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  • Guide on how to do it

    Getting Ready and feeling in the mood (horny as hell)

    The most important part of preparation is relaxing and being horny. Doing both of those things at the same time is difficult, but very possible. Here are a few suggestions for getting in the anal sex mood:

    Have normal sex or masturbate first. Get out the immediate need for sex, but then do something that keeps you excited and wanting more. Neck, fondle, bathe, talk, read erotic stories, or something nice.

    Take a hot shower or bath, together is good. Something romantic, trusting and warm (if not horny) taking care of the feminine needs is very important.

    Talk about what is going to happen, taking it step by step and with all the assurance that loving care will be observed. Communication is key. Patience and persistence are critical.

    "Be excited: Lots of lube and lots of foreplay. Once he has you worked up enough...really....anything goes. the rest is all in your mind. relax, go slow and then soak in all the amazing sensations you will feel from head to toe!"

    Lubrication

    Next, some form of lubrication is absolutely required. Although spit or a wet ***** is often used and all you will see in the standard porn film, it isn't going to work well here at all.
    That anus, no matter how clean, does have things in it that do not belong in a vagina, and you are going to need more and more lube so you don't want him "double dipping" from anus to vagina and back. Spit is not a very good lubricant and will often leave the anus very sore afterwards which makes the next session that must less likely. I can't make this recommendation strongly enough: GET A QUALITY ANAL LUBRICANT. On line is the best.

    Play around with the area

    Don't try to just start slipping in; first play around with the anus and the area around it. If you like the look of it (as many do) and are both comfortable with the idea, get "bottoms up" and expose it to the light. If not, fumble around gently in the dark. Either way, use a well lubricated finger to massage the area around and at the entrance to the anus. If you are concerned with hygiene, wear a rubber glove or a condom on your finger(s). Keep adding lubrication and while one hand is "back there" the other hand should be loving, touching and squeezing everything else. Stay horny, stay excited, and take LOTs of time.

    Insert a little finger

    The first step is the hardest, so take the most time with it. After you are both ready, just hold his or your smallest finger gently against the opening of the anus and wait. Don't move the finger. Keep touching each other in other places and keep the mood hot, but don't worry about how long your finger is there. When you are ready, push with your anus as if you were trying to have a bowl movement; almost as if you were trying to push that finger back away from your anus. Maintain a slight pressure and when the time is right, the anus will open on its own and let the finger in. There may be a very slight cramp or discomfort. Hold still and ask him to hold absolutely still. Don't panic, think happy thoughts. That discomfort will pass. Give it a while and if it still hurts, then, stop.

    Slowly work and stretch

    Congratulate each other on your first anal penetration, maybe do it to each other simultaneously. Don't move a lot, but explore a bit and talk about how it feels. Find out what feels good together, and know that more and more will feel good as time passes. Try a little deeper, a bit to the left, right, up or down. After a while, pull the finger out and slowly push it back in. Notice how the penetration feels better. Try that a few more times if you like. Keep playing and touching. You should both be really hot and ready at this point. When you are ready to move on, start by stretching the opening. Gently pull your finger toward the front of the body so that the anus is stretched and starts to open behind your finger. Go slowly and increase pressure as you are able. You will feel the anus relax and open.

    Add more fingers or a thumb

    When the anus is open enough, slide in your next finger or a thumb. Continue to slowly work and stretch and be amazed and how wide it can be opened. I think it is important at this point to see or feel just how flexible the anus is. When properly relaxed and slowly stretched, your anus can accommodate even the largest ****. Prove that to yourselves before you continue. Bask in being a stretched anal lover. Keep playing and touching and stay horny. Many women have an orgasm at this point.

    Keep it open for a while

    Work your thumb and fingers round and then in and out while touching, loving, and when possible, having a couple of good orgasms. If you have one wear a butt plug for a few minutes before the penis-in-anal sex begins. This really helps to stretch out the anus and keep it from tightening up as quickly as it will if you don't keep the plug in for a while. Plug is not an absolute.

    Press and hold it

    Now you are ready for an anal ****ing. Find a position that works for you, there doesn't seem to be any one that is better than another, although a lot of women prefer a position that gives them control; on top, on all fours, or with him against a wall. Since you are taking your time and going VERY slow, you might want to try on your side, so you can both relax. Even after all that prep, take your time. Savour the feelings. Masturbate. Talk about how hot it looks or how it feels and how turned on this is making you. Help each other be excited while you wait for the penetration to happen. And it will happen almost on it's own, when the time is right.

    Slip slowly in

    When you are ready, push back a little as if you were trying to poo. Maintain that relaxed feeling, and just very gently push back, almost like you are trying to keep him out. When your anus is relaxed and ready, his penis will just slip in. There may be a little jolt or a cramp as it first enters, so it is very important the he be ready to stop before he goes to far. Hold still, try to relax, don't panic, and just give yourself time to start enjoying the feeling. His **** will feel hot, very filling and may twitch or pulse a bit no matter how hard he tries to hold still. If the discomfort doesn't pass after a minute or more, well, pull it out, wash it off and check on other methods of Relaxing or training for the next try.

    Enjoy your sweet anal sex

    Pretty much, that's it! Congratulations on your first anal sex ****.

    Do be sure to keep lubricated, the anus isn't like your vagina, it does not produce the same volume of lubrication. It's easy to add more; on the "back stroke" pour a bit more lube right on the opening of your anus and then shove it in with the next stroke; it won't slow you down much.

    A lot of women report that not only do they have orgasms during anal sex, but with other stimulation (masturbation or other clitoral stimulation) they have mind blowing orgasms. Or they do if the guy can last long enough, he won't the first few times. Keep in mind, this is also his first time in your bum and he may pop off before you are ready. If so, don't be embarrassed to finish off with a butt plug, fingers or vibrator. And speaking of vibrators, if you are enjoying "regular" anal sex, wait 'till you try anal sex with a vibrator in your *****... And your man is going to explode (!) for that one as well.

    Men: it is in your best interests this first time to make sure she has a good time. Pay lots of attention to her other special areas. Also, don't get all excited about getting deep, in past your glands for the fist time is enough if that is all she can take, it will get better and deeper: "Your nerve endings are on the glans (head) of your penis and the very outside edge of her anus. So I really don't get why most people do anal with the base-to-middle of their ****" If you cum and she wants more, give it to her with your thumb, fingers or whatever she requests.

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    • That was a long, yet helpful response-Truckstar lol.

      My experiences with anal sex weren't good. The guys I dated in college weren't unknowledgeable about lube and relaxing the ***. They said that women who can't take pain associated with anal sex are wimps, which I think is awful. Why would one want to see their partner in pain? These men could also be viewed as poor partners for being unaware on how to warm a woman up. I'm impressed that some men on here know how to be gentle and know that anal sex is a process.
      "Dating is like slow dancing. Let the man lead, or you will fall all over your feet"

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