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  • Monique Kova
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    Preparation is always the key. There are three essential ingredients required to enjoy anal sex; hygiene, lubrication, and total relaxation.

    Starting with hygiene, this is a no-brainer. Anal sex shouldn't be attempted just before or after deification as there will likely be some poop in the canal. A long soapy shower or bath beforehand is always recommended and some women even prefer an enema. During that time, use your own finger to gently probe deep inside and learn how to relax when doing so. Not only does it clean the canal, the touching, rubbing, and penetration can stimulate all those sensitive nerve endings at the entrance. This can also be used as a sensual foreplay technique. My partner and I will often bathe/shower together before the main event and we take turns exploring, probing, and deeply massaging each other's private parts. There should be no fecal matter or smell afterwards. To be safe, you can go from the vagina to the anus, but not the other way around.

    The second component is lubrication, lots of it. As mentioned in some of the above posts, silicon lubricants seem to work the best. The anus does not naturally produce enough lubrication for sex and you want to avoid any potential for tears or rawness that can eventually lead to subsequent pain and possible infection. Nothing will ruin the mood more than that.

    This is the part where the gentlemen must pay attention and put on their listening ears! If your partner is not totally relaxed before, during, and after anal sex, it may be your last session. Any guy who watches mainstream porn to learn about anal sex will fail, period. We have all seen clips where the guy with a monstrous penis forcibly plunges his manhood inside while the woman withers about in fake ecstasy. Trust me fellows, this is acting by paid performers and has nothing to do with an erotic pleasurable encounter.

    Long anal foreplay is best served with massaging and light probing starting with the tongue and then progressing to a finger. Allow the woman to relax and enjoy the sensations. Listen carefully to her body language and moans and don't be afraid to ask questions along the way. Trust me, if she is enjoying your technique, you can expect more in the future. Once you are both "ready", try some vaginal penetration first (but never after you have penetrated her anus).

    This next part is the most important guys especially if you are trying anal for the first time. Always remember, the woman has full control over position, penetration, depth, and rhythm. Let her find the most comfortable technique and go at her speed. Usually, the penetration of the penis head is the most critical stage. Allow her to push the head inside without you thrusting. Once the head slips inside, let her get used to the feeling. She will push down once she is ready and not before. If one technique doesn't work, transition into a different position.

    Before I met my current partner, I had anal sex a few times and always hated the experience. It was painful, unsatisfying, and not pleasurable in the slightest. We were together almost 4 years with the topic of anal sex never being discussed. Sure, he would tease my rosebud with his tongue, mouth and fingers during foreplay, but it never progressed to full penetration with his penis.

    I'll never forget the first time we had anal sex. That night we had hours of great passion. Loads of foreplay at first and just about every position imaginable. I lost count how many orgasms I had and we both passed out exhausted without even cleaning up afterwards. I remember waking up early that morning from an erotic dream. I must have been masturbating in my sleep since my ***** was drenched from our mixed juices from hours before and my fingers were soaked. I quietly continued my self-pleasure and started probing my rosebud. I was so sensitive at the time, I could feel an orgasm building.

    My partner was still sleeping on his back at the time but he had a partial erection (must be the morning pee thing, lol). At that time I couldn't help myself as I got closer to massage his balls and stroke his shaft. I then replaced my hands with my mouth and it didn't take long for him to become fully erect. By that time, he was partially awake but too tired to do anything but lay back motionless and enjoy my work.

    I'm not sure what got over me at that time, but I climbed on top of him and started rubbing his engorged head against my rosebud. It took very little pressure before it slipped inside. No pain, no fear, and my insatiable desire to have more increased. By the time he was fully inside with just me controlling the rhythm, I had the first of many orgasms. I had no idea what I was missing until then. Since that infamous morning, anal sex in all positions has become an incredible new addition to our sex lives.

    I hope this helps some of the hesitant people out there. This still doesn't mean anal sex is for everyone. But if there is any chance of enjoying this sensation, all the elements discussed is paramount.





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  • roshnikhanna
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    I became interested in anal sex from secretly watching a lot of porn in my early teen years. Then I spent time experimenting by myself to learn how it felt and how to enjoy it without pain or discomfort.

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  • WaveRider
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    Mino44,

    If you want to have anal sex with a woman, it'd be a good idea were to talk with her before you get in a bedroom.

    Right after I began dating the woman I'm seeing now, she asked if I had ever had anal sex. We were in a restaurant eating dinner. I told her that I hadn't. She seemed incredulous. She told me that she began having anal sex when she was about 19. She said that most of her friends and most of her college sorority sisters were doing anal sex. I got the impression that her sorority sisters and she did anal sex as a method of birth control.

    She told me that she'd do anal for me if I wanted. She explained it in detail. It's not a rushed process. It involves a lot of anal stimulation. She has to be ready for anal penetration. A lot of the right lubrication is required. She'll be in control until she's totally relaxed. Apparently my g/f is an anal sex expert.

    I think that she wants to take away my anal sex virginity. Maybe I'll accede. She'll still bring it up. She'll always tell me that men love it. But it isn't something that has interested me. Her vajayjay and mouth are more than perfect for me. But she does like her butt massaged and digital penetration when I'm between her legs.

    What you won't see in porn is the preparation involved.

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  • WaveRider
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    Hi muffin70,

    I, too, have never been interested in anal sex. It's still not an activity that I'd pursue. But if circumstances were right and my g/f really wanted it, I probably would. But I'd rather bang her vajayjay than bang her butt.

    It might just be that she wants to relive her her youth.

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  • muffin70
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    I don't think that anyone is going to learn about anal sex by watching porn..... I learnt very quickly that having sex (anal or otherwise) is very different in real life than it is in porn movies
    Anal sex has never interested me as I get enough satisfaction from Mrs M's vagaina and her bouncy breasts..... Mrs M has made it clear that she doesn't want anything in her back passage....

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  • Mino44
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    Thanks for the anal advice man!
    Last edited by jns; 05-11-2017, 05:22 AM. Reason: Outbound links and advertising are not allowed.

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  • WaveRider
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    I've never had anal sex. My g/f has...a lot. She has told me about it, undoubtedly to entice me in to having anal sex with her.

    Her first experience with anal sex was with one of her first boyfriends. She was in love with him. The first time was painful for her. They figured out how to do anal sex. Eventually she found it to be pleasurable.

    Before I get too far, the poster who wrote that feces is not stored in the anal canal is not entirely correct. I almost always will insert my well lubricated middle finger inside of her butt as far as I can get it while massaging the inner ridges of her vajayjay and licking her clit to explosive orgasm. More than once I've had to wash fecal matter off of my finger. In fact, at times I could feel it inside of her butt

    I've given my g/f an enema more than once. She was on meds that caused constipation. She couldn't give herself one. She asked me. She told me that when she was in college, most of her sorority sisters did anal sex. I'm guessing that anal sex was a whole lot better than getting knocked up. One of her sorority sisters told her to do an enema if she were going to have anal sex. I believe she told me that one of her boyfriends used to give her an enema before he had anal sex with her. Apparently he was more poop paranoid than was she. To me, that would be a huge turn off. Not the enema part, the part that enemas cause.

    If you were to listen to her, especially after she has finished a bottle of wine, you'd think you'd be talking to an anal sex expert. She has told me that she has had anal sex with about a half-dozen men, maybe a few more, most of whom lost interest in it after a few times. Lubrication is crucial. Silicon based lubrication is the best, at least according to her. She has asked me to buy a bottle and keep in handy for finger insertion.

    She loves her butt massaged. I do it most of the time without penetration. She said anal sex begins with butt massage. Then one well lubricated finger is very slowly inserted. When she's relaxed, another well lubricated finger is inserted. Apparently this is important: you apply lubrication to his member. I was told that you can't use too much.

    She said that her first few attempts went wrong for many reasons, one of which was that he tried to shove his member inside of her butt. She learned to take control. She initiated insertion and controlled how deeply he inserted his member until she was completely relaxed. Apparently, after that it's like vaginal sex.

    She's told me many, many times that men love anal sex. I know that she's told me that in order to entice me to try it with her. I think she wants to take away my anal sex virginity. But here's reality: at my age, I'm good for one. A couple hours later, I'm usually good for another shot. I know that after she cums many times, she wants vaginal penetration. If I were to have anal sex with her, it'd be a long wait until I was ready to bang her brains out. The other way would be to bang her brains out then a couple hours later do anal. But when she's had many orgasms and has had rough penetration (she loves rough sex) she's usually done for the evening. So I'd doubt that I could get her in the mood for anal sex

    Fecal matter is beyond extremely dangerous. In fact, it can kill. Septicemia is deadly. When patients suffer ruptured colons, they're rushed into surgery while pumped with strongest antibiotics. Feces in a vagina can cause a very severe infection. She told me that after anal sex, she insisted that men shower. She showered with them. She scrubbed them clean. She never trusted them to properly clean themselves. Only after she was certain that their members were clean would she allow them to have vaginal sex with her.

    From what my g/f has told me, men love anal sex, so it comes as no surprise that your husband wants to try it. I've recently read an article that was based upon research. It indicated that many more women are in to anal sex that was expected. The thesis was that women are more likely to admit to anal sex than pervious generations, that the percentages have remained close to constant, that women are more open about their sexuality.

    I asked my g/f why men and she love anal sex. She guessed that anal sex is tighter than vaginal sex. That could be; however, vaginas are very strong muscles. She has a very tight vajayjay. My guess in that her butt couldn't be tighter. She enjoys the feeling of sensual pressure caused by a man penetrating her anal orifice, and she especially enjoys the naughty aspect of it. She has told me that she's had explosive orgasms while a dude's member was deep inside of her butt and either he or she massaged her clit to orgasm.

    Since she as all but begged me to bang her butt, if circumstances were right, she might steal my anal virginity. I am curious because she has told me that men love anal sex. Another thing she's told me is that most of her middle-aged friends have anal sex with their husbands or boyfriends. She's told me that it's not taboo.

    Hence, my advice is if you're good with it and are knowledgeable of how to proceed, give it a try. I'm sure that it'd make your husband love and cherish you even more. Next time you're shopping in a Target or Walmart, venture down the feminine products aisle. Indirectly steer your husband to sexual lubricants. Look for silicon lubricants. Then look him in his eyes and tell him that you want him to bang your butt. I'd bet he'd immediately sport a huge woody.

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  • Mino44
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    I like to have anal sex with my gf... If you want some inspiration
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  • sexy brenda
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    I have never done anal ever in my whole married life with my husband. He never had the inclination to ask me, or me to ask him. All through my life I had never thought about such practices but I have read all about anal on this thread and on similar ones on this site and I agree that many are engaging doing this.
    At one time I would have thought the practice revolting but now have a clearer mind about it and should imagine it could be fun.
    I am, as, thuoc-giam-can; says ‘I'm happy with my "traditional" sex’ But who am I to criticize as being a married woman aged 51 who only took a lover into her life a year ago and has done several things that I would never have done only a year ago. It has taken me over a year to perform oral sex upon my lover, a practice that I also used to think revolting, but since I have preformed, giving it, I enjoy it immensely. So I would say to sweetsaltyruch listen to all who have given you advice here and make your mind up yourself.

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  • Funlife
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    In my country hardly can buy sex toys and is to use or sell prohibited. Anal sex is also prohibited in my country but I believes many practices secretly and enjoy secretly. Only small numbers of wives reported to police and landed their husband to lock-up and jail.

    I really admired those countries allowed and free to practise what they want, like and comfortable with.

    My country maybe due to diet we eat (Hot & Spicy), sex libido is quite high and sometime wife cannot accept her partner demands and some landed to police because of sex abuse.

    I did practise secretly and we really enjoy. My partner knows what to prepare, do before and after anal sex. Of course Lube is very import and always has a tube beside bed drawer for easy access.

    Anal Sex can be very painful (Sharp Pain) but worth to try and enjoy in a life time. Just like Thailand, Pataya T-Shirt printed" Before Die MUST Go To Pataya" I believe you know what is mean.
    Regardless how pain the first or second time, make yourself think positive and will enjoy after the second time. Do not think Negative. Think positive means, forget about pain you suffered before and how to overcome the pain in future. I believe many of our forum friends had advised, the technique, method, how, where, position and so on.

    Make yourself comfortable with, go along with your partner, give signal and pilot your partner, you take the control. I believe some male partners are too aggressive and caused major damage to anal sex session. He might be new as you. have a small chat when time is right and work together. Chat not necessary on the bed or during bed time. It can be anywhere (a bit privacy place when time and place is right). The best is next morning after having a fantastic sex session night before.

    Uncircumcised and circumcised penis might have some affect when start to enter the heaven hole. Some men has long fore skin etc. do some home work to find the best way. happy trying.

    Hi friend, I might change my USER name.

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  • thuoc-giam-can
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    Relax and slowly. You have to use a lot of lube though. Some guys suggest cooking oil but I've never tried it. Anyway, I'm happy with my "traditional" sex

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  • Claret
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    If your intimating that your friend brought back e-bola then you MUST contact the state run health care authorities immediately. If you EVEN think it, you must call them NOW.

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  • Helend
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    Hi to all! I had that anal sex you know and now I face a problem.
    I live in a small city in Ukraine not so far from Kiev where we know each other very well and we never discuss such things!
    I'm being just in panic! My friend Boris who's two weeks back from Africa where he worked on some oil depoisit had some symptoms such as stomach pain, high fever and ache in his muscles and we first thought that was sort of flu. But then he started vomiting blood. We called the emergency and they took him into hospital on suspicion of some malfunction in his stomach....
    Now I'm having endless hiccups, terrible headache and diarrhea... well and sore throat too! I suspect this is sort of some virus and maybe I got it.... well when we were in one bed.... when you know...... I had that anal sex for the first time..... May it be some infection passed in sex or what? I'm so scary and so nervous about it. Does anyone here have you any clue to it? I just hate it to go to the doctor and tell him these things you know.....

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  • Susan Sweetlove
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    Sweetsalty I agree with everything effy, WH and motorguy say.

    Sexual preferences and tastes vary so much between people so what works for one may not work for another. You've got to go with what feels good for you.

    Having said that, I just have to share than in my experience anal sex is the most intense and deeply satisfying experience I've ever had. I first tried anal at 17 (I'm 30 now) and I can't imagine sex without it. Don't get me wrong, I love vaginal too, but anal is so much more intense for me. I love the feeling of being penetrated and stretched, and that feeling is so much more intense with anal. Anal feels like I'm being penetrated to my deepest and most vulnerable core. I love to play with my clitoris while receiving anal. That always results in the deepest, most intense orgasms for me, I usually orgasm and squirt multiple times when I do that.

    I like to give myself an enema before anal sex so I know I'll be clean; I've never had a problem with that. Like everybody says, use lots of lube and go slow. I guess it's from my experience but I find my anus accepts penetration pretty easily now. It helps me to push down like I'm trying to poop when the penis first penetrates me. That seems to open the sphincter muscles up and makes the initial penetration easier. I find that my anus and rectum relax pretty quickly after that and there's no pain or discomfort then. If fact, I love to get pounded really deep and hard after that until I have an unbelievable orgasm.

    Just sharing my experience. It may not work for you but it's worth a try in my experience.

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  • Motorguy
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    Well Sweetsalty first of all lots of lube should be needed. The best thing to do is go to adult book store and get your self anal plugs they come in different sizes. Really small to pretty good size or even anal beads as well to play with. I stress have husband go really slow with a pinky finger begin sure his nails are trim short and clean. This process will take time it doesn't happen right away if you having lots of pain stop and try again later or another day till you can do anal without any pain. But like a say anal toys always work well to get a custom to feeling something in your anus. So good luck in your adventure with your husband in this position. When you do achieve this the orgasm can be very intense for you when it happens for you.

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