Do you fantasize about being with someone of a different race?

[Alison H.]

I don't know that I've ever fantasized about it, but I have been attracted to (and dated) people of ethnicities other than my own. I know there have been strides here (in the US) as far as social "acceptance" (I hate that term but not sure how else to describe it) but a LOT of that is dependent upon the area too — some areas of the country, it doesn't raise so much as a glimpse, in other locations, folks will stare/make comments (as you describe happening in South Africa).

I think that those attitudes become, unfortunately, ingrained in a society for so long that it takes decades and in some cases centuries for them to finally lose their hold. A person should be able to pursue a relationship with another consenting adult regardless of ethnicity, background, or any other factor.

I think people are beautiful, each in their own ways — in part because of their ethnicity (whatever it happens to be) but also because of the way that shapes their background and experience, too, influencing who they are as a person. It's fascinating to me, if that makes sense.

[jns]

I am a black woman and live in South Africa. Because of the history of racial segregation it is very very rare to see a mixed couple. So much so that people usually stare and make snide comments when they spot one. I have wanted nothing more than to be with someone of a different race mostly European.

Welcome to WH Interactive Forums. I think that you would maybe have an easier time to find a partner of a different race in some other country from what you are describing.

[G-Wagon]

I am a black woman and live in South Africa. Because of the history of racial segregation it is very very rare to see a mixed couple. So much so that people usually stare and make snide comments when they spot one. I have wanted nothing more than to be with someone of a different race mostly European.