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Ever Been Super Horny But Weren't Sure Why? Let's Talk Female Libido!

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  • husband once told me "all you think about is sex"
    however, believe that I'm normal, not high sex
    it's just that "he" doesn't think about sex much

    if one rarely has sex, how could one not think about what they're missing?

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    • FeelingWeird if I were you, I'd just count this as another reminder that your medical provider should be aligned with your philosophy of care. Simply don't continue care with a doctor or nurse that doesn't show you care and respect. A professional will be able to have their own opinions, and recognize that they are opinions, and still treat you as a patient that deserves to be heard, believed and treated appropriately.

      There's a lot of research out there about sex drive, male and female sexuality, etc. There's a lot of opinions, thoughts and everyone can have their ideas. Good. That's all a good thing.

      If you feel any sort of hesitation to discuss anything with a provider, for fear they will not accept your concerns, you simply need to find a new provider. It's not acceptable. And as jns says above, water off a duck's back. Who cares what someone is writing a book about? There are books written about all sorts of things. There are medical professionals with ideas and theories about all sorts of thigs. You do you. Do what's best for you, and choose a provider based on their treatment of you as an individual, whole person.

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      • Originally posted by atskitty2 View Post
        FeelingWeird if I were you, I'd just count this as another reminder that your medical provider should be aligned with your philosophy of care. Simply don't continue care with a doctor or nurse that doesn't show you care and respect. A professional will be able to have their own opinions, and recognize that they are opinions, and still treat you as a patient that deserves to be heard, believed and treated appropriately.

        There's a lot of research out there about sex drive, male and female sexuality, etc. There's a lot of opinions, thoughts and everyone can have their ideas. Good. That's all a good thing.

        If you feel any sort of hesitation to discuss anything with a provider, for fear they will not accept your concerns, you simply need to find a new provider. It's not acceptable. And as jns says above, water off a duck's back. Who cares what someone is writing a book about? There are books written about all sorts of things. There are medical professionals with ideas and theories about all sorts of thigs. You do you. Do what's best for you, and choose a provider based on their treatment of you as an individual, whole person.
        I mean, my doctor is great, and we were able to talk about this stuff with no issues and she was very supportive. I want to talk to her more about it this year now that I am more comfortable, although last time she did say if I wanted to get deeper into this I may want to go to a sex therapist and she could refer me. But I am reluctant to talk to a complete stranger about this for fear I will get someone who is not as accepting. I knew my doctor for a few years before I brought this up and knew she was pretty chill and accepting. I just still have a lot of trauma tied up in this subject that I am working through, and I don't need setbacks. I just wish every "expert" didn't say something different. Doing a lot of my own research and just getting confused LOL.

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        • FeelingWeird I think generally, by design, sex therapists will be open-minded, understanding and rather liberal in their approach to discussion and dialogue on all sexual matters. Again, you can always "interview" a provider prior to seeing them for treatment.

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          • I have had an unusually high libido all my life (I am 53 now and past menopause 2 years now). I did suffer sexual abuse as a child and struggled with sex addiction for many, many years. I have been in recovery for said condition for over a year now. I still have a super-high libido, my poor husband struggles to keep me satisfied. He is worried that if he does not keep me satisfied, I will cheat on him. I try to assure him that he satisfies me quiet well (after a string of 5 days in a row of morning and evening sex). I am also very fit and eat a very clean diet and weight train, I sometimes wonder if this has anything to do with it as I have been fitness minded my whole life and started working out in my early 20's. Other than that, I never understood my raging libido. I still don't sometimes. Interesting, though, several months ago I began taking testosterone boosters for my weight training goals. I took them for 2 months and while my giant were worth it, it curiously made my libido tank while I was on it. I couldn't even squirt and suffered vaginal dryness. Weird. As soon as I went off them, my libido came back full force. So funny as supposedly women take t-boosters to increase their libido, only they made mine tank.
            Also, for the record, I don't really enjoy morning sex as much as I do evening sex or middle of the night sex. But I just can't let my husbands morning reaction go and usually end up fixing his situation (when he will let me, that is haha).
            So, my opinion on the matter is this: as long as your sexuality is not negatively interfering with your life, enjoy the libido you have. If you do not have one, you are missing out on one of the most wonderful experiences in life. Get on meds to help increase your libido, you are short changing your life if you don't.

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            • My brother and his girlfriend had a lot of problems regarding their sex life. First of all, she had some gynecological problems, and she could not have children. After that, my brother suffered a lot, which served as the trigger to his actual situation. Unfortunately, he was diagnosed with erectile dysfunction.

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              • When I don't see my husband for a long time, my libido is huge.

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                • It seems that in all the time we have been together, I have already got used to regular sex. When my husband is away on a business trip for a long time, I suffer a lot. Of course, he gave me some 18+ toys that comforted me. Moreover, I found one helpful article for all people with libido problems; if you are interested, read here. Increased or decreased libido is always wrong. It is best to see a doctor for a recommendation.
                  Last edited by jns; 10-14-2021, 11:00 PM. Reason: Outbound links are not allowed.

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                  • My libido has been ridiculously low for a few years now (I'm blaming perimenopause at this point until my OBGYN gives me a better answer -- and I am working on getting one). The two times I was at my horniest, though, was when I was ready to conceive my youngest (so 12 years ago) -- I had no idea that sex with a goal in mind could turn me on. And the second was after I discovered an enjoyment (and a need) for BDSM in my life. Exploring kink was so excited that I wanted as much kinky sex as I could get. I'm looking forward to returning to some semblance of horny times.

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