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    What do you do when you came to know that your DH has low sperm count? When we got hitched 3 years back, we had huge plans. 2 kids and a major house. We are both private financial specialists. We began TTC two years prior however we had any good fortune. We as of late went to a fertility center and we were looked up. The reason was his low sperm tally. He additionally has poor sperm motility. I know I ought to be more steady yet I can't resist feeling awful. I realize that he is most likely feeling deficient. I can't force myself to have this discussion with him. I needed our children to be our own. The two of us. I am frightened at the however of surrogate parenthood and IVF. I feel completely lost.

  • what do you do?

    I don't know if he had low sperm count or not as we were about to have him tested (dr said I was healthy)
    but then he said yes to adoption

    this child is our child
    I believe I love our child even more because I do not have the pain of childbirth associated with our child


    adoption is win- win
    a child becomes part of a family and a family has a child to raise

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    • Originally posted by Shimona View Post
      What do you do when you came to know that your DH has low sperm count? When we got hitched 3 years back, we had huge plans. 2 kids and a major house. We are both private financial specialists. We began TTC two years prior however we had any good fortune. We as of late went to a fertility center and we were looked up. The reason was his low sperm tally. He additionally has poor sperm motility. I know I ought to be more steady yet I can't resist feeling awful. I realize that he is most likely feeling deficient. I can't force myself to have this discussion with him. I needed our children to be our own. The two of us. I am frightened at the however of surrogate parenthood and IVF. I feel completely lost.
      Does he have any sperm that are of normal size and shape? If he does, doctors may be able to use IVF techniques to obtain fertilized eggs to implant in you. The doctors will have to tell you of the risks for such a procedure. In natural reproduction, the egg may reject many sperm before it allows one to penetrate its outer defenses. The reasons for this are not really known but may be due to incompatibility or irregularity of the sperm. Some IVF techniques include direct injection of the sperm contents into the egg thus bypassing that mechanism.

      Best wishes.
      I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
      ...
      Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

      From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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      • Originally posted by amy40 View Post
        what do you do?

        I don't know if he had low sperm count or not as we were about to have him tested (dr said I was healthy)
        but then he said yes to adoption

        this child is our child
        I believe I love our child even more because I do not have the pain of childbirth associated with our child


        adoption is win- win
        a child becomes part of a family and a family has a child to raise
        Awwwwwww That's really sweet dear ........... It's really nice to read that some people goes foe adoption as they want their own child rather than adoption ......... But your post will change my mind ........ Bless you!!!!!

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        • Originally posted by jns View Post

          Does he have any sperm that are of normal size and shape? If he does, doctors may be able to use IVF techniques to obtain fertilized eggs to implant in you. The doctors will have to tell you of the risks for such a procedure. In natural reproduction, the egg may reject many sperm before it allows one to penetrate its outer defenses. The reasons for this are not really known but may be due to incompatibility or irregularity of the sperm. Some IVF techniques include direct injection of the sperm contents into the egg thus bypassing that mechanism.

          Best wishes.
          Does he have any sperm that are of normal size and shape? What does it mean dear???? Seriously don't have any information about that ........... Will you please elaborate it???? It will help me to discuss with my expert.........

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          • Google search on [sperm morphology] and go to the images tab (upper left). Many if not most sperm are misshapen even in a man who is in his best condition (I have read that 8% properly shaped is a good number). The ones that should be counted in a strict sperm count are those that are of normal size and shape. A man's production gets worse with age. Simply having a lot of sperm is not enough, they have to be properly shaped. Lack of proper shape leads to motility problems. If your DH has properly shaped sperm, just not many of them, they can be sorted for conformity and one of the conforming ones can be used for injecting its DNA into one of your eggs. Look up the Wikipedia page on [intracytoplasmic sperm injection]. I have had a sperm count done at a lab and was shown a video that explained the counting technique.
            I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
            ...
            Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

            From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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            • Thanks jns for such a useful information .......... It really helps me a lot .........

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              • Originally posted by Shimona View Post
                Awwwwwww That's really sweet dear ........... It's really nice to read that some people goes foe adoption as they want their own child rather than adoption ......... But your post will change my mind ........ Bless you!!!!!
                that's sweet of you to say

                but WE were the fortunate ones as our motives were purely selfish.....to be a parents
                and also had little to no desire to be pregnant

                never looked into extraordinary medical means and believe it was meant for us to adopt
                and our long wait time prepared us to be the special, patient parents this extraordinary child deserves

                we are blessed that we are raising this child and never in a million years could my husband and I have "created"
                this child who has such awe of life......we just spent 5 hrs at a festival and 4 1/2 hrs were in the children area and our kid is just such a child still even though growing up, lots of joy just watching our kid BE

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                • Originally posted by amy40 View Post

                  that's sweet of you to say

                  but WE were the fortunate ones as our motives were purely selfish.....to be a parents
                  and also had little to no desire to be pregnant

                  never looked into extraordinary means as I believe since we didn't become pregnant, it was meant for us to adopt
                  and our long wait time prepared us to be the special, patient parents this extraordinary child deserves

                  we are blessed that we are raising this child and never in a million years could my husband and I have "created"
                  this child who has such awe of life......we just spent 5 hrs at a festival and 4 1/2 hrs were in the children area and our kid is just such a child still even though growing up, lots of joy just watching
                  Congratulations Dear ......... Its really great to know your story......... Bless you all ........ Just want to say it's better to be late than never ............ Doesn't matter what method we use .... Thanks for sharing your story ............. It really inspire others...........

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                  • Originally posted by Shimona View Post
                    Doesn't matter what method we use.
                    I guess I will never fully understand those who go through extraordinary medical means to be pregnant

                    am thankful our child doesn't have our DNA
                    I spent months of my childhood in the hospital from sicknesses and our child has had nothing more than colds/never even had to buy any antibiotics for our kid
                    I caught everything at school but our kid seems to have a super immune system
                    knock on wood

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                    • before jns posts "it's because there are more vaccines" today
                      don't think kids have a vaccine for pneumonia which landed me in hospital and I was/am allergic to lots of meds so I had trouble getting well

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                      • shimona
                        good luck on your journey to become a parent and welcome to WH!

                        it appears there are lots of women on here who have become pregnant with IVF and other methods so you WILL get support from those in the know how

                        and if you ever consider adoption, well you know who to ask

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                        • Originally posted by amy40 View Post

                          I guess I will never fully understand those who go through extraordinary medical means to be pregnant

                          am thankful our child doesn't have our DNA
                          I spent months of my childhood in the hospital from sicknesses and our child has had nothing more than colds/never even had to buy any antibiotics for our kid
                          I caught everything at school but our kid seems to have a super immune system
                          knock on wood
                          That's really great amy40 ........... God bless him .......... It's really nice to know that your baby is strong enough to fight with diseases ....... At present time children's have a very low immunity and they caught in viral very easily........ But you are very lucky that your ward is having such a strong immunity.....

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                          • Originally posted by amy40 View Post
                            shimona
                            good luck on your journey to become a parent and welcome to WH!

                            it appears there are lots of women on here who have become pregnant with IVF and other methods so you WILL get support from those in the know how

                            and if you ever consider adoption, well you know who to ask
                            Thanks for your lovely wishes dear.......... I know that I got a lots of support from here............ And ofcourse ........ you are always there as a adoption consultant

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                            • Originally posted by Shimona View Post
                              At present time children's have a very low immunity and they caught in viral very easily
                              hi shimona

                              I'm confused now. Do you already have children and are looking to add to your family?



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