope. good luck

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    • Originally posted by hppacific View Post
      i know how you feel. im alone a lot and i get the same way too. ive been depressed a long time since i was young too. my mom used to make me go to counselors when i was young n i didnt really understand why but as i got older my counselors but me on anti depressants and that just made me into a person that i didnt like very much. i got out of the house, hung out with friends, no matter what if i was alone for longer than an hour i would go into my depressed state again. but once you find someone that makes you happy be it your mom or a really good friend or even a bf you feel like you have a reason to live just for them. i got a dog and a cat and that helped a lot too. just keeping yourself occupied and keeping your morale up just dont get idle hands. like you said ur hobbies help maybe add a few more. clean house. go for more walks, just keep your head up and keep busy you'll feel better someday i hope. good luck
      part of my problem is that I spend too much time around family, I want to get away...and cleaning up a lot only makes me more depressed because I do it like all that time and that's all my mother cares about, it gets really annoying and I get tired of doing it all the time...that's what makes it really hard to deal with
      Love is my message.
      ~Michael Jackson~

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      • sounds like my younger years!! i moved out at 17 and moved in with my bf. i seriously had never been happier. when i lived at home all my mom would do is yell and complain because her house wasnt spotless 24/7 and i was the one doing all the cleaning. my advice is get away for awhile. then when your family misses you when you come home to visit its a nice visit instead of complaints and cleaning. is there any friends you have out of town or out of state you can be room mates with and start over with a fresh start?

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        • Physical hobbies are good when it comes to being depressed, as are hobbies where you make something that you have to look at and remember later. By physical hobbies, I mean running, walking, hiking, bicycling, rowing, swimming, skiing and the like. The physical nature of breathing hard while exerting yourself helps take your mind off of what is depressing you and your body releases chemicals that make you feel better. Making something gives you the pride of accomplishment which can lead to greater self-assurance and self-reliance and lessen depression.
          I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
          ...
          Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

          From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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          • I agree about getting a lot of exercise and light, preferably outdoors. My depression gets worse in the winter when there's less light. Are you on antidepressants? They can help a lot. And so can a therapist. Are you in college? Often the school will have counsellors.

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            • I think you should go see a pych and get evaluated.
              They will let you know if you need theraphy or be on meds.
              I curently take meds and do theraphy.In the meantime just
              go hang out more.With your friends or have fun by yourself
              like I do.Since you like fashion start drawing some fashion ideas.
              Dance, music something to keep your mind from wonder. Your
              situation can't be worst that mine. I can bet on it. Good Luck

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              • Originally posted by MYALL99 View Post
                I think you should go see a pych and get evaluated.
                They will let you know if you need theraphy or be on meds.
                I curently take meds and do theraphy.In the meantime just
                go hang out more.With your friends or have fun by yourself
                like I do.Since you like fashion start drawing some fashion ideas.
                Dance, music something to keep your mind from wonder. Your
                situation can't be worst that mine. I can bet on it. Good Luck
                Thanks! I kind of want to get help without being put on meds...
                Love is my message.
                ~Michael Jackson~

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                • Originally posted by jenn89 View Post
                  I agree about getting a lot of exercise and light, preferably outdoors. My depression gets worse in the winter when there's less light. Are you on antidepressants? They can help a lot. And so can a therapist. Are you in college? Often the school will have counsellors.
                  And I do get plenty of exercise, my problem is that I feel closed off to the world because my mother never wants me to go places and I'm 18 years old. It's like she doesn't want me to be independent...And no I'm not on antidepressants, I kind of want to deal with this without using any meds... and yea I'm in school, but I don't know who to go to to get help, there are physcology teachers that may be able to help but I don't know how to contact them.
                  Love is my message.
                  ~Michael Jackson~

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                  • Hey gurl...ive been going through depression since i was 12.hard core depression..scuicidal ...in and out of phyciatric units... i feared fear itself....i was scared doctord couldnt help me..i was in some big messes and im now 20. Ican give you some really good advice right now that might ease your mind......1. your body, you haft to learn to love it, thats your body...so what if you aint no j.lo or a kardashian....dont dwell on it ..its not improtant in life! But if your really having a tuff time ..work on it....not for anyone but yourself. Thats another thing. 2 we are allllll scared of being alone....its a scary feeling..thats why god made us all companions and friends....if you think about it your never really alone...even if it feels like the world has turned their back on you....you got yourself. 3. you need to trust yourself....not your head...but your heart. You need to fight..and keep fighting through that depression.....were human were made to fight and move foward..you need someone to talk to blog on here! do not....go to a doctor for it...it will only make you dwell on it. which makes it hard for you to concentrate on the good things in life..believe me babe i kno..ive been there and back....im still fighting....i got over a cutting episode last week...honestly i dont know why i did it...i honestly coudnt tell you...i guess it was outta rage......listen all im trying to tell you is that the more you love yourslelf the bettter you have a chance of riding your demons. your gunna be ok. i mean from what i reAD..it not serious depression...its actuALly everyday normal girl stress..females all over stress about the same things.....just keep your mind on your hopes and dreams...dont look to much into the future...live day by day, it makes the future seem more interesting and exciting that waay....also keep on doin your fashion things...their coping mecognizms that seem to be wroking well......and as far as you being scared of death....WE ALL ARE ....it happens its dark and scary..we fear it becoue we sont knoe what it really is....and that OK to be scared.....its OK...I promise.....right me back gurl..i hpe you feel better and feel freee to talk to me anytime .. Julia

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                    • one more thing...i know you feel you have no freedom....becoue of your mom...but honestly by going out into the world and handling adult hood seems cool for a while...untill it gets to you that you haft to grow up no and take care of your responsibilites for the rest of your life!!!! now thats some scary sh**** lol...that mike make you even more depressed....it did to me...enjoy ur age and your mamaa really does know whats best ..shes only trying to protect your mental state of mind..... i think your just fristrated now...but take it easy ... <3

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                      • I know what you mean about getting more depressed in the winter when there is less daylight hours/and or sunlight depending on where you live. There are vitamins you can take ask your doctor or look it up online but I'm pretty sure that it's vitamin D. I know you said you didn't want to be on medication but I think vitamins are different. You can do research and figure out what foods contain the vitamins that helps depression if you aren't wanting to take pills or purchase pills.... I know it's bad for your skin but I found going to a tanning bed in the winter time helps. You may want to get a complete physical from your doctor, often times depression is a symtom of something else (such as thyroid problems) so if you haven't had one in awhile, a physical might not be a bad thing. Hang in there... it'll get better.

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                        • Originally posted by JuliaBarill View Post
                          one more thing...i know you feel you have no freedom....becoue of your mom...but honestly by going out into the world and handling adult hood seems cool for a while...untill it gets to you that you haft to grow up no and take care of your responsibilites for the rest of your life!!!! now thats some scary sh**** lol...that mike make you even more depressed....it did to me...enjoy ur age and your mamaa really does know whats best ..shes only trying to protect your mental state of mind..... i think your just fristrated now...but take it easy ... <3
                          I know you're being nice about my mother, but when i tell her i'm depressed all she does is yell and tell me i'm not. my mother is not really looking out because i can tell by the way she talks that she doesnt feel i should do things simply because i dont like em. and i know you may feel being on your on is more depressing, but in my opinion i'd like it better because i'd actually have responsibilities that i dont have now. i'm 18 and alot of people say enjoy being young, i do but at the same time you have to grow up, when are you to grow up if you always want to be young. reponsiblities are a real self esteem booster to me. my sister even admitted that her getting a job and paying bill and all, made her feel better like she was actually doing something and she belongs here on earth...i would really love to be able to do things on my own instead of depending on my parents.
                          Love is my message.
                          ~Michael Jackson~

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                          • Originally posted by collegegirl2010 View Post
                            I know you're being nice about my mother, but when i tell her i'm depressed all she does is yell and tell me i'm not. my mother is not really looking out because i can tell by the way she talks that she doesnt feel i should do things simply because i dont like em. and i know you may feel being on your on is more depressing, but in my opinion i'd like it better because i'd actually have responsibilities that i dont have now. i'm 18 and alot of people say enjoy being young, i do but at the same time you have to grow up, when are you to grow up if you always want to be young. reponsiblities are a real self esteem booster to me. my sister even admitted that her getting a job and paying bill and all, made her feel better like she was actually doing something and she belongs here on earth...i would really love to be able to do things on my own instead of depending on my parents.
                            i meant **she doesnt want me to do simply because she doesnt like em or it isnt here interest, like hanging out with friend, most of my friends mothers were good disciplinaries but still manage to let them have fun. she never wanted me to conversate with boys on the phone, when i was young but yet didnt talk to me about sex. the sex part isnt that bad because im still a virgin but it was still important.
                            Love is my message.
                            ~Michael Jackson~

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                            • no i understand girl. It is very nice being independent at times. As far as mom goes. My mother used to do the same thing. Still does. Screams nothnigs wrong with me and its all in my head. But i do kno this. Sometime parents dont wanna hear somthnigs wrong with their child. So they dont know how to handle it. So they simply deny it. As far as her not wanting you to talk to boys..normal.. as far a the birds and the bees, not normal.... maybe shes not comfortable educating you in that subjectv which isent very fair to you.... idk tell me what you think?

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