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  • G-Wagon
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    jns . Yes. Many times. I do not mind fingers at all.
    Last edited by G-Wagon; 10-08-2022, 12:48 AM.

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  • MrMr
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    I’ve never seen a vagina i wasn’t massively turned on by

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  • jns
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    Originally posted by G-Wagon View Post
    To be fair. I do not give blowjobs. I have this fear that i will pick up hpv and get throat cancer or some other disease..I also don't t like it when a guy goes down on me. I over think the whole thing. Like is it smelly, is it aesthetically pleasing to look at. Does it taste nice? I feel like it would be an embarasment so i just don't do it..i also don't enjoy oral sex but i guess it's because of all of the above. I tell a guy from the beginning of a relationship that oral sex is a big no no.
    Originally posted by G-Wagon View Post

    MrMr how would you describe the taste. Especially the juices that come out
    Most taste and scent is from the past. If a women has cleaned properly, there is very little scent and taste. It is so much that way that I prefer a slightly less clean version so that there is some scent and taste. I don't like a soapy scent or taste. Sometimes I find a sticky liquid, clear to white and almost gel. It is also tasteless and odorless by itself. Ingestion doesn't cause any problems. Hair can trap some scent. Again, properly cleaned, it is no problem for me.

    Personally I find a woman's private parts aesthetically pleasing. The smoothness of the legs and buttocks transition into that region. There are a lot of parts that add to the mystery.

    G-Wagon, since you don't like receiving oral, have you ever had a man use his fingers very gently to bring you to an orgasm?

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  • MrMr
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    Originally posted by G-Wagon View Post

    MrMr how would you describe the taste. Especially the juices that come out
    It doesn’t taste like anything specific. It’s just a part of the enjoyed sexual experience

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  • G-Wagon
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    Originally posted by MrMr View Post
    I personally love the taste. But doing something your partner enjoys is such a turn on
    MrMr how would you describe the taste. Especially the juices that come out

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  • MrMr
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    I personally love the taste. But doing something your partner enjoys is such a turn on

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  • feministguy
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    Originally posted by Terra84 View Post
    He says he just doesn't like doing it
    You might consider seeing if he will perform oral on you if you have your underwear on.

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  • G-Wagon
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    To be fair. I do not give blowjobs. I have this fear that i will pick up hpv and get throat cancer or some other disease..I also don't t like it when a guy goes down on me. I over think the whole thing. Like is it smelly, is it aesthetically pleasing to look at. Does it taste nice? I feel like it would be an embarasment so i just don't do it..i also don't enjoy oral sex but i guess it's because of all of the above. I tell a guy from the beginning of a relationship that oral sex is a big no no.

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  • Gena G.
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    I remember asking my boyfriend in college if he liked the taste when going down on women and he said at first he didn't but after doing it for a while he associates the taste with sex and being aroused so now he likes it. I would imagine it could be similar with your boyfriend? If he never does it, he'll never get used to it. He should at least try because he knows it would make you happy. It seems selfish not to even try imo.

    I also think some men have a really old fashioned view of giving head that it's somehow like not a masculine thing to do? (lollll) There's that episode of The Sopranos where everyone finds out this guy likes eating ***** and he's mercilessly teased.

    Obviously no one should do something sexual that they're not into but if the roles were reversed I'm sure you would at least try to find a compromise with him and do the thing he wanted to do. Definitely sit him down and explain how this is making you feel. A sexual relationship that is one sided sucks.

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  • Kayla Lords
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    So I agree with what everyone has said about it possibly being an aversion from something that happened in the past, but I would also just say that sometimes we don't like certain sex acts without there being a reason. Everyone has their own limits and boundaries, and it's important to be mindful of the line between encouragement and coercion.

    Definitely try the flavored lube -- that's a great workaround for a lot of people and a great sign that he's suggested it. But if he still doesn't enjoy it, even with all the small steps and help, his lack of desire for it has to be respected. At that point you can decide for yourself if his lack of giving is a deal breaker for you.

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