Female ejaculation without orgasm?

[papillon]

Hi,

I'm 18 and have never had an orgasm. I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months now and I know he hates it that he can't make me orgasm - even though I know that to try and get there it has to be me who works out what feels best first.. I've always believed that it will happen one day - even if that's years into the future - but my boyfriend recently admitted he has doubts that I will ever have one, which has made me quite depressed...

Anyway I've recently bought a rampant rabbit vibrator and when using it just on my clit, quite a few times now after getting really turned on I've suddenly had the urge to wee, and this random liquid has come out (sorry to be graphic.) Having researched a bit it sounds just like the liquid that comes out during female ejaculation - it's definitely not wee (I go to the loo beforehand). But there's no orgasm when this happens... Has anyone else had this? Do you think this means I'm near to orgasm? I tend to stop after it cos the sexual tension always fades after it's happened! Any comments would be appreciated!

Thanks

[secrets_safe]

this has never happened to me sorry, but usually female ejaculation is accompanied with orgasm, at least thats what i always heard. infact for a female to ejaculate, i thinkt he orgasm has to be quite intense. this may not be 100 percent but im almost sure.

any dont worry, you are capable of orgasm, u shoud work on a clitoral orgasm first as they are generally easier to achieve. hope ive been a tad helpful.

[ch1cka]

What your orgasm sounds like is a g-spot orgasm. Women are able to experience two types of orgasms. The most common one is the clitoral orgasm (which sounds like the one you are aiming for) and the G-spot orgasm (which squirts fluid). G-spot simulation usually results in an initial feeling of needing to urinate, which may last a few seconds to 30 sec. This is because the spot is so close to the bladder. This fluid has no smell to it and is virtually clear to the sight. Also called the women's prostate, the g-spot swells with fluid when constant pressure is given to this area and is equivalent to the male prostate in the anus.


Nothing is wrong with you, you just experienced a different type of orgasm, some of which many women can't reach!

To reach a clitoral orgasm, try to focus on giving more stimulation to the clitoris during sex.

Hope this helped

[papillon]

Thank you so much for your replies.. however I'm not entirely sure you get the exact problem, ch1cka ? Are you saying I'm having an orgasm without actually feeling it? Cos when the random liquid comes out (after using the vibrator JUST on my clit - not on my g spot) there's no great feeling or anything. It just feels like liquid coming out :P I have no idea what an orgasm feels like cos I've never had one....

[Abscessed]

thank god i finally have someone with the exact same issue as me. im 23, been with my bf for 3 years. finally got frustrated of never being able to reach an orgasm with him so bought a rabbit vibrator. I am experiencing exactly your symptoms...cupful of clear liquid, release of sexual tension i guess...but no proper orgasm, shudders nothing. I cant insert the vibrator back inside once the liquid has been squirted so im guessing im done.
weird, cant really conclude what it is exactly.

[owlhunter]

Try an electric toothbrush on your c**t. For many women can work great.

Would be surprised if you ejac w/o haviing orgasm, my lady never does. Always O frist, then squirt.

When I started the relationship with my lady (about 4 years ago) I asked her did she have multiple Os? She said what do you mean. I said, well ... if you continue to stimulate yourself (she rarely had O from intercourse with her husband of 30 years), particularly when mastrubating, you can have more than one. She said, Oh, I'll try that.

Next time I saw her, she had a smile from ear to ear. Never knew it worked that way, I always stopped after one. Now she only stops having Os, whether masturbating or during sex, when she it totally exhuasted, near death.

Just relax, it will all come to you. Relax, relax, relax. And wear out the rabbit!

[Phoebee]

There is a good video series called "better sex" and they have a good bit on female orgasm. I had the problem where I tried to hard to have one and I just could not. I WISH I had the ability to ejaculate. DH and I tried but I can't get over the urge to pee and even tho the book says this is normal I can't "let it"

Anyway... A good vibe and a sexy book or whatever turns you on and don't make the big "O" your goal. In fact if you go slow and try to avoid it I think it helps. Penetration is rarely a good way to reach climax. A vibe in the right spot is much more likely to have the right effect.

Anyway, relax and Say "that feels good but I'm NOT going to climax" Keep doing things that feel good and repeat that.

I'm not sure I might be the wrong person to ask...

Good luck!

[kgearhar]

ejaculation without g-spot orgasm

I have the same issue! I can, fortunately, orgasm clitorally, but I can only ejaculate when the g-spot is massaged. Articles that I read only help with ejaculating if you orgasm, it's never help with orgasm if you ejaculate!

[cassie66]

ive alwaysgot very wet whe aroused and without an orgasm so not sureif thisis the same

[Ashlee T.]

Ive always had the g-spot orgasm. The first time, I thought I peed all over him. My spot for this is found when I'm on top riding back and forth. Works every time after I tell him to be still.

Sounds like your body may be climaxing....but perhaps you mind isnt allowing the full affect. For me it requires total freedom of the mind, total relaxation of the mind. If I think about it, I try too hard for it to happen and then it won't. And also, if he's unhappy that you're not "getting off" that's just adding to your mental pressure. Need to talk with him, tell him you're learning about your body and what it takes, and you need him to be patient. Otherwise you'll turn erotic pleasure into functional "I NEED to have an orgasm!".

Relax......perhaps try meditating to learn how to totally free your mind.