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    Hello ladies! Am new on these forums. Well, me and my DH are TTC for quite long time that is 4 to 5 years and we are really hopeless that what's going on with us as every report is positive we are healthy and I am fertile enough I have no complications but still we are not conceiving. No idea what be our future. we have lost our all hopes and living our lives like dead people. No feelings no happiness. Need some moral support.

    #2
    I'm so sorry you're going through this. Are you currently still trying to conceive?
    I presume all the testing has been done...

    Have you considered adoption? I know that question is tough, & I am not meaning to be insensitive, as I realise that it is no consolation when you long for a child of your own.

    I wish I had answers. something to explain why and give you real peace and comfort. Sometimes there just is no understanding why things happen the way they do.

    And again, I don't mean to be insensitive, but please don't allow this to rob you of the joy you have in life. I know your mental and emotional impact must be great, & there's no denying it or pretending that you don't feel that way. I understand the discouragement. Just try not to be destroyed by this and have yourself depleted due to the setback. It could still happen, or maybe it won't.

    I think these emotions are akin to grief. Have you thought about trying some counselling to help you along the way?
    I always think, some things are out of my control, what CAN I control...what can I manage to minimise the impact? And the answer here is just your own perspective.
    If you are walking around like dead people, that's pretty depressed right?
    If I were you, that's what I would do. Or at least that would be my approach. Start there.

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      #3
      I don't know what may be a reason why you can't conceive. Maybe you and your husband are not compatible. Don't let that this depressive stage controls your life. Try to think about other options. It's not over yet. Maybe it's best to find a fertility clinic.

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        #4
        Dear Jenny. I apologize that you are in this condition. But this is life and we all go through some difficulties and face the harsh realities of life. Its great that you didn't keep it in you heart. Remember honey good things take time. All you need to do is stay positive and be patient. Have you consulted any fertility specialist?. It is important to know what is the cause of your problem. I would strongly suggest you to explore what options you have to overcome this adversity. You aren't aware of the possible solutions that are being provided to the couples who are unable to conceive. If you go to a fertility clinic they will be able to identify your issue. It would be better if you consult a doctor. No need to feel stressed hun. Maintain a healthy routine and exercise daily. You will surely be blessed. You deserve to be happy . Stay strong. My prayers are with you. Much Love xx

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          #5
          Hi Jenny, I endorse chloeesm's suggestions for you. You are not helpless. So, no need to be hopeless. Please, go to a doctor. Get yourself medically examined. Thoroughly. Both you and your partner. If anyone of you has any issue with fertility, then you may undergo some treatments. I've seen couples who were told explicitly that they can never have a child. And yet, they did. After years of struggle and not quitting. You must keep faith and strive in the direction. And that direction is medicine. It could also be that you have some higher level of risks associated with pregnancy (such are the cases I'm hearing of more, lately). In that case, a surrogate mother bears the child for you. Do you have any prior information regarding it? I do hope you get what you want. Happiness and love your way!

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            #6
            Well don't think like that dear. Life is just like this. These things are just the part of our lives. we don't have to give up so soon. Don't give up so soon dear. May you have many more in life my friend. There are allot of other methods. try them. It'll be good for you some day. Best of luck.

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              #7
              Life sometimes puts us on test. You will be surprised how much you can take. Don't give up because of that. If you are both healthy it will happen. Maybe you are really not compatible. In that case you can conceive but it takes tim. It's hard to wait, I know. Did you consider to contact fertility clinic? You don't have anything to lose. First, calm down and keep only good thoughts. You don't need a blak cloud over your head. Black thoughts will only make things worst. You will fell into depression. Talk to your husband, be each other a support. And try with specialized doctors. I wish you all the best.

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                #8
                Hey there Jenny! I feel so bad for you but as you are you fertile, what about your husband? Have you got him checked yet? It's possible that the problem is with him, maybe his sperm count or quality is low. If you both are fertile, then just go for IVF or Surrogacy, both will be able to help you out in this case. Good Luck! Much Love!

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                  #9
                  Hi there. How are you. I hope everything is fine. Well I know this. I can totally understand. My friend is suffering this as well. She is also unable to conceive. No problems with her. Still nothing happened for her. This is really disturbing situation. she don't know what to do my friend either. This is all destined just thought that way. Forget about natural conception. I know it's hard. You don't have to be worried. There are other methods as well. IVF , surrogacy. You can try anything. Best of luck. We all are with you.

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                    #10
                    Hey there! It feels like you both have stopped trying. Which isn't good! First of all get yourself checked by a professionalist as he/she will really be able to help you out. Secondly, if you have fertilised eggs why don't you opt for IVF or IUI? Both these methods are great ways of conceiving. I guess research on these and find a good clinic and go for it. Stay positive everything will go fine.

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                      #11
                      Hey Jenny! I am so sorry for all your troubles. Babies are really a blessing from God, and everyone deserves this blessing. You are trying from a long time, trust me i understand your pain, Even I tried 5 years and failed. But then a friend suggested me to go for surrogacy and now i have 2 beautiful babies from surrogacy. It's the most beautiful experience ever. Try to visit a fertility clinic and see what's best for you. IVF, IUI or surrogacy. An adoption is a good option too but having a child of your own is better. Good Luck! Much Love!

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                        #12
                        Hey there. I hope that you're doing great. I'm really sorry for your situation. You're right that when nothing works, life becomes hopeless. But hope is a thing that keeps a person get going. You should never lose it. The more you'll think negatively about it, the more things will get worse for you. I think you should change your doc too. Sometimes, going to only one doc for a long time, can be a thing causing problems. If you're not being conceive, then there must be a problem behind this. Maybe your doc isn't able to see it precisely. So try to change your doc. If still nothing works then don't waste your time anymore. Techniques like IVF and surrogacy, are really helping out women dealing with such issues. Ivf(Invitro fertilization) allows you to have children on your own. On the other hand surrogacy gives you a chance of having children through a surrogate. When I went to Ukraine for a survey for surrogacy, we observed that one of the clinics was giving the best treatment of all. The hygiene as well as the doctors and the staff, everything was just perfect there. Moreover They were allowing safe procedures. So if you decide to go for surrogacy at the end, I'll suggest you to go to Ukraine for this purpose. The clinic is really efficient and helpful. I hope that things get better for you. Take care of yourself. Much love.

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                          #13
                          Hi there. Welcome to this forum.I am trying for 2 years with no luck.Almost all treatments and taking medication when facing no positive test.I am leaving in Japan where surrogacy is illegal.and the other hand, my husband is ready to have this procedure but my family is not.we both want the child in every condition.when I knew with surrogacy we are genetically attached to the baby.I am really relaxed and excited too.after a long search, I found Ukraine clinic where packages are very reasonable.I was ready to go through surrogacy in the clinic of Ukraine.At the starting point, I was worried about how this procedure work.But finally, it's work and now I have beautiful baby Izmir.I am so happy after a long time and struggle I found her.she is a great blessing.

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                            #14
                            Hey there, don't lose hope yet. This is devastating but that does not mean there is no ray of hope. TTC can be really emotionally draining. There are a lot of other options out there. There is adoption. Then there is IVF. Surrogacy is also an option and the one I would recommend because I am a live successful example of it. Consider your options and stop getting depressed. Once you will get through this phase then trust me life will be all fairy tales. You will have your own baby soon. Best of luck.

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                              #15
                              Hey Jenny! Welcome to the forum! You really don’t need to be worried at all. It happens. Sooner or later you will be able to conceive. As you have stated that you are completely fertile than their might be chances of low sperm count or poor sperm. Often cause infertility problems. If this is so, then you must concern your fertility doctor and there is a solution of IVF or ICSI. These two are best solutions. But before you go for this procedure you might keep a check on few things that might be causing problems in conceiving. If you are under or overweight that often affects your chances of conceiving. Maintaining a healthy diet is always a good approach. Avoid drinking, smoking or low down your caffeine intake. This is important for both whether in men or women. Well, there are so many more causes that your doctor could explain to you much better. What you have to do is whether keeping a check on the habits you have been doing that might be going against. Or look for IVF treatment as if your doctor suggests you. Good luck.

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