purity culture

[atskitty2]

I grew up that way also, and like you, saw things very differently in my early twenties and began to remove myself from those values. I do not believe it was abusive, no, but I do believe it is an extremely unhealthy way to raise children, especially young women. There is guilt associated with this "teaching", fear, as you mentioned, and many other factors that negatively impact our sexuality and relationships.

[EmptyNester]

I wouldn't categorize it as abuse. But, I certainly believe that for any relationship to be completely heathly, sexual compatibility is very important. So that abstinence until marriage mindset of religion is very narrow minded. Oh.. and then you are looked down upon when the relationship crashes and you divorce.

[victoriachan365]

Does anybody think that purity culture is a form of abuse? I was raised in a southern baptist home and grew up in purity culture. Thankfully I never fell completely other the spell, but unfortunately there was a time in my life when I thought that abstenance till marriage was the right way, and sadly I'd judged other girls in high school for being sexually active. I think this was because of the fear-instilling tactics that the pastor's wife had used during youth group. She basically told us that sex was physically exhausting and that orgasms weren't real. It wasn't till I went to college that my views completely changed.