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  • The bigger question is why have the two of you not had sex in 8 years? To each their own, but assuming no major health issues, you are both missing out on a wonderful, fulfilling sex life. Maybe it just became less effort for each of you to take care of urges on your own.

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    • maybe she just to hint you what she hunger for. some woman don't talk, and some just want you to find-out in special ways and trigger her button. Now you found the trigger and is right time to trigger. see what type of porn movies she watching and that's what she wanted you to do on her. try out baby. Old is not a barrier. didn't do it is a big barrier. at her age maybe her vagina is quite dry, prepare lub.

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      • The issue isn't that she is watching porn or that either of you is masturbating. Most people nowadays watch porn and/or masturbate, I think. The issue is that she is watching porn instead of being intimate with you. The problem is with your relationship, not the porn or masturbation.

        Now, my husband and I can't go 8 days much less 8 years without sex. But there are times when we both just decide we want to be selfish but together. So, we will just be together in the bedroom and watch a porn movie while each of us masturbates. Sometimes that gets us in the mood and it becomes more, and sometimes it doesn't. But its actually very nice even when it doesn't. Of course we both enjoy watching each other. I could see that being a little uncomfortable for a couple that has never done that, but can you at least talk about it? I mean, what is the worst that could happen if you just suggested that you inadvertently saw what she looks at on her phone and that you also masturbate to satisfy that need - how about we find a way to do stuff together without pressure to do or be anything in particular? Is that too scary? If so, then you need professional counseling. Life is too short to go forever without any sexual intimacy with your partner. But if you can do what I suggested, it will lead to other activities again - I can almost guarantee you.

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        • Originally posted by cathygirl View Post
          The issue isn't that she is watching porn or that either of you is masturbating. Most people nowadays watch porn and/or masturbate, I think. The issue is that she is watching porn instead of being intimate with you. The problem is with your relationship, not the porn or masturbation.

          Now, my husband and I can't go 8 days much less 8 years without sex. But there are times when we both just decide we want to be selfish but together. So, we will just be together in the bedroom and watch a porn movie while each of us masturbates. Sometimes that gets us in the mood and it becomes more, and sometimes it doesn't. But its actually very nice even when it doesn't. Of course we both enjoy watching each other. I could see that being a little uncomfortable for a couple that has never done that, but can you at least talk about it? I mean, what is the worst that could happen if you just suggested that you inadvertently saw what she looks at on her phone and that you also masturbate to satisfy that need - how about we find a way to do stuff together without pressure to do or be anything in particular? Is that too scary? If so, then you need professional counseling. Life is too short to go forever without any sexual intimacy with your partner. But if you can do what I suggested, it will lead to other activities again - I can almost guarantee you.


          Yes I agree I am 51 years old and just got back to having regular sex a year ago I agree that porn is good when watching together. It can lead up to all sorts of different ways to try.
          I cannot go without sex nowadays for at least 3 times a week.

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          • Originally posted by NinthCaller View Post
            Hello everyone. My first post here and I'm looking forward to reading your thoughts.

            My wife and I have been married for 22 years. I'm 56 and she is 58. The last eight years have been without sex. I'm sure there are psychological reasons for the two of us to lose interest, but I know we still love each other very much. We really are each other's best friend.

            Like many couples with some extra weight we both snore when sleeping. So, in order to get some sleep, we sleep in different rooms.

            First up, confession time (and I'm embarrassed to do so)... once every few weeks, after going to bed, I masterbate. I usually do this while watching one of those short porn videos you can find on the Internet. As far as I know my wife may not be aware. Of course, she's no dummy either.

            Now, I'm somewhat of a geek and I like to make sure her smartphone is updated with the latest version of apps. To do so, I borrow her phone (with her knowledge and permission) and check to make sure everything is running correctly.

            A few days ago I was checking out her phone and discovered a couple of downloaded porn videos. I only glanced at one of a woman giving a man oral sex. I never mentioned to her what I found. I figure that's her private business.

            In an odd kind of way I was content in knowing she likes to watch some porn and probably touch herself and masterbate much like me.

            We've never watched porn together. In fact we haven't talked about it.

            My questions are, do many women like to catch a few minutes of erotica to help visually stimulate themselves? Is this something you share with your partner? Am I being selfish and narcissistic by privately masterbating? And finally, should I mention what I found?

            I want to thank you in advance for your honest opinion. Whether it's praise, opinion or disgust I'm open to read your thoughts.

            Joseph
            Yes I can tell you that after a new relationship at the age of 50 I began to view porn and I like to stimulate myself while watching. Until the age of 50 I had never been with another man but now find it rewarding. When I am alone I like to watch porn sites and enjoy then greatly I can see it can do no harm providing it does not interfere with your married sex life.

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            • Originally posted by cathygirl View Post
              The issue isn't that she is watching porn or that either of you is masturbating. Most people nowadays watch porn and/or masturbate, I think. The issue is that she is watching porn instead of being intimate with you. The problem is with your relationship, not the porn or masturbation.

              Now, my husband and I can't go 8 days much less 8 years without sex. But there are times when we both just decide we want to be selfish but together. So, we will just be together in the bedroom and watch a porn movie while each of us masturbates. Sometimes that gets us in the mood and it becomes more, and sometimes it doesn't. But its actually very nice even when it doesn't. Of course we both enjoy watching each other. I could see that being a little uncomfortable for a couple that has never done that, but can you at least talk about it? I mean, what is the worst that could happen if you just suggested that you inadvertently saw what she looks at on her phone and that you also masturbate to satisfy that need - how about we find a way to do stuff together without pressure to do or be anything in particular? Is that too scary? If so, then you need professional counseling. Life is too short to go forever without any sexual intimacy with your partner. But if you can do what I suggested, it will lead to other activities again - I can almost guarantee you.
              I agree with that there's no way me and wife could even go 8 days. The pass several years without being intimate with each other. I know we both would have gone stir crazy without sex with each other. The porn in the bedroom just adds to all the sexually fun with each other as we watch it together. There's no sneaking around to do so what would be the point.
              When out driving always turn left. Then, should you become lost, you can find your way home by reversing the procedure and always turning right.

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