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Ever Been Super Horny But Weren't Sure Why? Let's Talk Female Libido!

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  • OMGoodness Yes especially at night, I was chatting with my boyfriend one night & I told him I was & He was like you always are & I'm like I know & I don't know why.

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    • Hi guy thanks for the add. My partner has lost her sex drive are there any natural remedies anyone can help with she very dry around her private area sex is no longer what makes a woman get back her sex drive. Any help will be appreciated. Thanks Matthew

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      • Matt73

        Without knowing anything about her situation (age, health, previous attitudes toward sex, etc.), the remedy is a little hard to pinpoint.

        Decreased sex drive and vaginal dryness can have a lot of root causes — from hormonal to physical-health-related, to mental, emotional, life situation, or even age-related reasons.

        While the simplest solution to vaginal dryness is typically the use of a vaginal moisturizer or lubricant during sex, that doesn’t generally “cure” low libido. It makes sex easier/possible, and sometimes that’s enough to trigger a short boost in a person’s sexual drive for as long as the sex lasts — but not always.

        I’ve dealt with low libido on and off (usually due to exhaustion, which is partly health-related, partly work/life related, and due to midlife hormones most likely), and I might not be in the mood until things really get going. In that way, lube can help a lot. But it doesn’t “fix” a person’s sex drive over the long term (that I’ve found). Honestly, I could probably go for months without sex and not even bat an eye or care in the slightest. It’s not at the forefront of my mind the vast majority of the time. I can get in the mood, but I don’t do it on my own out of the blue, if that makes sense.

        Have you tried talking to her about it? That might be the first place to start — not in an accusing way like “How come you’re never horny anymore?” but more from a place of concern.

        The words you choose are up to you, but I think it’s a meaningful conversation to have.
        Last edited by Alison H.; 07-19-2022, 08:52 AM. Reason: fixing weird formatting...

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        • Interesting about "morning hornies". I thought I was the only woman to experience those. I literally have something analogical to morning erections that guys have, I wake up with my genitalia swollen and I tend to have erotic dreams in the morning. I can wake up masturbating too.

          About experts, unfortunately some seem to still live in the middle ages. I had one gynecologist tell me I'm crazy, because I said that I have a high libido and because my clitoris hurt after certain hormonal medication. I don't know why she would rather tell the patient she is crazy than admit that hormonal medications have sexual side effects - as said in the thread, she is deep inside the social norms from the middle ages and wrongly generalises her own experiences to others.

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          • Originally posted by Space-Traveller View Post
            Interesting about "morning hornies". I thought I was the only woman to experience those. I literally have something analogical to morning erections that guys have, I wake up with my genitalia swollen and I tend to have erotic dreams in the morning. I can wake up masturbating too.

            About experts, unfortunately some seem to still live in the middle ages. I had one gynecologist tell me I'm crazy, because I said that I have a high libido and because my clitoris hurt after certain hormonal medication. I don't know why she would rather tell the patient she is crazy than admit that hormonal medications have sexual side effects - as said in the thread, she is deep inside the social norms from the middle ages and wrongly generalises her own experiences to others.
            As far as I can tell, there seems to be an analog for women of almost every thing that men experience about sex (or maybe it is vice versa). Women can have the equivalent of wet dreams for guys.
            I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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            Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

            From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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            • Originally posted by jns View Post

              As far as I can tell, there seems to be an analog for women of almost every thing that men experience about sex (or maybe it is vice versa). Women can have the equivalent of wet dreams for guys.
              We're all human and there are a lot of similarities in how male and female bodies work.

              Well, yeah, I have had wet dreams. I think people don't talk about it often, because it's less noticable when a woman is aroused or gets more vaginal fluid. To me it's quite noticable, but an erect penis or an ejaculation are visible in a very foolproof manner.

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