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  • Can Someone PLEASE help me!! :(

    I'm a 14 year old girl, I really need help because I'm embarrassed. I started growing hair at a really young age, by the time I was 10 I already had to shave my armpits and such, I was an early starter. I was overweight almost my whole life, and I still am, I haven't had my period yet and I have some of the symptoms of PCOS. I have hair on my lower back, a lot more than a girl should have, and on my stomach.. I have to shave almost everyday because it grows back SO fast. I don't feel normal, I also have random breakouts of acne, I'm depressed, and they're usually some of the symptoms of PCOS. But I got tested around 2 years ago with a blood test and it was found I don't have it. I haven't had my period yet but some time ago I was bleeding quite heavy for around 2 weeks, and this happened 2-3 times but on completely random times, never every month, I blamed it on breaking my hymen because I never had anything after it. I'm turning 15 in 7 months. All of my best friends have their periods already and it's not fair. Does anyone know what I should do? Is this all because i'm very overweight? I really need answers, please. Should I take another blood test?

  • Welcome carla to the forum. There are lots of folks here that will give you good of advice.

    First thing, take a deep breath and try to relax. Nothing you have described so far sounds worrisome. We'll try to help one thing at a time.

    Do you have a mother or other older woman you can talk to about this?

    All that hair - don't shave, that makes it worst. Try waxing. Everybody has different amounts of hair. And yes, there are women who are pretty hairy as well. Just part of being an unique individual. We are all built differently.

    Periods happening every month is not the norm for all, especially at your age. You may truly already have started your period if you had bleeding. It can be random. Your body is going through a lot of hormonal changes and it really takes a while to get into a rhythm. I am 40 and I still don't have regular periods, although it's a lot better than when I was a teenager. Stress can also throw things off.

    If you are still concerned, go see a gynecologists. They are the only ones who can make a definitive diagnosis.
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    • Shaving does not make hair grow in worse. It does make what grows a little more noticeable because as hairs get long they sort of shed off so they become thinner. When you shave you take the worn off end away and it may look thicker at first but the base actually isn't any thicker than before and it will wear right back to a narrow tip if you leave it. I have to shave around my belly button and my face once or twice a day to avoid several inch long black hairs. I did have a line between my breasts and some that would grow around the nipple but that has mostly stopped. They say hair that has become thick will never go back again so dunno. I tend to be the exception to every rule.

      Testing for PCOS is not very good. Sometimes the hormones are just a little off but still within normal. Unless you are dealing with a specialist they often ignore it. You definitely don't want to rely on a general doctor for such things. At least see a gynecologist. They are likely to also do an ultrasound of your reproductive organs.

      If you have bled more than once you have had your period. That much bleeding even once is probably your period and not the hymen breaking. No one has a perfect same time every month period. 21-35 days is the average range with a few being outside that and still not having anything wrong. When you first start having your period and occasionally throughout your life it can be unpredictable. You might go months without, especially if you are stressed or sick. Bleeding longer than usual is also not really a big deal at first. Your body has to sort out the hormones. Some doctors will go ahead and put you on birth control pills to regulate it but it's not a necessity. It's convenient and lightens flow which was great for me. I had random heavy periods every few months along with the male hair growth, acne, dandruff, cysts in my legs... I also gain a ton of weight every time I stop birth control. It took a few experimental ones to find what worked and you'll probably never be on hormonal birth control without some side effects but it eliminated all the symptoms except for most of the hair that had already come in dark. I never did get a positive diagnoses for anything out of a doctor and now I just don't see it worth going off pills so I end up with symptoms to let them do tests. They still may not find anything and I'd have to go through bleeding, acne, and weight gain again.

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      • Hi Carla! I don't think these are things that happen due to being overweight. To respond to a few things you mentioned:

        Acne breakouts are very normal for teenagers, because your hormones are changing a lot... I had them myself, even though I didn't even wear makeup or anything that could irritate my skin. Use a very mild, gentle soap - I find the best soap to be handmade soaps without any detergents, artificial fragrances, or other additives. Harsh soaps or detergents will dry your skin and cause it to overcompensate with oil production.

        I also remember feeling like I had an unusual amount of body hair when I was younger, especially facial hair. Sometimes that simply has to do with your heritage - some backgrounds like latino, Italian, etc just have more hair. You certainly aren't the only one your age worrying about body hair. Shaving every day can be a big pain in the butt - I would consider waxing. I use sugar wax for my facial hair, it's easy to work with, easy to clean up, and doesn't have to be hot like normal wax. It might sting quite a bit at first, but you get used to it, and you only have to do it once or twice a month.

        As for for period, they're VERY unpredictable for some girls in the beginning. Your hymen wouldn't bleed heavily for two weeks - the bleeding you experienced was almost certainly a period. Mine took a couple years to actually occur monthly, it was very irregular and unpredictable at first. There is nothing wrong at all with your period being irregular and a little slow at first, it sounds like you are perfectly normal :] I had very, VERY painful periods when I was your age and I started birth control around 16 to regulate my cycles. Your cycle will probably straighten itself out within the next couple years.

        It's funny, because I got my period at 11 years old, way before all my friends. They all laughed about the idea of having periods, not knowing I already had them. Don't be upset that your friends have their periods but you don't, theirs are probably very abnormal too. A few years down the road, you'll miss the days you didn't have periods ;P

        I don't know enough about PCOS to give you advice, unfortunately. If you're having symptoms, you should see a gynecologist.

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        • Ok i have no idea why i feel sick everynight at 9- whatever. I feel like im going to puck but i never do. I feel like ********. No one knows what it is. Im active and eating perfectly normal. Please help me and tell me why my body is being a pain in the ****** !!!

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