As someone who takes medication regularly, I have times when it seems to take forever to climax. When this happens, I have apologized to my husband for "taking so long."
He has always responded by telling me that needs no apology and that he's happy with whatever happens blah blah blah. I'm sure my need to apologize is related to some basic self-esteem issues and I try not to worry about it too much.
Well...the roles were reversed recently when he (for various reasons I won't go in to here) started taking longer than usual. It would never occur to me to complain about a longer bout of sex. But hearing him apologize for "taking so long" really made me think about what I'd been saying and how it impacted him.
I'm wondering if this is a common theme among long-term couples--feeling like one should apologize for taking a long time (not counting deliberate edging, obviously) or wishing one's partner would or would not acknowledge time frame as a factor in overall sexual enjoyment.
Have you ever apologized for taking too long?
Has your partner?
I'd love to hear more about this from others.
He has always responded by telling me that needs no apology and that he's happy with whatever happens blah blah blah. I'm sure my need to apologize is related to some basic self-esteem issues and I try not to worry about it too much.
Well...the roles were reversed recently when he (for various reasons I won't go in to here) started taking longer than usual. It would never occur to me to complain about a longer bout of sex. But hearing him apologize for "taking so long" really made me think about what I'd been saying and how it impacted him.
I'm wondering if this is a common theme among long-term couples--feeling like one should apologize for taking a long time (not counting deliberate edging, obviously) or wishing one's partner would or would not acknowledge time frame as a factor in overall sexual enjoyment.
Have you ever apologized for taking too long?
Has your partner?
I'd love to hear more about this from others.
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